I'm okay... but in fact not!
By bluishrose
@bluishrose (2289)
Philippines
May 29, 2007 11:38pm CST
Why do most people say they are okay wherein fact not?
You see them in a bad mood, quiet, thinking deeply, bothered then when ask if everything is okay or is there a problem they will answer "nothing there's no problem" "i'm okay" BUT if you push thru and keep on asking that's the time that they will open up
Y like that?
5 responses
@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
30 May 07
In my experience, I have found that when I say everything is okay, I really don't want to talk about what's bothering me. I kind of find people who may be trying to be helpful are actually really annoying if they push the matter. (Some people are just noisy, anyway.) When I want to talk about the problem, I will choose the time, place and person that I want to discuss it with.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
30 May 07
Oh i see... but can you just say im not okay and id rather not talk about it?
@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
30 May 07
However, if you say something is wrong and you don't want to talk about it, you have already started the discussion that you didn't want in the first place.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
30 May 07
but you can stop there and not pursue with it. At least you have said your not okay when asked.
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
30 May 07
I will react the same way as well. If I'm down or not okay, I prefer to keep it to myself rather than telling someone who ask me if I'm okay or not. Of course it depends who is asking me the question and whether I want to talk about it or not.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I see i guess people are really like this. same goes for me hehehe
@inallduetime (741)
• United States
30 May 07
It think people say they are ok b/c for one, they know the person doing the asking is just being polite. And secondly, sometimes a person really don't want to talk about what's going on for fear of losing it, so they tell you they are ok. I never push a person. If they want to talk, fine. If someone doesn't want to talk, I respect their decision.
@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
30 May 07
i prefer to answer this discussion by referring you to my response to an earlier topic of similar or more or less same discussion http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1098004.aspx
@fhunter910 (156)
• United States
30 May 07
u bring up a great point! its true people always make conversation by asking how are you , and people ALWAYS answer fine. When the truth is you'd just been crying or you so mad you could burst! But alas you say your fine!
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
30 May 07
yes that what usually happens! why do they just say not okay in the first place?
