Two cultures under one roof...
By hjalj1221
@hjalj1221 (46)
United States
May 31, 2007 1:12pm CST
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, I was born and raised here, in America, and he was born and raised in Mexico. We have completely different views on how to do everything, from raising the kids (we have 3), down to what to cook for dinner each night (meatloaf, or, menudo?). We fight over what to watch on T.V., E.R, or La fella mas bella, speak 2 different languages (he does speak english, but, prefers to speak spanish of course). With all the differences between us, it seems that we never would have even tried to begin this relationship. Are any of you in a similar relationship?
2 responses
@MelodyRhapsodical (1248)
• United States
31 May 07
Aww. I'm Hispanic but raised in the states so I can see where both of you come from. I guess this is where compromising comes in. I usually always date Americans, though I was brought up here so I'm probably more "Americanized" than maybe your boy, but I go through similar issues. I would maybe do a weekly thing, where one week you chose the meals and the other week he does, or by days (One day him, the next you, etc). As for programs.. that's tricky, you guys might need another TV, or get a cheap plan with TiVo to record certain things if you want to watch it together.
Off topic but...I love La Fea Mas Bella! Haha. I enjoy it much more than Ugly Betty. :D And good luck! =)
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@hjalj1221 (46)
• United States
31 May 07
See, I guess thats how its gotta be...cause what you suggested is exactly what we do. I am trying to learn how to make the food he likes ( i do like it too, just don't know how to make it all) and i have a dvd recorder that i record movies on while hes at work...so while hes watching his shows, me and the kids watch the movies in the bedroom. So, i guess maybe there is hope in this huh? I like La fella mas bella better than Ugly Betty too...even though i understand the english much better;0) Thanks for your comment!!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I got married at 16 to a guy that was from Mexico. It was a nightmare. Like you, we had completely different views. He barely spoke English and I spoke hardly any Spanish, he wanted traditional Mexican dishes cooked and I could barely boil water. We fought over everything and I mean everything. After about 2 months, the relationship turned violent and after 4 months of constant hospital trips for stitches and having my eyes drained, I had enough. I left and never looked back. It took me over 20 years to trust a man enough to want to get married again. I got married last year to a wonderful man. I still have nightmares every once in awhile and can't watch movies with spousal abuse scenes but otherwise it's just a distant memory.
I really hope your situation improves.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
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