Do your kids boss you around? Do you put up with it.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
May 29, 2007 3:02pm CST
Sometimes my little girl gets in a real bossy attitude. And, I know the way my mom would handle it. But, I'm trying to do things differently with her.
Do you find that your kids get this way, all bossy?
Is there any reasonable way of dealing with a bossy child?
Or, is it just a stage?
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
29 May 07
I think it is both. My youngest child use to like to boss his elder brother on little thing like brush your teeth after food. Boss his father to put the dirty socks into the laundry basket. Boss me to vaccuum the house. Now, he hardly do it anymore.
On the other hand, please try let her know like what I do to my boy. Tell him to rely the message more gently and tactfully, explain the reason to her. Otherwise, kids will get use to it.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
29 May 07
My son, CJ just turned 9 and he is starting to sass as well as getting a bossy attitude. He has high-functioning Autism so it's a bit more challenging. When he starts sassing or getting bossy I'll give him a stare; not say anything, just stare at him and perhaps raise an eyebrow.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't I'll let him know that if he keeps it up he won't have any T.V. or video games until he can behave like a gentleman.
Most of the time he will say, "I'm sorry, mommy." Breaks my heart when he does because it's so cute. It is true what they say, 'Patience is a virtue'...Good luck with your little one.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
29 May 07
Thank you very much! I will try the stare on my daughter. This morning I was so desperate and when she started her usual bossy stuff, I just said, "Excuse me!" very indignant sounding.
And, she stopped short in her tracks. And, said, "Nothing!" kind of like saying. "I didn't say anything bad." It was too precious. But, I kept up the mom face, until she came over and gave me a hug.
My daughter does the funniest thing when she's done something bad. She'll come up to me, and lean in and say, "Gimme a hug!". She does it even before I know that she's done anything wrong. When she does this, I give her a big hug and then start looking around to see if she's stuck her dolls in the comode again! Kids are too funny sometimes. It's the good moments that do make up for the bad ones.
Thanks for your advice. Would love to chat with you some more. Drop by here anytime, and we'll talk.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
29 May 07
LOL...I know exactly what you mean. CJ comes up to me at times and says, "I love you mommy." There are a lot of times he says it because he really wants to let me know but then there are times when he wants to get me into a good mood so I won't be upset when I find out that he's broken something, or...I'll request you as a friend if you don't mind and we can talk more about things when we get the chance.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Hi cjsmom, I tried that stare thing, this morning when my 3 year old was acting up and it worked! I couldn't believe it. Thanks for the idea.
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