who can help me?

Have you asked the girl out yet? If not, I'd start off with something casual...like coffee or something. Or, if she's mentioned any movies she's been wanting to see, that's a great opportunity to offer to take her! If you have already asked her, here are a few key things that are must-do's on any date! Trust me, these are deal breakers for me. If a guy doesn't do one of these things, I probably won't go out with him again. 1. Be on time. No excuses. If for some reason you have some major crisis that will make you late, CALL HER and let her know! But this shouldn't happen because you CAN'T BE LATE!! 2. Open doors for her. This includes car doors. But...if she gets to a door before you and opens it herself, it's no big deal. Don't freak out, make her go back and wait for you to open the door for her. I actually had a guy do this to me once! Never talked to him again. 3. Relax!! First dates will always be awkward. As much as I hate it, I usually love the awkward tension. Think about it, if there wasn't any awkwardness, that probably would mean there was no interest. Besides, once you're a couple, you can laugh about it later! 4. During the date, make sure to ask a lot of questions about her. Don't be that annoying guy who gets nervous and spends the entire night talking about himself. But at the same, do talk some about yourself. You don't want to make the poor girl feel like she's at a job interview or something! 5. PAY FOR THE DATE!!! No excuses here. She may offer to pay, but DO NOT LET HER!!! I get that it's modern times and all that, but don't buy it. A girl still wants to be treated special. And paying shows her that you think she's worth your effort. 5. After you've paid, do not expect anything from her! No exceptions!! 6. Back to awkward moments, when you walk her to the door (which is another must!), tell her what a good time you had. I'm a big fan of hugs on first dates. Only give her a handshake if you never ever want to see her again. (As a note, if she offers you a handshake, things probably didn't go too well in her mind). I'm not one for rules though, so if you're totally feeling it, then go for the kiss. Maybe I'm weird, but I usually like to wait until the 2nd (or if I REALLY like the guy) sometimes the 3rd. I don't know why. I guess it's part of the game and fun to build up the tension. Or maybe I just play "hard to get." Hope these help! Dating is horrible and wonderful all at the same time. Welcome to the game!! Oh--and be sure to post a followup. I want to know how it went! Good luck! :-)