having children of your own

Hi tredale, yes i think i understand my mum better since i had children. I used to get angry at some stuff my mum would or wouldnt do or let me do. But now i find myself doing the same with my kids. sometimes i laugh to myself when something happens and it seems like it is just the same as my mum would do. It is like when i winge about the kids to my mum and she knows exactly what i talking about cause we were the same. Or so she says but i dont remember EVER being such a terror. haha Best wishes to you

I would say yes I do understand her better, now I know why she said I couldn't do certain things until I was older or why I couldn't have something that I wanted etc.

it depends on the children if they r like u then u may understand the feeling of her when u did the same to her

In some areas, I do understand her better. Especially the frustrating parts. However, some of the things she did still confuse me. In essence, I've taken many lessons from her and changed others that had no or ill effects on me. She was a worrier by trade, and it took her a long time to trust me (age 12) to cross the street without her looking out the window. I won't smother my kids like that and won't prevent them from falling or taking a bruise...its just a part of growing up. Don't get me wrong, I won't allow them to do something dangerous. But will allow them to skate board/roller skate unlike when I was a kid--to dangerous to Mom....

Definitely not! My mom had some major issues. I have tried to learn to be a better mom, because she wasn't. Some people are just bad parents. Mine played favorites and was big into the punishment. Growing up in fear is not fun. I'm trying to be a better mom in spite of my mother, not because of her.

yeah. I understand my mother more since i have my son. huh. a mother is very difficult to bring up a child. and she must sacrifice more for her child.

Sure, I found being a parent is the most difficult job in the world. You have to sacrifice your time and have responsibility to your child. And pregnancy and delivery is not so easy. A mom has suffered a lot to have their baby.

To be honest no, it makes me wonder even more why my mum made the decisions she did! My mum isnt a bad person but I do wonder why she did certain things and why she puts up with the crap she does from her other children as I know that I wont put up with it from my daughter