Does it get easier?

I can understand how you feel. It will be the same regardless you are young mom or old mom. As long as there is a changes in life, whether be it a job change, newly wed, new mom, from a working mom to be a homemaker. That is a change, human is always resistant to change. We have to try to cope with changes positively. I had been working for 20 years and quit my job to become a homemaker with no income and live in another country. I had been feeling down and feeling that I am useless, stupid and good for nothing. I had to depend on my husband in term of dollar and cents where I don't have to previously. Worst of all, I use to buy what I like and make decision on things I purchase for hte family. Now, I had to be caution on every single cent I spend. I am still in the process of learning to adjust to my new life at new place positively. Let us do it together. As you are young, read more books on nurturing your daughter and prepare flash card for her.

These feelings are normal (most times) after you've had a baby. You may have a case of post-natal syndrome. Please see a doctor about it, don't be afraid to tell him what you feel, how you feel. There are things that can be done about it. Feeling unhappy isn't the way you should be feeling, especially with a special little baby. Sending hugs toyou, and prayers that things get better for you quickly. (((((((HUGS!))))))))

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it is very hard to be a parent, and you should consider yourself blessed. unfortunately there is no test to pass, no schooling, and no pay for this job. But, in time you will find it is one of the best things in life you have ever done. I was 18 when i had our first baby., and that was hard. We had no money, no friends (they were all still single and partying), and no fun anymore. But, we had our baby, and that was enough. It will get better, there is a post partum depression that goes along with having a baby.. but it should pass. Just think about all the joy this baby brings you.. not only now, but forever. It is such a short time that they are small, i only wish i had to relive it once more. Good Luck! Be happy!

Girl I know how you feel trust me..I am 24 yrs old and a stay at home mom and I used to feel the exact same way you do. I felt like I was too young to be stuck in the house cooking, cleaning, taking care of everything and a baby too...it sometimes gets so frustraing. Its like you do the same routine everyday and you get sick of it right? I used to ask myself everyday "is this my really my life" because I felt like I was trapped in a box and couldnt find my way out BUT there is always a way out you just have to look for it. I gained alot of weight just sitting home day after day but now I go out alot more often even if its to walk to the park or around the block with my daughter because its better than being stuck home. I now think I am so fortunate to be able to stay home with her and watch her grow up because not alot of mothers get the chance to do that. Trust me things will get better..just remember to make time for yourself because alot of the time were too busy doing for our child and man that we forget to take care of ourselves. Best of luck to you!

the feelings that us new mother go through in them 1st weeks are terrible we are usually all over the place, especailly if you are indoors alot, i was the same, i found by going out 4 walks or finding a groups to go to with other new mums helpes loads, as i could talk about my problems and 9 times out of 10, other mums felt exactly the same as me, dont isolate yourself as that depressed feeling your getting now will only worsen, when you get set in a routine, like going out, meeting with new mums, you'll find these feeling wont be there, being a mum is the most rewading job, but most woman including my self beat them selves up thinking they could bring there children up better, there is no guide book, its a learning curve you are constantly learning new things and thats what makes it rewarding, i wish you well!! Louise http://louise-clix2cash.blogspot.com

You need to talk to your doctor. You may have postpartum. It is common and not your fault so getting help for it is not a bad thing. After that I would join a parent group or a kinder gym thing just to get you out of the house for a little while. Local churches have parents time out a place to go and be with others. Your local YWCA may have programs for baby and mom also.

yes, this is normal but if it is interfering with your life you should talk to your doctor because you could be dealing with post-partum depression

I think it is just a stage of adjusting to the new member of the family. Every family goes through that, i guess. having a new member of the family is quite hard since you have to understand and anticipate the needs not only of your baby but also of your husband as well. and since you gave birth at a very young age, it is also quite a big responsibility to carry at your age. and besides, most single people at your age are still out there, enjoying the world whilst you are trapped with the responsibility you chose to carry. well, that's life.. and don't worry, you'll get over with it as you get to know your child and husband well. keep in touch.. to tell you , i also gave birth to my son when i was 23. just almost the same as yours. hehe

Of course they get easier.Sometimes you just have to take a couple of deep breaths and remember they crying for a reason,pain,hunger,uncomfortable or need diaper changed... :D

Of course they get easier. Sometimes you just have to take a couple of deep breaths and remember they are crying for a reason, pain, hunger, uncomfortable or need diaper changed. I am on my 3rd and it does get easier it becomes like a walking and chewing gum its natural.

