How do you cope with stress?

By Barb
@abbey19 (3106)
Gold Coast, Australia
June 2, 2007 6:16am CST
Today, my best friend and I had an argument and it really upset me. It was about something very trivial, but she felt she had to bring it up; I felt it was something that we should have both ignored, and definitely not worth arguing over. I have had a terrible headache since it happened (8 hours ago), and I guess it's from stress. I know I will feel better after a good nights sleep. How do you cope with stress?
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13 responses
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
If you want to stay healthy and stress free, exercise is the best answer. It really helps.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Jun 07
I suppose that's one positive way to get rid of the stress from your body. At the moment I just feel like screaming! Thanks chemicalh, I appreciate your quick response.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun 07
It is not easy Abby but the way I cope is by going to bed and sleeping for a bit shutting everything out, that is the only Way I can cope with it now I do hope that you and your Friend will make it up again soon I know it is not nice falling out with your Friend A big Hug to you
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun 07
Abby I am glad that you have made it up but yes everyone deals different with things but I do hope that your Friend will not bring it up again
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Jun 07
I discussed it with my hubby last night and felt a bit better afterwards - my hubby always sees the funny side of things, so it was good for me. I have slept on it since, and feel almost ok this morning! Before I left my friend yesterday we did make it up; I was just so hurt that she felt she needed to bring up such a trivial matter. I guess we all see things differently. Thanks gabs.
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@weemam (13372)
30 Jun 07
To be honest pal I can't really tell you the answer to that , I have had so much to deal with lately and still managed to go on , I think my best stress reliever is being here on My Lot , Tapping away at the laptop keys just seems to sooth me , I also love to go for a drive in my car , no matter how stressed I am I can relax while driving , I seem to be the opposite from anyone else lol , take care my friend and be well and happy xx
@weemam (13372)
30 Jun 07
I second that pal , there are so many lovely caring people on this site xx
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
30 Jun 07
You just love your driving weemam, don't you? You are right about MyLot being a stress reliever - I feel the same; typing away and getting things off my chest and then reading all your responses seems to help, so I have to say a big thankyou to all you guys here.
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@noyida (795)
• Singapore
5 Jun 07
Sorry to hear of the little argument between your best friend and you. It hard to swallow if this happened between good friends. What more over a trivial matter. Dont think so much on the problem. Let it dissolve by itself. Go for a walk or make your selve busy. Perhaps stop thinking of the matter. Hope it wont jeapordise your friendship with your best friend. I will normally go for spa or jog to calm myself if under stress. But recently, I went for karaoke session and it helps tremendously. Take care.
@noyida (795)
• Singapore
11 Jun 07
Thank you for the best response. I just hope that I can meet up with you one day.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Jun 07
You are welcome. I'd love to meet up with you too, so when you come over to Oz, let me know and we can arrange to meet!
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Jun 07
I am glad to say that it hasn't jeopordised our friendship. I talked it over with my husband that night, and after a good night's sleep I felt better. I spoke to this friend on the phone today and we are both fine. I was upset at the time, but it's in the past now. Thanks for caring Aidah.
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• China
2 Jun 07
thats really happen to everyone...as for me i immediately talk to the one who is very close to me and express all my feelings and after that i feel relax then...i don't want to keep inside it.
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Jun 07
Yes, we all feel stress from time to time. I had been feeling worse because I kept it to myself when I got home, but I did eventually tell my husband about it. It felt good to talk about the problem with someone else, and he made me see things in a different perspective. Talking really helps. Thanks.
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22 Jul 07
I cope with stress by sitting comfortable in my chair and calmly breathing in and out using my diaphragm not my upper chest! As I breath in I calmly say, Reeee... as I breath out I calmly say, Laaxxx ! Do this until you are totally at peace with yourself! Get the idea?
