How long did you wait to have your second baby?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
7 responses
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
2 Jun 07
You could probably go for it now. Your first child will be four and a bit when the baby is born if you start now, old enough to enjoy a new baby.
I got pregnant with my second when my firstborn was just 7 months old. It was a complete accident, I had wanted to have a second child when the first was about 2 or 2 1/2, but this is the way it turned out! It has been very tough so far, but the baby is only a couple of weeks old at the moment.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Wow! You are still having all those wonderful new mommy moments. I miss that time of my daughters life so much. Congratulations on your new baby.
@SilentRose19 (1733)
• United States
1 Jun 07
My only son is about to have his second birthday, and I think that we're going to try at the end of this year. I'm not sure either though, I think we're in the same predicament. I'm worried about having another child because i'm worried they're might be a complication or something, do you worry about the same things?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Yes, I'm constantly worried about the side effects of a second pregnancy. With the first pregnancy I got borderline gestational diabetes. I was so close! That was really scary. I gained 60 pounds, threw out my back and could barely walk by the end of the pregnancy. I was a big mess.
Then they had the bright idea to do induced labor, over my objections. And, an emergency C-section. As if we didn't see all that coming. I think they call it the cascade of intervention. Then came the prolonged recovery. And, somehow, amazingly I was blessed with a healthy baby.
I am really concerned about getting preclampsia (high blood pressure) next time around.
It can be very serious.
When I first came home with my baby, I wanted to have another one right away.
But, as real life mommy duty set in, I just kept postponing it.
Now, I'm not sure which step I'll take next. I'ts been well over three years. I don't suppose things would get worse if I wait longer.
I guess I thought I was the only one going through the uncertainty.
Everyone seems so certain about having kids. But, not me. If I add a second child, there will be more financial concerns, and sibling jealousy to deal with. And, maybe more health problems.
Thanks for sharing your dilemma with me. It helps knowing that I'm not alone.
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
The age gap of my eldest to my second child is almost three years old. We came out with this gap because my wife is getting older and it will be hard for her if we wait for more years. About the right time, one should consider the attention and resources needed to raise both of them. Proper and equal attention should be consider to both of them because this is where the jealousy always come out particularly with the eldest one. Addition of new baby will cut out all the attention he/she used to have in the house and family.
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
31 May 07
My kids are four years apart ( their birthdays are five days apart) and I think it is a great gap. My daughter was old enough not to get jealous and big enough to help out when I needed something! And when I fell asleep with the baby from exhaustion she just went into her room to play by herself =)
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Certainly that would be the ideal outcome for us. I'm thinking that if my daughter were five years old or just a bit older, then the sibling jealousy would be less. That's only a year or so away.
Mine is just old enough. She would go nuts over a baby. I can barely keep her from picking up the cats and carrying them around. I can only imagine what she'd do with a baby. LOL!
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
31 May 07
We waited until my oldest was 17 months to try and have another, and it took a month to get pregnant. So he was 18 mos old when I got pregnant with number 2. And they are now 27 months apart in age. I dont know that there really is a "right" time.
@sands01 (16)
• United States
1 Jun 07
We just had our second baby in January and our oldest turned 5 in September. We wanted to have them about 3 or 4 years apart but it took some time for me to get pregnant. Our son is a great help with his little brother and we haven't really had any jealous moments.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
31 May 07
I got pregnant with my second when my son was 2, and she was born two months before he turned three. There is no reason for this...it just happened that way. I think it is a good age difference for you, the first one will be old enough to help and be happy to help you, as long as you include him, and he will be young enough that the age difference won't be too far. Good Luck with your decision. All the best!
