Update!! Me lecturing my friend......

United States
May 30, 2007 5:36pm CST
Ok I finally spoke to my friend and come find out she had no choice but to let her child stay with her when she visited the ER recently. What I thought was that her mom and godmother was there with her,but her mom just dropped her off ad went to go have an affair with a man she works with. OH HELL NO!!! I was really pissed when she told me that and mostly I was upset becauseof what her mother has been doing to her and the baby. I wish I had the money for her to get her own place because she really doesn't need to be stressed out like that. What do ya'll think?
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@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
30 May 07
I guess she needs to just get back on her own two feet so she doesn't have to worry about all the drama. It's hard though, but it seems she needs to do something. Does she work? If not, maybe she should look into getting a job and saving up money so she can get her own place or something. She needs her own life. She should also line up a babysitter for emergencies, since her own family wont even help, it might be something to look into. I sure hope all works out for her and the baby.
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• United States
30 May 07
See that's the thing.....she is trying to get a job but her mom makes up excuses whe my friend asks her to take her to get job applications. It was her mom who suggested that she come and move back in with them when she got pregnant. She also can't get her licence because there is a warrant issued to her and her mom doesn't even wat to take her to the clerk to handle that. She is really acting selfish and not allowing my friend to try and get on her feet so that she wouldn't have to depend on her so much.
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• United States
31 May 07
I think that perhaps your friends mother likes having the control over your friend's actions and life in general. My best advice would be to help her if you can to take her to get job applications and things like that. Maybe even offer to help her get to the clerks office to handle the warrant issue. Just being there to listen to her will greatly help her I'm sure. I too have been in your friends position where my mother controled everything I did and it was really hard to cut my mother off and not let her have so much control because I'd lived with it like that for so long. My best wishes go out to you and your friend both and hopefully she'll get a way out. Perhaps she could look into government assistance for a time period. Maybe call the social services or human development office in your area and see what help they might be able to provide. And have her explain that she has no way to leave the house becuase of transportation conflicts with her mother and they may even be able to help with that as well!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Apr 08
I think that your friend's mom should have been there for her daughter instead of running around having an affair with anyone. Could her godmother have been of some help? its toobad a mother has not got time for her own daughter.