Do you let your BF/GF have the last word....?
By mean_queen
@mean_queen (1713)
Malaysia
May 30, 2007 3:35pm CST
During in argument that is...When having an argument with my boyfriend, I usually let him have the last word. I really don't feel like answering back with the exception that I no I'm not at fault. But most of the time, I let him have the last word cuz if I don't our quarrels will go on and on and will never end. Do you think it's wise to let the other person have the last word? My friend's tell me it's not good, cuz he'll be able to take over me. But I don't think that's the case, I feel that's it's wiser to keep quiet, let him calm down, and then when everything is calm, I tell him how I feel in a rational matter. It works for me! What about you?
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7 responses
@ozangel82 (753)
• Australia
31 May 07
I always like to have the last word, but thats just me! he usually tries to get the last word in but i am not happy unless i get it in there! typical of women i suppose, we usually are right anyway! lol
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
LOL~! yeah, most women are just like that. I used to be. but now I'm just to lazy to say anything.. hehe
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
30 May 07
When my fiancee and I disagree about something she will state her opinion. After she states her opinion she will listen to mine and then refuse to discuss the issue any further. If I keep talking about it she will then ignore me and give me the silent treatment until she feels it is necessary to speak to me again. I have learned that I don't always have to be right about everything and somethings aren't worth argueing about.
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@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
31 May 07
yup.. you're right. some things are just better left unsaid. when we think about it, the quarrel was actually a very petty thing to fight about. it must be frustrating to be given the silent treatment though. i can't stand that.. =P
@linzmcwilliams (1552)
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30 May 07
When my boyfriend and I argue we have a tendancy to go off in huffs. That way nobody gets the last word and we both have time to cool off. It usually works out for the best. We both say we are sorry and forget about the whole thing. Chances are we have been argueing over nothing anyway!
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@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
haha.. that often happens doesn't it.. sometimes couples just fight over the weirdest things and starts getting out of hand cuz no one wants to let up the argument.. =P
@syndhujaa (252)
• India
20 Jun 07
hmm..i do agre with you..but am not like that..i always argue back very well..but it is always better to keep quiet and tell them wht has happenend after the situation gets over..but it also depends that the person shouold not think that we are dumb and should not take over us..but it is always better to leave the last word to ure bf..coz or else the situation will get worser..so.it better to keep quiet and then only it will not effect the relationship..!
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 07
Yeah, I think I get what you mean. Thanks for responding syndhujaa~! See you around.. ;D
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 Jun 07
For the most part, I tend to want to have the last word at any cost. That is not a good way to handle things. it is better that you are handling it the way you see best. By waiting until he has cooled off and has had time to think, then you sit down with him and talk about it rationally, that is a much better way to handle things. You are not letting him walk all over you, your handling the situation like a reasonable adult.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
19 Jun 07
this is very true. When I approach my husband, it is right after the argument and we have had a few minutes to calm down, we go outside and sit on the patio and I talk to him about how I took his side of the argument and he then understands, but if you wait too long, then they really don't want to talk about it because they believe it to be over and don't want to pursue it any further.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 07
Yeah, I usually let him cool down before making my move to the jugular! LOL.. JK! I let him cool down before I can get my point across. The only downside about it is that he doesn't wanna talk about it once he's already calm and collected. Most guys are afraid to wake up the inner beast once again.. :P
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@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
haha.. yeah, guys! =P do you think you'd ever just give it a go to not have the last word? have you done it? i'm sure it felt hard to contain those words coming out.. haha.. ;)
@klgudelski (27)
• United States
19 Jun 07
I usually have the last word, I feel like I have to. Whenever we argue I let him talk, and I respond, and we go back and forth for awhile, but when he gets quiet for a second I ask him if thats all he has to say. He usually will say yes, and I say okay, then I get up and walk away.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 07
LOL~! My boyfriend hates it when I get up and walk away~! Hehe..