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
22 Jul 07
Your suggestion is something I would have to work on, because I find it difficult to sit down and relax - at any time! However, I will give it a go; thanks for your response Davy, and welcome to MyLot!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 07
By going to the gym, I find that a good work out, burning off the calories, frustration and anger within me does me the power of good, jogging, running, cycling and weight lifting always works for me, or a session in the sauna where all that heat hits your body and you lay down and relax in the blissful quiet, or a massage works wonders too with soft music in the background, I have plenty of ways to cope with stress. I also find the lack of sleep or not being able to sleep properly adds to the stress levels.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
25 Dec 07
Phew! That sounds like hard work wolfie! I think I would choose the cycling, then a sauna and/or massage with soft music playing in the background! Blissful! Thanks wolfie.
@matlgal (1686)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Oh Ab's sorry to hear that. Hopefully it will all work itself out. But.... I think the way I tend to deal with stress is to clean.... I de-clutter, according to my husband I fly around the house like a crazed animal! LOL he knows to steer clear. But I just "WORK" it out til I am tired enough to just drop into bed. With a nights sleep things seem better the next morning (usually). If it goes longer than that then it's time to sit down and talk about it to someone. Sometimes just repeating it out loud puts it in perspective. Good Luck... hope you settle it amiably
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Jun 07
Yes, I find that I sometimes deal with stress by cleaning the house from top to bottom, or going out into the garden to potter for hours on end. Everybody just keeps away from me and lets me get on with it!
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
Depends. I don't bother myself with what acquaintances said, but I do with my closest friends. If my closest friends have problems with me I will surely straighten things out with them, or else I won't be able to sleep or smile for days.
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
10 Jun 07
I am like that too - I can't sleep or eat if I have something on my mind, and when it concerns a close friend, as in this case, I find it difficult to cope. We have talked about it since but I still don't see her reasoning, but am prepared to let it go. Things have a way of working out for the best anyway. Thanks for sharing LittleMel.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I cry a lot and pray alot. I have a bad habit of feeding stress and really have to work on that. I want to eat and I know that I cannot do that whenever I am stressed. I do pray a lot and try to let God handle my situation.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
5 Jun 07
Crying is good for the soul they say, and praying is always beneficial mamacathie. If we can put our problems onto God's shoulders and leave it with him, I'm know we'd feel better, but we have a habit of taking it back onto our own shoulders. We are so silly sometimes.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I try to avoid having things like that happen also. If it's trivial I try not to pursue it. It's just not important in the scheme of things, but some people really do think it is. I used to be like that. Most of the time to cope with stress, I just walk away, go somewhere and just breathe. I will read a book to get me away from reality for awhile. Then after I have calmed down and can better deal with the situation, I ask myself...is this going to matter in 5 years? Most often the answer is no. So, I will tell the person if it's still an issue that it's not that big of a deal and to let it go!
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Jan 08
I love your reasoning mamasan, you are so right - is this going to matter in 5 years time? If it isn't then it's not worth worrying about. Thanks for responding.
@xcjune (162)
• China
24 Jun 07
No matter what you are right or wrong,say sorry to friend,it will release yourself .For it only trivial things,No good to argue who are right.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
24 Jun 07
Yes, my friend, we did make it up and things are fine between us. We talked about it and the subject is in the past now, where it belongs. Thanks for your response.
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• United States
2 Jun 07
stress is a scary thing for me to talk about. i get extra zits, sometimes i break out in a rash, i have acid reflux caused from stress (after all the testing THAT'S what the doc finally narrowed it down to, ha), and i guess it depends on WHAT i'm stressing over. I too get headaches, and my eyes will burn. OH and when i'm VERY stressed, like at my wits end, my left eye twitches, yep just the left one! lol. i hate stress. i'm sorry you and your best friend had an argument. i hate when people bring up something that is over and done with. what's the point in bringing something up that will hurt someone all over again. hope you feel better after a good rest abbey! :-)
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Jun 07
Oh dear - you suffer worse than me when you get stressed frecklelip. I get the twitching eye too - my right one, lol! My friend and I did make up before I left her place, but I was just so hurt that she'd felt the need to bring up something so trivial that I would have overlooked myself. I discussed it with my hubby last night, slept on it and now this morning I am feeling a lot better. Thanks for sharing, and do try to avoid stress yourself.
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