Why do women wear pants, but men don't wear skirts?

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I know single moms of 2 or 3 kids who work hard and take care of their kids. You think "So what?"I know a man who is a single father of 3 little children and works hard. You think "Wow!" Actually I don't know any men who are single fathers. Why is it acceptable for a woman to act both like a mother AND a provider, but for men these two roles are exclusive? Men do contribute to parenthood greatly, but it seems like it's too hard for them to take a double role when it comes to sole custody of more than one little child. I would never get divorced if divorce meant that I would get shared custody of my children. But many men don't have a problem with giving up 50% (or more) of their time with their own children. If a man leaves his wife and kids, that's understandable. If a woman leaves her husband and kids, she is a monster. It seems like children are more valuable to the mother than to the father and this belief is socially acceptable. When a woman gets divorced, she has her kids on her back to take care of and support. When men divorce, they are usually only obligated to pay child support and they complain about that - is if those are not their own children! I think nobody complains about this type of role-sharing, because women don't want to give up their motherhood and also don't want to give up their freedom to work. I guess the reward comes with the observation that many men marry single mothers, while many women refuse to marry men with kids, even if the kids live with the mother. Some people state that women get less paid for the same job position, but I think this only has to do with the fact that women agree to smaller salaries in certain instances. Indeed, if this were entirely true, employers would only employ women and pay them less. But if there are e.g. two math teachers with the same skills and work experience and the male one gets a higher salary than the female one then women ARE discriminated against. My father worked in Brusells, in the opera orchestra and he said that women were less paid for the very same job position, only because they were women. I think this is a saddistic and humiliating way of showing a woman that she is less worthwhile only because she is a woman. The reason why I mentioned income as an element in the role-sharing is because I think it's a consequence of it in two ways:1. A single mother will settle for less before someone else takes the job, because she has to support her kids. In addition, she can't apply for jobs that invlove traveling and working long hours every day, because she has children waiting for her at home. So she is limited in terms of time. 2. A married woman views her salary as secondary and in her mind it's not only acceptable, but usually preferable, if she makes less than her husband. In her own eyes (and his), he would feel less of a man if she makes more money than he does. And since her world revolves around him, it's more important to her to please him than to be complately independent. Any comments? Please don't give me lonely examples that confirm the opposite. If you think that IN I described the roles falsely, I would be happy to hear your opinions.