Do you tell her she should leave him?

Actually, i do have a friend whose in a bad relationship...I don't really like the guy for him. But I don't really tell her to leave the guy, I just tell her how I feel. I tell her that I don't like the guy for him, cause his this and that. But, I always leave the decision to her. I just support her with her decisions, cause its her life. An advice is the only thing that I could go as far too...cause, in the end, she will always be the one to decide on her actions.

Yes I would tell her. Even if it might hurt your friendship, what if something happens to her, you would regret not saying anything. Also, I would try to say it in such a way as to not be judgmental, because you want her to be able to come to you even if you disagree with her choices.

Of course I would but not just out of the blue.I'd wait until she said something about him and asked my opinion.Then and only then would I be totally honest about how I felt.I wouldn't be pushy or insulting and would let her know I'd support her in whatever she decided to do.

If she needed the advice I would tell her! If she doesn't know what to do or doesn't realize how bad it is you can tell her. I was in a terrible relationship and I was always calling my friend telling her about it and once it got really bad she told me I should leave, I needed her support and to know it was okay if I did leave him. I was totally grateful for her love and support because if it wasn't for her telling me the truth I might still be with the b*stard.

i do have a friend who was in a very abusive relationship. but i already know that as much as other people tell you that you should leave that guy, you are going to stay with him until your heart tells you to leave him. i would always tell her that she would be better off without him, but i wouldnt encourage her to leave him. after about almost a year, she went to another state to visit family without him. she realized how free she was and how much she enjoyed herself without him dragging her down. when she came back home, she came prepared to leave him. and she did. i am so proud of her. the last time i talked to her, she sounded so happy, happier than i have ever heard her sound before. so i would say, tell her what you really think, but then give her advice for what you know what she is going to do...stay with him. i would always offer my friend a place to stay if things got out of control at her house. i wish your friend luck.

as a friend, i believe that i should tell my friends what they deserve to know. giving them a piece of my mind would somehow help them resolve any issues they are into... they may not listen but it's worth a try. they may listen but not do anything about it but at least they know what i think about what they are doing. sometimes we may end up saying painful things but real friends would understand that.

i can't tell her to leave but i can only tell here what i see coming and what i am afraid of only one time , because i know if she is in love she will not listen to any voice but her heart , then i only say that I'll be here for you .

Well seeing how I have been theer so many times to count..yes..I would tell her..Although I willl tell y ou it wil probably do you noo good what so ever..the whole love is blind thing kicks in..I have been there myself and i have had friends tell me the same and i would listen to what they had to say..but just ignore it..whats sad is that we can be warned a million times and nothing wil be done untill we learn for ourselves..I recently had a friend also that was in an abusive relationship..more verbal..little physical but its all the samr to me..and i talked to her til i was blue inthe face..untill the time comes that she is ready and sees whats actually happening..only then will she do anything..but i would still tell her how i feel if i was y ou because its gonna end up[ beign this huge weight on ur shoulder,,soemthign you need to get out..so just do it..and i wisj ur friend luck:)

Hi Claire. Well I guess it would depend on whether she asked for my advice or not. I would never push my views on one of my friends when it came to romance, because, as they say, "love is blind", and if she is in love with a new man, she generally won't listen to anything negative about him from a concerned relative or friend, - and it might even alienate her so that she has no one to turn to if and when things go wrong. So I would keep my own counsel, but if a friend specifically asked me for my advice on a new nan, then I would tell her I wasn't comfortable if that was the case, and perhaps advise to hold off moving in with him/getting joint finances etc.

Hey, I'm like the inventor of that, that's usually the advice that I give all my friends, well, not all of them, only the ones who are in really crappy relationships but can't see the truth for themselves. And I don't do it voluntarily, only when they ask me, and if they do ask, they will definitely get my honest opinion. They usually don't ask me a second time though. But later they always realize that I was right. See, when I see a good relationship, I'll make sure to tell my friends that it's good, but if they're fighting, have nothing in common, and worst of all, if there's any kind of abuse involved, then, sorry, I'm gonna have to be brutally honest. It doesn't really contribute to my popularity, but I feel good knowing that I'm looking out for my friend. It's always better to be single than be in a crappy relationship just because you're afraid of being alone..that's what I always say.