Which is worse to you: someone breaking their promise or telling your secret?

Aren't they really the same thing? If I ask you not to share a secret and you do, haven't you also broken a promise to me? I personally do not share secrets with people if I worry they may tell someone that I would not want to know. To me, I am more hurt by a broken promise.

I think they are bot one in the same. Breaking a promise adn telling a secret. Someone could promise not to tell the secret and they do. SO in fact they are doing both. SO to me the felling of breaking trust and betrayal are one in the same.

it's one and the same. if they tell your secret they are breaking a promise.

'Someone telling my secret' will be my worst nightmare of all! my gosh ! I don't know how to handle and react on it if that happens. Well, promises are made to be broken so what's new with it? hehehhee.. ^_*

neither, they are both pointless anyway, a secret is something people keep to hide from others, if ur a true friend or partner u dont keep secrets, and promises are made to be broken anyway, so i never tell someone "i promise"... coz i know somewhere along the line its broken!!

I think someone telling my secret is the worst. I used to confide in a close friend, including my crush on a senior in our school editorial team. I did not know that he was a gossip and he told everyone, including my parents, my crush and his parents. It made me so angry and hurt, since he promised he would keep my secrets. I had to apologize to the senior, because he came to me and complained that he was being teased by his friends, and to make it worst, his parents end up calling my parents. I smarten up and keep my secrets a secret, and learned one lesson : a secret is a secret as long as only one knows it.

I think they are one and the same as when you promise you are giving your word and to tell a secret is just as bad.

Both things suck,but I think telling someones secret would be the worse. You trusted that person to keep your private thoughts and they betrayed you. I would never be able to trust that person again. Our friendship would be changed forever.

In a sense both are percing... for someone to tell one of my secrets would hurt my heart I would loose trust and closness with that person, and for someone to break a promise will disappoint me, my thoughts would be how can I ever depend on you again. In both cases I would feel neglected and not want to associate myself with them. but if I had to choose one, I would feel someone telling my secret is worst....

i thinkits just the same, telling a secret is just the same as breaking a promise, because once you've made that secret, you already promised not to tell it to anybody.. that's why it's called a secret isn't it?

In my opinion there is not secret in the world.Once you tell a secret to another one you must prepare for unfurling.If you don't want to be hurt by anyone who promise never tell the secret to others but don't keep his promise,you should not tell the things to anybody.

well when I make friends I talk to them about the secret rules of friendship... dont lie, dont steal, dont date you friends ex's or the man they like! And they are the same for a man or a woman! So my friends know I am not tollerant of ignorance and liers they know I will not be friends with them if they do! It is my pet peve a lier!!! I am the most loyal almost to a fault to my friends I expect loyalty in return... isnt that what friendship is about! Always being there for each other thru thick and thin and no matter how mad you get at each other your secrets remain secrets!!! Thus is why I am not friends with alot of women for in my experience alot not all women but alot of them are backstabbing two timing lying witches!!! Sorry but been burnt too many times and i have my reasons!

i willl be furious at the persoon who told or leaked my secret

I think it is worse to tell a secret. There may be legitmate reasons for someone having to break a promise--but a secret is something that you specifically ask for them to keep. And all keeping a secret means is keeping your mouth shut. So it's definately worse to tell a secret.

I think the same. It's worse to tell other people's secret than not to keep a promise. In the last case, probably you were only too weak to accomplish with which you had promised. In the first case, you are disposing of other people intimacy without their permision.

I guess both. I am a very vengeful person. I will definitely avenge if these happened to me. I did in the past and I would do it again. I think if someone doesn't worth your trust when it comes to promise or secret, this person doesn't deserve your sympathy, affection, friendship - you name it. They only deserve to be done unto them what they have done unto others.

Hi there, I get let down all the time so it dont borther me now im used to it,but if i told some one a secret and they told that secret yes i would be hurt and the friendship would be over cause your know you cant trust that person.

I think they are both as bad as eac other to be honest, A secret is something that shows you trust that person to tell them in the first place and a promiss shoudl be like a pact and if broken that woudl hurt too, I am not sure which I woudl say are the lesser of teh two evils.

What would hurt me the most is if someone that I trust tells my secret to others. That is why I barely tell secrets to my friends. I know that somehow, it is in their nature to spill my secret to other people. They may not know the extent of the damage that they could do but I think its better that I myself take the necessary precaution for me not to be hurt.

I would choose the second one,i can tolerate if a promise is broken and i don't expect much from people so i don't easily get hurt by broken promises but i can't tolerate ,if a person can't keep a secret secret.