Step daughter at it again
By limosonia1
@limosonia1 (1559)
United States
May 30, 2007 10:01am CST
I am still furious and I am not sure on how to handle her anymore. We have tried counsling my husband and I tryed talking to her and we have tried just taking her out to feel special and we have tried tough love. She just wants to ruin our relationship. Heres the last thing she did I recieved a text on my phone stating that they were my husbands employee and that he was cheating with another manager and they just wanted to let me know. I have always trusted my husband but it still made my heart sink because we had just had an arguement the night before. Well anyway I researched it and found out that my step daughter sent the text from her friends house on her friends cell phone. In the mean time I talk to her friends mother and now she is in deep trouble but my step daughter just skates away without any punishment because she doesn't visit us anymore and her mom said it wasn't her problem. I am at wits end this could have done a lot of damage and my husband is furious.
2 responses
@tredale (1309)
• Australia
30 May 07
I think its time for your husband to drop contact for awhile, if she is staying with her mum and her mums not punishing that behaviour the only one thats getting hurt is you and your husband. When my daughter pulled this stunt with me I dropped contact didnt ring her at all or for her birthday.
When she finally rang me and demanded why I hadnt given her a birthday present and made my normal calls, my response was this.
I love you and if you love me then you will want to see me happy and respect my decisions as I do you.
If not then I think its in both our interests that until you can do this we have no contact. With in a week she opened up and all was resolved she did get her birthday present but it was a month delayed two years on and all is well.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
30 May 07
Maybe that would be the best thing we have tried so hard to fix it and don't have these kinds of problems with the other children. Giving her more attention isn't working and neither is counseling. My father in law did kind of the same thing to my husband and they became really close once my husband realized that his mom was make everything worse and that he waas acting badly. It just hurts because we don't want to hurt her.
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
30 May 07
Kids will be kids and she is young. You are the outsider that ruined her life. That is probably how she feels but it isn't right. All you can do is stay strong and trust in your husband to be by your side without losing his daughter forever. This morning my co-worker was talking about her sperm donor and the troll he married. It would be sad to see if his daughter ended up feeling that way. I hope that the two of you can stay strong and ride it out and one day she will realize how very wrong she was.
