Why am I so jealous???
By missytia
@missytia (387)
Australia
May 31, 2007 6:07am CST
My partner and I have been together for over a year now. I am jealous of his ex girlfriend with whom he has two beautiful children with. She is the type of person that is very happy and friendly while she is getting her way and he is forking out money other than just the child support, but as soon as he says NO to her, she cracks it and tells him that he's a dead beat dad and he can't see the kids etc.... He tells me that he wants to keep it friendly for the kid's sake and I totally understand that.
He tells her stuff before he tells me and he has contact with her almost every day via his mobile. He tells me that it's her that contacts him but I know different.
I'm not normally a jealous person, but this is driving me crazy. I have told him how I feel and the only thing he has done to change is now hide it from me. ggrrrr!! I really hate deceit as well! I really don't know why I'm so jealous of her. I have met her and she seems nice enough but there is just something about her that sends me green with envy. I hate feeling like this and I just can't control it.
3 responses
@needtoiron (82)
• Australia
4 Oct 07
Hi,
Maybe your so jealous because she has done something with him that you as yet have not, that is have a child with him. Just guessing.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
31 May 07
Your partner has not been able to free himself of his ex. He feels guilty about it that is why he hides the almost daily contacts with her from you. While he should keep a civil relationship with her because of his children he should not fall for her threats to withhold visiting rights. He knows if she does this he can go to court. So the problem lies elsewhere. The fact that he tells her stuff before he tells you and that he tries to hide the emotional ties from you is not healthy. Why don't the two of you try counselling?
@missytia (387)
• Australia
31 May 07
Thanx for your thoughts. I know that he can take her to court if she witholds visitation but this is what he is trying to avoid, hence the reason he so 'nice' to her. I haven't thought of counselling, but if I ever decide to remarry and I'm still feeling this way, that might be the way to go.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
31 May 07
My dear friend I personlly feel that this is not jealousy but you are feeling a bit insecure after seeing her monetary control over your boy friend. I personally feel everyone of us would exactly feel like that if such is the situation.But faith in your boyfriend would see your relationship cemented together so do not worry unnecessarily and make your life hell.
@missytia (387)
• Australia
31 May 07
Insecurities seem to fit well here too. I normally don't have insecurities either and I hate feeling like this and he assures me that I'm the only one he wants to be with. This is just crazy!
