Giving advise to a (almost) new mommy

I would definately keep giving her advice even subtle hints work well if they are given enough. New moms always need some advice. Alot of women have their children so far apart that they forget things and in this case she has not raised the other 2 so she does need the help even if she doesn't think so. If you worried about what she might say if you tightened the straps I myself would do it when she wasn't looking. She needs to think more about the baby I think. As for the formula I would just suggest to her to give the baby a little less and explain it may stop her baby from spitting up. All you can do is try and the more she hears it the better the chance it will start to sink in even if she doesn't realize it. Good Luck

Sounds like she needs the advice because it's harming her babies health. Just mention casually when you see her son spitting up, that maybe he's already full before he got the bottle. Or tell her some statistics on carseat safety or take her to a fire station where they can help her (they know everything about carseats). It's a hard balance between being a know it all and being a good friend! I've been through that many times, but after awhile if you do it nicely she might come to you for more advice.

Just keep on telling her because sooner or later, what you tell her will sink in. If you see her constantly and the baby, just try to observe if the baby is allright, not hungry all the time or it is gaining weight and not getting sick. Coz if the baby will get sick and the doctor will notice that it is because it is not feeding properly then your friend might loose the baby again. Hopefully she will take your advice by heart.

I am telling one thing allstep mother is not cruel.She will be your friend.When our behavier is not good she willalso not good for us.Think good will be good.

A mother who has more babys has to take more times to her babys, and need more money to be used.You should buy more milk than other mothers.You should buy a baby bed helps children sleep and feel comforted.Some toys can make babys happy when they are crying.

Beinf her firend gives you that right to give 'friendly' advicwe its what friends do. Especially if you have experience yourself. She will brush you off because no mother really wants to be told they are doing it right. If you really wan to save the conversation or battles, politely jump in. Like volunteer to give her a break and hold the baby.Then re-wrap her. Say something along the lines like 'my kids always loved it when I did this, they found it comforting and slept better' or it makes me nervous with her seat belt like that, I am just going totighten it a little. If it is always offered in a nice friendly nonjudgemental tone, people usually get receptive to it. My sisters did things like that all the time when I had my first child. I never liked hearing I was doing it wrong. So they would do it their way. When things worked i kept up with it. When I really didn't agree i did my own things. Anyway.She is lucky to have friend like you willing to help. You know her better than we all do. Use your best judgement. It will sink in eventually.

I think you should really voice your opinion to her more often. Even if it causes her to get angry. If you have to get outside help, then do so. It's important that the baby is well taken care of.

I think that you dont want to give advice so strongly that she does feel like you are telling her what to do, i guess you could try making small suggestions or when you see she is frustrated because the baby is spitting up tell her she might want to not give the baby the extra formula and see if it helps...

If she asks you for advice then of course give it to her. But if she seems to not be receptive of it dont. It wont do any good anyway if she doesnt want your advice it will just fall on deaf ears.

Well you should tell her. If she seem to can't be bothered about it all then you better stop reminding her of the things you've said. You will just be wasting your energy and she will think you are being a know it all. She will only realise the importance of what you are saying when something bad happens. I don't know how to advise you on what to do to make her see the error of her ways. Sometimes for some people to learn they have to go trough with the consequences themselves.

I recognize your good intent, but unsolicited advice is not appropriate at any time. It may ruin your friendship with her as she may begin to resent you for offering up advice she never asked for. Instead, just be supportive to her and if she ever does ask for your advice remember to give it from your own experience so that she can relate more to you as a friend and not as an authority.

Giving advise is good,only if the person is willing to take your advise,but if she doesnt.then why waste your time.Its enough that your given her some piece of advise and tips,but if she refuse to accept and learned from it so be it.let her find her own mistake she might get it in a wrong way or misunderstood it.But its good only if she is willing to heed some advise from you.yes,its true if babies are overfeed they usually vomit because of toomuch intake of food,what should the mother do is that she has to let the baby burp to make the baby feel relax and in that case the baby will also feel contented of what shes taking. sthe mother have a hard .But giving too much food for the baby until reach the point of making her vomit is not good enough because frequent vomitting will destroy baby's taste bud.

I don't think there is anything wrong with giving your friend advice. Just make sure that you don't over do it and come off as being overbearing. Sometimes you have to back off even when you know you are doing the right thing. If its something that will harm the child then sure let her know that there is a different way to do something, but make sure when you do you're not comming off as a know it all or trying to tell her how to be a mom. Having a baby is tough work and its always nice to get imput from those that have been there before. Just keep being a friend to her and keep trying to help. Evenutally she'll thank you :)

If this person has already had other children taken away from her she obviously needs all of the advice that she can get, I would help her out in a subtle way and if she doesnt listen to you in the case of the spitting up do you have a child health nurse (like we do here in Australia) that could come and pay her a visit to help her out a bit? maybe the advice from a professional would help