Are you forgiving or vengeful?

Some of the time, I'll forgive but I rarely forget. I have a hard time with the forgiving part. Sometimes I simply refuse to forgive, under any circumstances.

I personally have a hard time forgiving. I can't forgive my mother for the hell she put me through. I know forgiving is part of the healing proces. I have cant forget what she said either. There are a few people though that i have forgiven, like an ex b/f. Only becuase he apologized to me, and said he didnt mean anything by what happend. ( no it wasnt abuse, it was a whole nother story)

I am usually a forgiving bunny. But I also have my limitation. I don't take people being nasty and mean to me kindly. I would not retaliate nor avenge my pride, I will simply turn around and walk away from this person. My rule: Avoid stooping down to these nasty people's level.

Yes friend! am a kind of person who forgives, cos I think holding grudge in our hearts won't make us go forward in life and if God forgive us, I don't think we should not forgive others. Thanks

I don't belive in forgiving someone who has done something bad to you unless it was a person you love and what they did was truly an accident. Forgiving someone who intentionall hurt you is like telling them that what they did was okay, and they if they want to do it again they can and will get away with it. It also send a similar message to anyone else that might be evil and want to screw you over or hurt you. Forgivness is for the people you love. Revenge is for evenyone else. I personally have a list. The list is a bad place to be. If I ever find out I have only one day to live those people are in alot of trouble. Mwahahaha (evil genius laugh, hehe).

In order for you to be forgiven, you have to forgive.. if you are feeling vengeful, you have not truly forgiven. I know first hand how vengence is mine.... But I also know that it eats me up inside, and dosent effect the other person at all. I have found that when I forgive, I have to try and forget. And while I am trying to forget, eventually I do. Now if I sat around and stewed on it, obvisouly I wouldnt forget. But with lots of trial and error, I just let it go... I am happier and know that it is not my fault or my problem. And I have chose the higher road..

just like you, i can easily forgive a person... but i will never forget. i am not vengeful either.. i just don't forget at all. reason for this is that, i don't like getting back on the person for revenge. what was done was done... the hurt is there and all i need to do is forgive the person if and only if... he/she asks for it. if not, then, why forgive? reason for not forgetting is that, i remember the experiences i had, bad or good. by not forgetting, i am learning and i become a stronger person through the pasts that i had been to. better to forgive but i don't forget since i learn from the pains i had gone through.

I am not a vengeful person. I will try hard to forgive and accept the apology and go on. If the person is not sorry and hurt me, then I have a problem forgetting. But I never get even. I pray alot for guidence and love.

I am usually a forgiving person, although I do not forget quite so easily. Additionally, I will only forgive so much before I learn my lesson. I have had a couple of friends who abused my friendship for far too long. I forgave them again and again. One day it had to end. There is no more forgiveness left for them. Our friendship is over. I do not seek revenge, however I have no feelings of friendship left for them either.

It depends, there are a lot of mistakes can easily forget and forgive and sometimes can give another chance. But even if hard mistakes I can easily forgive but somehow I will never want to talk or to see her again. I will take any revenge I will leave to God whatever sin she done for me I think God has the best and the right to punish.

Depends on who did it to me! When my hubby hurts me, I am very forgiving, I cant stay mad at him at ALL. I cant even look at him with a grumpy face, I just start laughing. With others though I can hold a grudge and occasioanlly get vengeful. Sometimes I just bottle it up, but I can stay mad for a long time, and sometimes i'll be really nasty back, yuck, not my best quality. lol!

well i am sort of like you. it is very difficult for me to forget someone being unjustice to me. and i only fogive someone because God has said that forgive others so that i may forgive you. and since i am not a perfect being, and in very dire need of getting God's forgiveness, i forgive others . sometimes i forgive reluctantly and sometimes i forgive with my heart. at times when i have been behaved with very rudely, my attitude does become vengeful, and in my anger i cant forgive that person at all, and so i start thinking of ways to get even. we all have knots in our nature. the right thing is to entangle those knots , and improve yourself with learning and experience.

it depends on how a person has cheated on me.if it would be out of mistake and the person apologizes to me.i may forgive easily but if a person cheats on me out of my innocence then i am not that kind to forgive the person.i would certainly take revenge that person.

before, when i was not a born-again christian, i used to think something to revenge to others who would hurt me..but not now-God really changed me a lot...as i read his word, he always said that we should forgive those who persicute us and even he himself forgave us for all of our sins...

I think I am vengeful . I really have a hard time forgetting some instances; I usually hold grudges . I don't know but I could not just forget something. I feel bad all the time if somebody done something to me and my family.

Iam a very forgiving person,it always feels better to let go even if iam the one who got hurt(especially if they are whole heartedly sorry).Forgetting iam sure is very difficult for most people,for me too.But iam 100% not vengeful(i would just end up being busy hurting those who have hurt me and might never have the time to make myself happy and live my life to the fullest). The trust will definately be broken but i always give people who hurt me a chance to earn back the trust.However,being forgiving i think sometimes gives other people an opportunity to take advantage of you,thats why whenever someone hurts me,i forgive them and distance myself from them until they prove that they can be trusted again.

i forgive everyone the first time someone does something to me. once they have done it once, if they do it again i wont forgive them the second time round as i dont forget things easily

I'd say I'm forgiving but I don't forget easily. I've never done anything really mean or nasty to get revenge on some one. If a person did really bad things to me I like to think that it comes back to them 3 times worse...but I never do anything to them.

well in my own case i have lernt to 4give and 4get. so i am just 99% forgiving. then i leave the rest for God to do that which is right for such offender.

i am usually a forgiving person.. but before i will forgive a person, i make sure he/she knows her mistakes and what really happened... coz i don't want to forgive people who were not sincere with their apology in the 1st place... i mean, it would just be useless if the person will apologize insencerely.. and of course, the person should apologize first before i can think of forgiving him/her...