HELP! my mother in law is making a fool out of me!

If I was the one in this situation then I would have everyone meet for a discussion. I would ask my mother in law to meet me at a restaurant on a certain day at a specific time. Then I would also ask my husbands mistress to meet me there as well without telling her about the mother in law being there as well. I would have my husband come to the restaurant to meet me as well. That way we all can discuss what is really going on. I feel that it is always best to confront everyone at once so that we are all hearing the same story.

You're not officially divorced yet so stay put where you are. Be a dotting daughter in law. Your husband mistress is trying to poison your mind against your mother in law and creating a hatred to win your mother in law's favour. Don't let the other woman replace your position as the wife and mother to your husband's children. Just be patient and try not to communicate with your competitor. She is out there to destroy your good relationship with your mother in law. Don't confront your mother in law as it will create an ugly situation. Soon your husband will realise his folly and get back to you if you play silence now.

Hi lucky_witch. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I can only imagine how difficult that must be. I'm not really sure if I understand where you live or not, but I know it can make a big difference on how to proceed. If you live with your inlaws then any ugly confrontation with MIL could end up with a very short notice of eviction since June is only days away. If you live in the home you and your husband shared with your children & you're just visiting the in laws occasionally, I would suggest getting everyone together to discuss things to clear the air. I think you're very wise not to speak ill of your husband or his family in front of your children. Your children will respect you for this later on.

I admire you for visiting your in-laws for the sake of your kids, but don't let youself get hurt by your kindness. Let your ex bring the kids to visit his parents during his time with them.

Hi lucky_witch, dont trust the mistress. Didnt you realise she is your rival and she probably trying to get you into trouble with your in-law. Just keep calm and silence about the whole thing. Unless you heard it first hand from your in-law, dont believe a word what the mistress have told you.

I agree with you that your children have every right to see thier grandparents. I would sit down with your mother in law, and explain what you are going through, Tell her you are being told one thing, all the while she is telling you antoher. You do have the right to know what is going on, and get your options in order. I would move out, though, i know sometimes circumstances beyond your control can make it hard to leave. But if you and your husband are already seperated, and he is apparently with his mistress, its time to file those papers. I would def. get out of your mother in laws place, start looking now, for what you can afford, just incase she is decideing to "suprise" you with an eviction notice. Just a quick question for you, why are you talking to his mistress? i wouldnt want to have anything to do with the women my husband cheated on me with, even if i had to deal with her while dropping of the kids. I would be socialable in the sense of "hello" or "the kids need to make sure they do this" etc. But i sure wouldnt want to chat with her, exspecially about something like that. If your mother in law says, that what the mistress is saying isnt what she told her. Tell her thats fine, but you think its time you move out, and move on with your life. Make sure you tell her that she can still see the kids, and even keep them on weekends or while your working, if she wants. There is no reason to punish the kids, by not letting them see thier grandparents. Even if she is starting stuff with you. I personally never had to go through anything like this, but if something like this were to happen with me, i would probably want to know what kind of game she is trying to play, and find out what she is saying to the other women, is true. If you talk to the mistress again, and she says "why did you say that to her" tell her that you needed to know what was going on, and you werent sure you could trust what she was saying, for the simple fact, she is sleeping with your husband.

I think it's best if you live away from these people. Start over; start fresh. I know it's easier said than done but there's really no reason for you to live there anymore.

Ultimately you have to make the decision of whether its worth it to stay on there. Your mother in law is very mean to do such a thing to you. By the looks of the conversation with your husband's mistress that your husband will not be coming back to you. Confront your mother in law and be done with it. Life still has to go on with or without them. At least you have your children with you wherever you are.

She did what??? Huh! That's really low! I mean, you bring the kids to them, you share the joy with them in rearing your kids and this is how she repays you? But well, you can't really jump to a decision without being so sure about the situation, so I suggest you confront your mother-in-law first. The mistress told you about those things, what if she's lying? You should confront your mother-in-law, tell her you didn't like her sneakign behind you like that, tell her how you feel. If it's really true then tell her you refuse to be taken as a fool and that you'll take legal actions if your husband drive you away from your own home. You're married and you ahve kids, you can't lose... God bless honey... may you find a way to solve this problem.. Don't forget to ask the Almighty for mercy... :D

You and your husband live with his parents? You talk to your husband's mistress even? Wow, I thought most woman won't even want to have anything to do with the husband, his family and even less to do with the other woman. Maybe you can tell this other woman to watch out for the mother in law because she is two faced. Your husband had an affair with her. What's to stop him from doing the same thing to her? Then it will be her turn to have the mother in law snitch behind her back.

It sounds like a really difficult situation, but you have to do what is best for you and your husband and children, if you both have decided to make a go of your marriage again. Frankly, I wouldn't say anything to your mother-in-law at this point because if she is making a fool out of you it is doubtful that she would ever admit it and she may resent you for making it an issue.

please listen to your mind and soul. do not go by what others are saying . talk directly to your husband and avoid your mother in law. god bless you.

I would confront your mother-in-law with what the mistress is telling you. I am willing to bet the mistress is trying to start trouble. When my husband was involved with another woman, she told me all sorts of garbage that my mother-in-law was supposedly saying. After my husband and I reconciled, I found out that she had never even spoken to my mother-in-law and that my mother-in-law did not even know about her, only that we were separated.

Are you legally married? If so, you can sue your husband for concubinage ifever he started living with his mistress. With regards to your in-law, speak frankly. Let her know your feelings. Don't keep anything in your heart 'coz suppressing your feelings would greatly affect your personality.

If you could get up the nerve to comfront her that would be the best thing just so you would be able to confront her with the way she is trying to make a fool out of you and it would be a way for you to let her know that it isn't working because you know and that you thought you were being nice by letting her see the grandchildren but if this is the humiliation that you are going to have to put up with that you don't need to deal with this . Best of luck !!

Are you sure that the mistress is telling the truth? Maybe she is telling you this to drive a wedge between you and your inlaws so that she can get in better with them. I think you should confront your mother in law. If it is true then I would tell her where she can go and I would stop taking your kids there.

Talk to your mother in law as you can't trust your husbands mistress. She could be lying to you. If you listen to the mistress she will try to make trouble for you any which way she can.

Why are you even visiting your mother-in-law? I think that because your husband did this to you and because his mother is making a fool of you that you should try to find a place for you and your kids. You may feel you still love your husband but you are seperated, and he did cheat and you spoke to his mistress?? GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION! You can do so much better. A divorce would work. I wish you the best. If you would rather confront your mother-in-law, tell her straight out "I don't like the way you are treating me, you are making me feel as if I am the guilty party, I think it's best my kids and I don't come back to visit. If she gets upset, then let her. You don't have to take that kind of treatment from her. Again I say, you deserve better.

The nerve of your mother in law! She is double-faced...you better confront her about it, and move out of that house if you must if only to save you some dignity. Imagine to tell the mistress that she does not like you! So the bottom line is: she really supports the mistress more than you, the real wife. Never bring your kids again to their house. You can detach from them and live a life of your own. I say, move on with your kids, and never look back at these people who do not deserve to be called your family. Again, let me repeat...confront your soon-to-be ex mother in-law. Hope that she gets to read our responses....

does your husband see your children if so its up to him to make sure his family sees them not you best you stay away from her she probably dosent like what her sons done but he is her son and if she dosent support him she might lose him. Ring him and ask him to take the kids to visit.