Rommate issues.. need advice from those ..

United States
October 23, 2006 9:25am CST
who have shared room with a stranger and ended up not being able to stand them. so here's my situation. I'm 26 (this week, friday) and she's 18. HUGE gap, but I chose to live in this apartment complex because there's another girl here who has a single room and lives alone with us. I thought it'd be more private since I have kids and they could visit any time they'd like. For the first two weeks, everything was fine. I actually didn't come to school with the intention of making any friends..but this girl seemed okay. she wanted to share food and get cable (I provided the tv). I drove her to school everyday and drove her on days I didn't have to go, picked her up from school on days I would come home early. all out of the goodness of my heart. Then this past wednesday, she leaves her purse in my trunk, fails to tell me what she did when I have other plans of spending the night out and not coming back to our apartment. When I go to take my stuff out of my trunk, I see her purse there, so I txt her giving her directions to the place I'm at, which isn't far from where she's at. 2 hours later, she txts me back with really rude things yelling at me for not realizing that her keys were in her purse, when SHE FAILED TO TELL ME she had left her purse in my trunk. From there on it's been a downward spiarl. i've tried talking to her nicely, but she pretends she doesn't hear me, after the third time I say her name, she yells at me saying "WHAT!! I HEARD YOU! YOU'RE SO ANNOYING! YOU TALK SO MUCH!!" When I'm really as quiet as can be! I'm going nuts guys. at least someone share some of their drama filled college years with me. or give me some advice, PLEASE. I can't stand teenagers, for some reason..I thought this girl would be different..but I was so wrong. =/ ..and yes, I'm gonna ask for a transfer outta here!
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
23 Oct 06
She is obviously showing her maturity by leaving her purse (and keys) in your trunk... and then finding a way to blame you for it. You shouldn't feel obligated to correct her mistake, nor is it your fault. It wasn't your responsibility or obligation to know where her keys were. If you ask me, she's lucky you noticed it and notified her because she was probably going stir-crazy thinking she lost it! She sounds unappreciative and given the scenario, it sounds like a take-take relationship. Don't let her immaturity, attitude, and greedy behavior ruin your kind heart... just be careful who you decide to help. You can't help someone that won't help themselves and you feel taken advantage of if it goes unappreciated for too long... just know where to draw the line and find people worth helping! Don't expend all your energy stressing out about others mistakes because you will make enough of your own to stress about!
• United States
24 Oct 06
thank you for the response, highly apperciated. I actually went to the housing director yesterday to have a mediator there since she has no speaking skills. When the woman called her to set an appt. my roommate asked if she had got HER message. I was so mad that night that I told her I was going to take the matter to housing. I should have just kept it to myself! Anyway, I'm not nervous. I have clue what she could possibly complain about, as I'm 26 years old and from this area. I have friends that I always spend my time with.. I'd only go back to the apartment to sleep. wish me luck!! the appointment is today! I'm so curious as to what she could possibly say!
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I was checking back in to see how things turned out. Did you work everything out with a mediator? Hope all is well with you : )
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I was checking back in to see how things turned out. Did you work everything out with a mediator? Hope all is well with you : )
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
2 Jan 07
She is definitely showing her maturity here. I mean she didn't let you know she left her purse in your car, and if you didn't look in the trunk, how would you realize it was there. I would just not talk to her any more. Give her time to realize that she's being a child here and see if she will attempt an adult conversation. If not then, it's not worth your time trying to patch things up.
@Rumble (523)
• United States
1 Nov 06
Get out as soon as possible or youll end up coming home one day and all your stuff will be gone or sitting out in the middle of the yard. Women are so unpredictable at times. RUN for the hills while you still can.
@rosey3223 (1566)
• United States
9 Nov 06
GOOD!! Get the transfer, because if I were you I would knock her head off if she ever talked to me that way...I don't see how you haven't!!! With that emotion aside, until I did get the transfer I would cut off all contact...meaning stop giving her rides, take away your t.v so that she cannot use it, do not talk to her, and whatever else you do there. I once lived with a girl who was the same age as me with the same age son as mine, and she treated us like such crap after 2 weeks of us being there. On my 22nd birthday she kicks me out and thankfully I have not seen her since. I know that it has been a while since you posted this discussion and I hope that everything has turned out for the best...good luck!!
• Canada
7 Nov 06
Sounds like a good idea to just get away from her. Once you start on a down spiral it's almost impossible to fix it. No doubt you can really see the difference in the maturity level between you, so she's probably not going to change much too soon. I personally will never have another roommate.