Crying in front of people?
By fawcey
@fawcey (926)
Australia
May 28, 2007 11:52pm CST
Do you feel embarressed if you cry in front of other people. Does it matter if they are people you know or if they are strangers? Do you try to hold it in and not cry as you think it is a weakness? There are certain people I would not like to cry in front of as I would not like them to know how I feel, but other than that if I am really sad I guess I do just cry. I to try to hold in it a bit though, depending on the situation. When I was younger I didn't cry.
3 responses
@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
30 May 07
Being a guy, it is especially embarassing to be caught crying. What makes it more difficult is that I am bi-polar and one of the bad parts of it is that I am really, really emotional and crying tends to come naturally. I cry when I am sad and I cry when I laugh and I really cry when I am really moved by something, like the television show, "Extreme Makeover, Home Edition" on ABC, for example. The stories are usually very sad and the when the family sees their new home for the first time is really touching.
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@fawcey (926)
• Australia
30 May 07
I think that society makes it harder for guys to cry in front of people. The seem to stero type guys as tough, strong,dont give a damn,don't cry,takes everthing on the chin. When in fact guys have feelings just the same as women, and I think seeing a man cry shows they are in fact in touch with their feelings and strong enough not to care what others think. My husband never use to cry until I sort of helped him learn it was alright. He would get so upset but I could see he was trying so hard to act like he was okay, I would say 'it's alright to cry, let it out.' And now even though he is still reluctant he does show his emotions more, when I gave birth to our son he cried with joy, and exhaustion! We both get teary in movies and things and I like that he trusts me enough to cry in front of me. I do not think he is weak as he use to say he felt, I think he is a great caring loving guy. Funny though I tell him it is okay but I feel embarresed myself still when I do it. One of my friends was bi polar and would cry also when she laughed, it made us laugh harder and tears would just roll down her cheek, our stomachs use to be very sore! Thanks flpoolbum for sharing your story about this topic.+
@gretats (63)
• Philippines
29 May 07
Oh... hehehe, For me, crying in public or when someone would be watching you... is sort of embarrasing. Most especially if you have like a strong personality and people see you as a person who would always know how to handle things without any emotional attachments... simply put.... when you project a certain distance, coldness, empathety towards others, they would expect you to be the least one to be a crybaby.Hehehe... I am a bit like this, so I am slightly reluctant to show people a side of me that isnt really usually like me... yep, you could call it a moment of weakness. hehehe... But I think it is okay for a person to pour their eyes out in public. I dont see anything wrong with it. In fact, it kind of make them seem strong people because they have guts to express what they really feel about things. That they feel... and they know how to show it, not just bottle it up... which I think is very damaging mentally hehehe. So... next time you feel like crying in public... or when someone is watching...and you cant hold it anymore... bear in mind that it is natural to cry, we have tear ducts for that purpose. hehehe :) Blessed be.
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@fawcey (926)
• Australia
30 May 07
It does seem to feel embarrasing, I agree, and it is hard if you are a person with a strong personality because people do expect you to be the one to hold it together. It is though as you said not healthy to bottle our emotions and not show our true feelings all the time, so I do try now not to care to much what others think if I cry, I have to say a great relief washes over me after a good cry. It is still hard though in front of people, even though if they did it I wouldn't think badly of them. Thanks gretats for sharing. Blessed be to you as well.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
29 May 07
I don't like crying in front of anyone, period, it's rather annoying actually. I just feel like it's a weakness, therefore I really try to avoid crying in front of anyone. I don't care who it is, friends, family, etc, I don't want to cry in front of anyone.
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@fawcey (926)
• Australia
29 May 07
I to can't help feeling that other people will think I am weak if I cry in front of them, I also feel vunerable as it is sort of letting people in and I don't like people to see or know the real me. I do cry in front of my husband but I never feel any type of judgement from him of any kind so I feel able to show how I really feel. In any other situation I like to seem strong and togther so I hold it in. It is funny though cos I don't think of others as weak when I see them cry. I hope one day there is somone you can cry with, and in front of,as I think we all need to get stuff of our chests and a problem shared is a problem halved, so they say.
