how to deal

It's really hurting to know that dude. I'll keep my prayers for your mom coz I know that God is good and He knows what to do as He is the great Doctor ever. Though its hard to accept the fact that cancer is killing your beloved mom, dont quit praying as it could move mountain even. It is a feeling of hard to let go someone we love and that is so painful that it's your mom. But you know what, your mother dont want to you see cry instead. It is more painful for her to see you in that way. And if that would be the case, why not spend the time left with your mom to the fullest instead of just feeling hurt. I dont mean you to enjoy, its such that spend the time so full while you're mom is still there. If you can also figure out, it seems like your mom will be having another stage of life's journey (and of course no one is exempted from it). Bottomline for this, don't quit praying for her and spend time left more efficiently and fully as you can't turn it back! Again, my prayers... God bless.

This is one of the hardest things to deal with. My dad passed away from colon cancer and the heart ache that shot through me was hard. It doesn't matter if you are not the one with cancer. This disease draws all into it's clutches. I was very close to my dad and it tore me apart. The only thing that helped me through is praying to God and asking for his help through this time of sorrow. There are stages you have to go through in the process of learning about your mom's diagnosis. I will keep you and any of your family in my prayers that God will help you get over this. I wish I could give you a better solution to dealing with this but each person has to figure out what works for them. What works for one with dealing with loved ones with cancer doesn't work with someone else. So my prayers will be with you and I will keep you in my thoughts.

hi there..i am so sorry to hear that your moms cancer returned :( i know the feelings you are going through as i lost my dad to cancer 3 yrs ago ..i used to sit and wonder myself the same things you are now..why couldnt it have happened to someone else why my daddy ..some people toss their parents in a home and never look back ..dont care dont love them but i love my parents dearly and i just didnt find it fair to have to lose him at age 57 .. i will tell you this much..call her...go to her..whatever you have to do to spend all the time you can with her ..nothing is quiet as important right now ...i dont mean to be harsh but losing a parent is one of the roughest things i have ever went through in my life and still 3 yrs later i am not sleeping good and sit here crying for you ..cause i know your hurt..~gentle hugs~

Hello Dawgmart, I deeply sympathize with what you are undergoing. I can feel what you are feeling right now as I am also here in the Philippines and like you my mother's cancer also has returned and she is currently undergoing chemotherapy hoping that it would get better. It is hard for you since she is in the States and you have no way of seeing her there. In my case my mother does come here every 21 or 28 days to have her sessions done here in Manila. I am deeply hurt everytime my mother would come all the way from the province just to have chemotherapy. it has hurt us emotionally as well as financially. I really do not know if she will survive this cancer the second time around. We are always looking at the bright side of things hoping against all the hope there is. Everytime she comes over we just act like she has no problem at all and passed each day like we used to be. But deep inside me and my father we are hurting very much especially my father. Knowing that her life may be her last days is such a hard thing to accept at this poiunt in time especially when you know that she was able to survive her 1st cancer its really hard to accept that this time she wouldn't make it. My prayers are with your mother too.

First of all, do not believe it when the doctors say she has only "6 months left". With prayers and a positive attitude, there is always the hope that one can win the battle. There are a lot of written testimonials on people beating the "x number of months left", and I noticed that the common factor are prayer and a positive outlook in life. Maybe the reason why your mom wrote that is because she is far away from you and that she feels "beaten and tired". You have to find a way to raise her spirits up again. She is in a country where a lot of possible treatments are available for her, which is definitely a huge advantage for her. I'm just talking from experience. "Been there, done that". Live Long, Be Strong. Bro.

The Why Stage Just recently, my dad passed away due to hypertension. I just got back from the Philippines for a 3-week long holiday from my work. I was so excited to see him at the airport. Despite the long delay of my flight, he patiently waited for me. The succeeding days were fun. My dad and I are early risers. We sat on the patio every morning waiting for the sun to rise while drinking coffee. Next agenda was a walk along the seashore exchanging stories and catching up with what has happened while waiting for the fishermen to come ashore to get some fresh harvest from the sea. For almost 12 days, we just had fun together. I had his blood chemistry checked and it was all normal - a sign that gave me comfort that he'd still be staying with us for a longer time. It was good I had my camera with me all along. I took pictures and videos here and there. It was all fun,fun,fun...However, the 13th of April came and there he passed away. I had tons of questions. To give you an idea, here are some of them: *Why did it happen? *Why only 12 days with him? *Why not me isntead of him? *What did I do that he should suffer? *Why am I given such responsibilities? *Why now? "Is this the best reward I can get after serving you, God?"At first, I directed these questions to my friends who were very supportive with listening ears but didn't have answers. No, I was listening to their answers but I didn't accept what they were saying. I wanted to hear the answers that I wanted to hear. This didn't happen. Who else will I turn to but to God. I cried each night shouting my might to the One who created everything, to the One who holds the power of life in His hands. After all these years of serving You, this is what I get? Why God? Why? One by one, all my questions fell flat on my face, then to the ground. I realized that instead of grumbling and being a jerk before God, I just thanked Him for giving me a father who cared for me when I was down, who reared me as I grew up, who led me as I married the woman of my life, who made me smile despite problems in life. I thanked Him for giving me 12 wonderful days with my dad. At first it was difficult coz it''s hard to thank the One who took away the life of my father but in the end, I felt the release. I may not have found my answers this day but when I die, I'm gonna ask Him for sure when I get there. For now, make the most of the time that you have with your mom while she's still alive. Whether you'd be together or not, find a way to make the time special. A text message, a prayer, a call, a card or even a sweet "i love you" will mean a lot. Cheer up, my friend. Today is not the time to grieve but to be thankful and to make the most of the time special while she's still here.

