Would you ever admit you faked it to your partner if they asked?
By breepeace
@breepeace (3014)
Canada
May 29, 2007 9:10pm CST
I'll admit it. I've faked it before with my guy. Not as often as I have with other men I've been with, but it does happen if the conditions just aren't conducive to the big 'O' or I'm tired and I can tell he's getting hopeful that I'm getting close and I just hate to disappoint him. Most of the time I don't, but if things aren't going as planned, but if he's trying his hardest, following my instructions to a T and my body just isn't responding the way I want it to, I don't want him feeling all crestfallen about it.
I'm almost certain that I'm in a majority, too. I think almost everyone has faked ecstasy just to save someone's feelings or to get it over with.
I've often wondered if he would ever get brave and ask whether or not I've ever faked it with him. I think if he honestly wanted to know, I'd tell him I did once or twice but not to take it personally, because sometimes the body just doesn't work the way you want it to.
What about the rest of you? If you partner asked you honestly and calmly whether or not you'd ever faked it, would you tell them the truth or pat their ego and tell them 'of course not'?
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@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
30 May 07
i think i would tell the truth i have as well like you said did it when i knew that he was trying his hardest and he was almost there and thought that i wasnt going, or if i just wanted to get over and done with the sure fire way to get my hubby done is to let him think i had one and then that is that and then i can get on with what ever else lol but you are right there are sometimes when your body just dont respond the way you want it too.
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
30 May 07
Nice question - well, if he asked me right after we made love and I did fake it, I would not admit it to spare his feelings but, if we were having a conversation I would say, just like you that it did happen couple of times and that it is normal with women, anyway!
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@toyhamarz (124)
• United States
30 May 07
My husband asked me that once. And I answered him honestly, and admitted that I had faked a a few times. Then he promptly aked me when? After more than 3 years with the same person, how can you remember lol? Even though it had only been maybe 3 times I couldn't list them. And then I kind of regretted admitting that I had because I didn't think he'd want an explanation other than at the time I didn't want to hurt his feelings!
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@wildflower520 (14)
• United States
30 May 07
Yes, if he asks then he needs to be prepared for the truth, might be why my husband never asks..
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@gingisnapz (738)
• United States
30 May 07
If it's not going to happen, I just tell my husband. Luckily, he's not the type who ends up with hurt feelings. He'd rather me tell him I can't than fake it. He's a good hubby. He has a good track record, so he pretty much figures it's me and not him. LOL