I'm not yet a mom but my sister-in-law who just turned 24 are already depressed being a housewife.She never had a career but I think she doesnt enjoy by being at home all the time.She ask my brother that she want to work but her husband doesnt permit her.What made him at least happy is being with my nephew and she take good care her son a lot.

Yeah,you should do something else,to scatter your attention.take a breath.or some day get up early and take a walk.Breathe the morning air,listen to a soft music you will find the day is beautiful.And the next whole day will be very happy.You know your husband and you daughter love you.They do not want to find a lone face.Right?Do not think too much,face your life.And be happy to lead your life.

Believe me I understand what you mean. I'm 20 years old, married, with a 22 month old daughter. I was 18 when I had my daughter, and I was SOOO depressed. I love her more than anything, always have, but I had the same feeling as you. I felt like I trapped myself, and that it was never going to get better. Well it does get better, trust me. I mean she's in her terrible twos now, which is sometimes really hard to deal with, but she's so smart and funny, and she loves people, and loves going out, which makes things so much easier. Just hang in there, try and talk to a doctor about how you are feeling, you might have post partum depression, which is treatable. It gets better :)

it does! have you ever thought that you could have post partum/ post natal depression? maybe you should see your doctor about this as there are treatments out there and if thats what it is then your body is the one making you feel depressed. It can be very frustrating when you first become a mother, i have a 16 month old and boy was it hard getting used to it. hang in there!

Hi medillavou, I understand how you feel. I am a new mom too and at the moment I am on maternity leave for 1 year. My baby is 5 weeks old. Sometimes I also feel sad and useless as I am not that independent anymore. I have to depend on my husband on some things that I did not previously. But for me I rely on the point of view that I do this for the goodness of my family. This is the sacrifice that I have to make for my child. This perception helps to calm me down.

Don't even worry about it momma, it's hell for all of us. I just turned 20 and my son just turned 10 months. I'm a single mom so I have the outlet of work, but before I was working? Oh God. Y'all know I love my baby more than life itself, but most of the time I couldn't stand the little creature! Always yelling about something, needing something... then he would smile and my world would get a little better (for about a minute until he pooped or threw up all over me). It does get easier, but it happens when you find your balance. Get together with some adults, just adults; go for a solitary walk; designate a date night once a month or so; and exercise. I hated when my grandma told me this, but sleep when he sleeps. It sounds simple and I know there's TONS of work to be done that you can do when he sleeps, but even if it's only for one nap, unplug the phone and take your baby in your arms and just pass out. You'll wake up feeling so much better, especially if your kid's like my son and wakes up ready to smile and coo and play. It's the best part of my day still! What better face could I wake up to? Good luck and Blessed Be

Loneliness, boredom and tiredness afflicts almost every new mom. You really need an outlet to express your creativity. And, friends outside your home. There are many free local support groups that you can attend. The hospital where I delivered my baby had a free group for babies and new moms. It was lots of fun. And, a great opportuntiy to socialize with other people dealing with the same new mom issues. Don't isolate yourself in the house. Go out for lunch with friends. Just because you're a stay at home mom, doesn't mean you have to be a prisoner in your own home. Kids are portable. You could visit the library or a local park. Just pack up the kid and go. Your child will get used to all the new activity very quickly. Find friends online if you can't get out much. Simply talking with others about your day to day struggle may help alleviate loneliness. Find a hobby or craft that you enjoy. Talk to your mom or sister by phone every day if you have to. If your feelings of depression or loneliness persist, talk to your doctor. There could be medical issues involved. Depression is a treatable condition. Being a stay at home mom does not come naturally for many people. It takes a lot of work to learn how to gear down your engine and live at a slower pace. Consider working from home or starting your own home based business. That was how I coped with the loneliness that I felt after becoming a new mom. It helped me to get through some pretty bad times. There are many consultant opportunities and home businesses available online. Some are even free. Just pick one that feels right for you. Just don't live in isolation. It only makes the matter worse. Best of luck with your baby. I wish you much happiness.

you are probably having a little postpartum depression it feels really over whelming at firstthat gets easier. but being a mother is really like a roller coaster sometimes good sometimes bad but its also the greatest gift in life so just hang in there it'll get lots better as time goes on!!! good luck and love every minute!

