A question for parents.

When we were foster parents, everyone said I was too strict...everyone except our kids who said I let them get away with too much. I let them have freedoms as long as I was there to supervise. After all with foster kids, you are responsible for the kids, regardless of who does what wrong, it's still your fault. I learned to CYA (Cover Your A**) !!HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I tend to be both. I don't like my children being disrespectful so that is something I do not allow. Although with a 3 year old and a 1 year old that does happen. I try to let some things slide because they are only children. I love to play with them and hang out. Both of my children play very well together but lately the 3 year old thinks she is the boss of her brother. I have to tell her to back off some and let him explore on his own. I let my kids get away with a lot but they know that they need to listen. But man am I having a hard time with my 3 year old. She is so independant and that's fine but she gets mad very easy when she can't do something and she won't let you help her she just crys and screams. So we are working on that. We have a lot of things to work on but hopefully things will turn out just fine.

I think I'm showing signs of being a strict parent. If that makes sense? LOL! Or I might just be a paraniod parent. I jump at every little thing. But I have younger ones, a 4 year old and a 16 month old. WHo knows how things will change from now to the teenage years. But, I can also be a laid back parent, but it all depends on the day... I think it might be good to be strict, but maybe not all the time. I think being laid back is also a good thing, but not to laid back. :)

I'm pretty much a combination of both. I'm laid back and like to play with the kids and only have a few ground rules but both my kids know that if they break any of those rules there is going to be hell to pay...LOL. I just try not to come done on them for the small stuff but am quick to punish them if they break one of the big rules.

i am not a parent , but would like to tell something about them , they were strict when they had to be, when we were small and we had to learn not to make mistakes, i really admire them now for that

I tend to be a little of both. It all depends on the circumstances I guess. It does backfire. It is sometimes like you give them an inch and they take a yard. But that is what it is with kids sometimes. Always testing their boundaries. YOu can't be too strict or too hard, because parenting is supposed to be a good thing. Kids grow so fast how do you enjoy them if you are being too hard on them. And how do they take to you because of it. But if you are too laid back, it could backfire because kids need structure. It is a hard balance to find. But both are needed. I am not up there yet, but I am working doing both. Better for us all in the long run to enjoy each other.