A larger child

Some people are rude and insensitive without thinking. My daughter was always small for her and people would always make comments to me about my needing to feed her more. I fed my daughter every 2 hours. I fed her the diet that her pediatrician recommended. I wanted to scream each time someone said something to me about her size. I feel bad for the mother who had the larger size child. It sounds like she is doing everything she can think of to find out what is wrong. I would have just accepted her in to the group.

Being a proud mom, I know how easy it is, to get wrapped up in comparing my little kid to others. And, I always think that I have the best advice, and tips, and that everyone should listen to me. I think that all moms are the same way. I haven't met one mom yet, that thinks less of her own method of child rearing than other moms. So, just to give the other woman the benefit of the doubt, maybe she was trying to be helpful. However, her methods leave much to be desired. Perhaps she would have been better served by speaking with the other mom in private on the matter.

Did anyone point out to the one that actually walks around with a growth chart, that she needs help. I rather see a chubby baby than a baby that looks and acts hungry all the time. She should of been told to worry about her own child and leave the other mom's to worry about theres as well. What this lady did was cruel, stupid, rude. The group should of accepted the new mom and baby, and told the loud mouth with a growth chart to stick her chart up her bum hole.

What I don't get is why people have such a hard time understanding what "average" means. It doesn't mean that "normal" children are that size, it means that's the middle range of size for children that age. Some are going to be bigger, some are going to be smaller, otherwise that number wouldn't be the "average". I also don't understand why people feel the need to point out and discuss the size of other people's children. Unless you know the child's family history, medical, history and diet you really have no way of knowing what is an acceptable weight for the child. I think the mothers that did this were very wrong. How would they have felt if it had been their child put in the spotlight like that? That mother is doing everything she can to make sure her daughter is healthy and that's all that really matters regardless of her daughter's size. My oldest daughter's school calculates each child's BMI now and send home a report. For some reason the send it with the child instead of through the mail. Each child is classified as being underweight, at risk of being underweight, average, at risk of being over weight, or overweight. Obviously, the only "positive" classification is "average". My daughter was absolutely devastated when she got hers because she was at the high end of the at risk of being overweight category. What her BMI report doesn't show is that she eats healthy, exercises every day, hardly ever watches tv and is just on the short side for her age. This push and pull battle between obesity and eating disorders isn't helping anyone. I wish the focus could be completely taken off weight and put on healthy eating and exercise regardless of how "big" the person is.

I think the woman that pointed this out was rude and in the wrong for many reasons. We all know children that don't line up with the growth chart, whether larger or smaller, and in most cases it's just " What is is what is". My younger brother was one of them, huge and yeah he's 6'4 today.