Bless your heart, medillavou. I know first hand what you're talking about. You're longing for adult company, adult conversations. It's hard to discuss current events with a five-month-old! The first thing I can tell you is that what you are feeling is completely natural. There is NOTHING wrong with you! You've got the hardest job in the world - being a stay-at-home parent. Feeling frustrated and "trapped" is not "abnormal." So don't feel, or believe it when people tell you, that you are doing something "wrong." You're not. In fact, at age 22, you are all ready wise enough to express concern over how you're feeling and to seek out other's thoughts and opinions. That tells me that you care about yourself, your man and your baby. Kudos to you on that! Honey, you need some "me" time! Sounds easy to say, huh? I know it's not easy to do, it just sounds like it is. However, it's NOT impossible. In fact, it's VERY "do-able."I'm going to offer some suggestions. Not knowing what size community you live in or what your friends network is like, some of these suggestions may not be suitable to your life. However, I do hope that at least one of them will help you feel better about where you are in life. First, do some friend networking, preferrably those you trust with your child. Make arrangements with them to care for your child for a few hours while you visit the library, go to a movie by yourself, get your nails done, get your hair trimmed, browse a book store, or even just so you can be home alone and nap, or soak in a bubble bath! You can even trade babysitting with friends so there's no expenses there, just each other's time. If you're new to your area and haven't made the opportunity to make friends, and if it's financially feasible, check into local daycare facilities that will watch your baby for a few hours one to two times a week. Visit the daycare, take a tour, ask about each staff member (get their names and get familiar with them), and ask around about the daycare's reputation. Are you getting exercise? You don't have to go to the gym and power lift for an hour every day. Just go for a walk. Put baby in stroller, and take off! Even if it's just around the block, taking a walk on a beautiful day means getting fresh air (for you and baby), and soaking up some happy sunshine! Baby will sleep good and you'll feel refreshed! Hook up with other moms, whether it be in person or online, using caution with online forums and using only those you feel you can trust. Other moms are experiencing what you are, and talking about it with them can be very cathartic. Does your community have any agencies that offer respite care? Respite care is, at least in my area, a daycare that you can take your child to on a walk-in basis when you're feeling especially frustrated and REALLY need a break. Many places like this do not charge for this service. Make it a point to arrange a "date night" for you and your man only. If once a week is workable, great! If not, every two weeks will work. This is grown-up time; a chance for you to do a grown-up activity with another grown-up. Dinner, a movie, going for a walk, going to the mall..whatever the two of you like to do, do it! Call up those friends I mentioned earlier for babysitting purposes; trade them nights so they can have their own date night. This is important. Devoting time to each other will help ensure that you continue to be good parents. Taking care of yourself, and your relationship, shows that you both care about your child. One of the best gifts we can give our children is to care about each other. There will still be plenty of days when you and baby are home alone all day, and that's okay. Nap when baby naps. Enjoy a hobby while baby is quiet, i.e. scrapbooking, reading, browsing a magazine, sewing, paint-by-number, etc. Or just have fun taking snapshots of baby while he/she is sleeping, playing, learning to sit up, etc. Don't be too hard on yourself for the way you're feeling. Keep in mind, though, that while you're feelings are natural, you don't want your level of frustration to get to the point where you cannot effectively care for your child! If you feel that coming on, call a trusted friend. Share with them how you're feeling, ask them to come over for a while, put on a fresh pot of coffee. "Does it get any better?" you asked. Yes, for a while. You're baby will very soon become more independent and able to do things on his/her own, and that will feel wonderful to you - for a short time. But then, dear, you'll miss their dependence on you. Your little one will grow and grow and it will seem - only seem - as if they need you less and less. Before you know it, they will be grown. It is true that time does fly, especially when it comes to your child(ren). One day you will wish for the chubby little hand in yours; the marker on the wall in the hallway; the first day of school; the teen tantrum full of slamming doors and stomping feet; the beautiful/handsome young person in front of you, dressed for their first Prom...you'll miss that when it's gone. It will be difficult to look at the little cherub in front of you now and envision them ready for the Prom, but it will be here soon enough. I hope that some of these thoughts and ideas will spark even more suggestions in your own mind. Just remember...taking good care of yourself is loving your child. That child needs you, and if you're not tending your own needs, you can't be there for your child. You sound like a wonderful young mom who is deeply and head-over-heels in love with her baby. I have no doubt that you're going to do just fine. Just fine.