I am truly sorry to hear that. I think that this is just part of the process ..unfortunately you will just have to go through these feelings...and they will eventually pass. I think we all have those feelings..especially when it is someone close and that we love. I would not give up hope and just pray to God...things could turn out fine...and she could get treatment. I would definitely plan on meeting sometime soon..even if just to support her...

Man im sorry to here that.Wish u luck :(

Hello Dawgmart, I deeply sympathize with what you are undergoing. I can feel what you are feeling right now as I am also here in the Philippines and like you my mother's cancer also has returned and she is currently undergoing chemotherapy hoping that it would get better. It is hard for you since she is in the States and you have no way of seeing her there. In my case my mother does come here every 21 or 28 days to have her sessions done here in Manila. I am deeply hurt everytime my mother would come all the way from the province just to have chemotherapy. it has hurt us emotionally as well as financially. I really do not know if she will survive this cancer the second time around. We are always looking at the bright side of things hoping against all the hope there is. Everytime she comes over we just act like she has no problem at all and passed each day like we used to be. But deep inside me and my father we are hurting very much especially my father. Knowing that her life may be her last days is such a hard thing to accept at this poiunt in time especially when you know that she was able to survive her 1st cancer its really hard to accept that this time she wouldn't make it. My prayers are with your mother too.

Hello Dawgmart, I deeply sympathize with what you are undergoing. I can feel what you are feeling right now as I am also here in the Philippines and like you my mother's cancer also has returned and she is currently undergoing chemotherapy hoping that it would get better. It is hard for you since she is in the States and you have no way of seeing her there. In my case my mother does come here every 21 or 28 days to have her sessions done here in Manila. I am deeply hurt everytime my mother would come all the way from the province just to have chemotherapy. it has hurt us emotionally as well as financially. I really do not know if she will survive this cancer the second time around. We are always looking at the bright side of things hoping against all the hope there is. Everytime she comes over we just act like she has no problem at all and passed each day like we used to be. But deep inside me and my father we are hurting very much especially my father. Knowing that her life may be her last days is such a hard thing to accept at this poiunt in time especially when you know that she was able to survive her 1st cancer its really hard to accept that this time she wouldn't make it. My prayers are with your mother too.

I am so sorry about your mom. I lost my daddy 3 years ago this July and just lost my Mama last September. It is so hard and I know you are asking all kinds of "Why" questions. IT is so hard to just accept that you cannot change this but you can talk to your mama on the phone and let her know how much you love her. It is so hard to let go but always keep those precious memories in your heart. They are what keep you going. Be there for your dad, let him know that you love him too. I will be praying for you and your family and please pm me with any questions or even if you just need to talk. God bless you.

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brov i no exatly how you feel..my dad passed away 6 months ago..by having 3 heartattaks and the hospital fukd up a operation..nufin can be dun..if u can spend time wiv ur mom nd neva cry in front of ur mum b brave nd strong..nd most of all believe in God..my prayers r wiv u, i hope a miracle happens..jah bless

I pray for you and your mother and father and other members of your family. There is nothing that I or anyone else can say that will make you feel better. Loss is always so hard to deal with. But, you still have your mother...stay close to her even if it is to just talk on the phone. My mother was killed when I was 11, she was 30...I never got the chance to say goodbye. God is with you all right now, keep him close and you will make it through just fine. Be strong for yourself and your parents. God be with You!

Well I waant to start off by saying I am so sorry to haer that and sorry that you are having to go threw this. I know you are in the "why" stage and I am not real sure as how to help you get threw that either, I know that is not real helpful but I also know that is a normal part of life. I want to let you know that it is important that you go see your mother just to be there with her and so you have the time to tell her good-bye the way you see fit. Cancer is a nasty thing and no one knows how anyone is going to deal with it. I am going to tell you like my mother has told me my whole life, parents are suppose to go 1st I know that sounds mean but could you imagine if you went 1st, her baby, her child, no mother should ever have to go threw that and I know it happens everyday whether by choice, murder, kid napping, all the bad things that go with todays kids. I hope this helps in some way, I hope I did not upset any more then you already are, you will threw this I promise I know it is going to be hard, I can only imagine. Take care of your self and let your mother know I will pray for her and you to.