Is it wishful thinking?
By sandwedge
@sandwedge (1339)
Malaysia
May 30, 2007 6:26am CST
while walking throught the office i often hear my colleague, particularly women, saying "i don't care what he looks like or whether he is rich or poor, what is important to me are personality"
i am sure you've heard these spoken before. i just kept hearing it in all the places i have been to.
what do you think of the statement?
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8 responses
@lonely_f16 (2146)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I wish all people could say that but then the first impression of people are mostly stated because of the looks. I would go for personality and attitude too but then it must be that I know that person so much
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@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
i agree with what you said regarding the first impression is based on the looks. no one actually walks around asking those butt ugly hunch back of notre dame for a meningful conversation.
@justjewels (56)
• United States
30 May 07
Money is nice .... it makes life easier .... but it doesn't guarantee happiness. I will take a man with a great personality, a nice smile, that can make me laugh any day, even if he didn't have a dime. It is easier to make money than it is to change a person's personality.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
easier to make money than to change personality. true. true.
reminds me of the bumper sticker i read a while back. it says" i am fat, you are ugly. i can diet".
@smacksman (6053)
•
6 Jun 07
Being good looking can be a handicap as well. Plenty of hunters out there looking for trophys! Do you really trust your beautiful wife?
For me a kind, generous and humerous personality wins hands down over beauty. Now don't get me wrong, I admire and enjoy beauty and it gives me pleasure but it is not No.1 on the list of attributes.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
well yeah..you got to "pick" the nice looking prospect FIRST before you decide if they have the attributes that are pleasing to you. Nobody goes around asking Hunchback of Notre Dames to see if they have pleasant personality, even those who place looks at the bottom of their list.
i guess at at end of the day, what we all are saying is that personality is what keeps it going.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
30 May 07
A lot of women really don't care about money or looks. But most are lying when they say that it doesn't matter at all, because in reality, to some people it does matter, even if it's just a little bit. I mean some sort of physical attraction has to be present for a person to be really interested in another.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
i was waiting for someone to say that. you are right. looks will be the first factor in choosing a mate BUT not the determining factor. personality and whether he is capable of taking care of you will seal the realtionship.
the looks would probably be, what do you think? slightly above butt ugly or minimum of OK looking?
for your answer i will mark best response.
@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
30 May 07
I also prefer personality above all else. Money can't buy happiness, and good looks can only get you so far. If you don't have a good personality, you won't be much fun to be around.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
personality. got it. and you are right, not only will he be no fun to be around, he probably won't be around most of the time.
@hotbiatch (276)
• Philippines
30 May 07
Given the choice between the rich and handsome guy over the average joe, I will probably pick the rich guy.. But of course this would not be a lasting relationship. But then is it really our choice when we end up with another person or is it fate that we do?
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
very honest of you to say that. but heck nobody wants to start a relationship if the guy is obviously going to be a liability. with the rich guy? i'd say you still have a 50-50 chance that he 'd have a nice personality.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
30 May 07
yeah, I prefer that my partner has a good personality. My boyfriend is not really rich, he would always say sorry for being so...but, I don't think there's anything to be sorry about. I love him and accept him for who he is.
As long as you love a person, the looks and the money won't matter. Its he or she's presence and love that does.
@sandwedge (1339)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
i agree with all of you. personality is a must else whats the point of all the money and looks when he the guy has a personality of a mule.
i can understand why he apologies to you for not having the cash, most guys when they are in love they really want not only provide for the girl but also shower her with gifts and stuffs.
if he said he is sorry, he is saying he he love you.
@tredale (1309)
• Australia
30 May 07
Yes this is true for me, I think looks fade. personalitys grow. My first husband was good looking and my second husband has personality, First -2years, second-10years plus and still going strong.. personality all the way. If they can make you laugh then you have a winner. Being kind,funny and caring beats brad pitt looks anyday. If you have all then, what a package. lol
