when can you say that its over......

I'd say a relationship starts breaking apart the moment shared interests become self-interests. We get attracted, fall in love, start a relationship, and commit ourselves to such. The bond becomes harder when it is nurtured by trust, hope, patience, faith, intimacy, and love. The moment doubt, fear, jealousy, failed expectations, and anger set in, people become hurt and feel pain. Our strength depends on our threshold for pain. The less threshold we have the more likely we opt out of the relationship. And when people starts opting out, the next act is to secure self interest for self preservation. A relationship is about taking the good with the bad and enduring a lot of sacrifices. People change as they grow older. How they deal with pain, suffering, and sacrifices is a sign of their maturity. It takes two to make a relationship work. We can only hope that in the relationship both parties mature together.

I believe the term is irreconcilable differences. The couple cannot agree on anything and don't particularly like one another, or they fight all the time. They both agree though that they would be happier apart. Or maybe one is cheating and wants to be with the other person. I'm sure there are many reasons.

I think the reason for a man and woman to decide to end up their marriage life is that, they don't enjoy and feel inloved anymore with each other. They seem to be cold enough to freeze a relationship. And they assume that it is better for them to be off than stay together in one roof so dry. If i may suggest, (this may sound cliche, but its still good) when you want to get married, please be sure that you really feel the love and nothing more. For a woman, please try to figure out if you really loved your man and your man to you. Because marriage without the essence of love wouldn't be nourished and nurtured well.

I ended my marrage after years of physical abuse and torment. I know many women whom have been in similar situations to myself where the abuse it too much, but any abuse it worng. And there are others who finish a marrage due to their partner's cheating ways.

yea it is sad that the numbers are going the way it is but besides the reasons you listed above i would say many people get into marriage thinking it is always going to be a fairytale love, and when they finally start living together they learn things about the other that they never knew, and they give up to easily, and the other would be that people grow and sometimes instead of growing together they start growing in different directions and one morning they wake up and realize they have nothing in common anymore. http://mommysmakemoney.blogspot.com

Well, i guess its really too common nowadays... Its certainly disheartening and saddening to see marriages and couples break up... I guess it happens when either party does not maintain the relationship, thus breaking the partner's heart... Continuous acts will make partners dishearted and dying of love, thus it causes the broken marriages and their partners decided to leave them... I guess we all have to put in time and effort in a relationship... =)