breaking up is hard to do
By gwenmari1029
@gwenmari1029 (1481)
Philippines
May 30, 2007 6:09am CST
breaking up with someone is the hardest or the most difficult part in a relationship. the feeling of guilt is there because you can see that the other person still loves you so much and he is such a good person... but you really have to end it.
when this happens, do you immediately break up with your partner or do you wait until s/he sees that you have already fallen out of love? do you prefer to keep the relationship even if you are not happy anymore? or do you silently break him? if you choose to be the one to end the relationship, how do you do it?
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7 responses
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
30 May 07
my guy friends told me that they feel guilty to break-up with their girlfriends even if they're not happy anymore. Because the girld had been nice and all. So what they would do, is that they would just wait that the girl would be the one to break-up. And during that time...they would be really uhm, unresponsive in the relationship.
For me, even if I love the person with all my heart, but then, his not happy anymore...then I'll just break-up and set him free.
@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
i feel the same way too... and i also believe that if he was really meant for you then you'd find ways to be in each others arms again soon. thanks for the response donsky :)
@lamiaa (581)
• Egypt
1 Jun 07
you have to do what you need to do , you can't stay with some one just for his sake , sooner or later you will leave him , so sooner is better , we all forget , time heel every thing , and the life will go on , so the right thing is to save your self for putting her in a prison , and so you will save him or her too .
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@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
thanks lamiaa... letting go will even save you from further pain and heartaches.
@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
i realized it too... the sooner, the better and the earlier that you'd get over the relationship. thanks kelly :)
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
30 May 07
It sure is hard to break up with a relationship. In fact, I haven't tried--with my latest one, more than 30 years ago, I just moved on to a next relationship without the formal break up with the current one. I knew it must have been difficult on his part, but I chose to be crazy by not telling him that a third party is involved. I could not imagine why I just fell out of love...could be because of a new one. But hey, don't get me wrong. It's not good to just pretend; nor does breaking up an easy task. I was yet immature that time, that's why I did that. Today, I realize that I was just being unfair to my ex. By the way, the "third party" happened to be my husband now.
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@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
we learn from our experiences. thanks psyche for replying :)
@sheenblood78 (188)
• China
30 May 07
really hard because i experienced it....but life must go on and one more thing we cannot push things through if he does not like u or u don't like him why push no use....
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@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
you are right sheenblood... we might even be hurting each other more if we insists on going on with the relationship. thanks!
