Would you let your spouse bully you into having a baby?

I definitely would not resort to trickery. I think it's seriously wrong to do so. Forcing someone to be a parent who doesn't want to is a major thing. If I wanted to have kids and my partner didn't, I would discuss it with them, and let them know how big a deal it was to me. Ultimately it would come down to how strongly we both felt about the issue. If he seriously didn't want a child and I wanted one, it would probably eventually come to divorce. She might point out to him that their window to have kids will close someday, and ask whether it's that he doesn't want kids yet or doesn't want them at all.

They've definitely been married long enough to warrant having a child. I wonder why he doesn't want to...maybe there's a deep underlying reason that needs to be brought to the surface -- could be finances...could be anything(?). Whatever the reason - Communication is Key. Because either way their marriage will suffer whether she tricks him or he continues to refuse to have a child (especially if her biolgical clock is ticking).

i think it is wrong for one spouse to bully another into ahaving a child. If they are not ready, they are not ready. Simple as that. Tricking her husband into getting her pregnant will only destroy her marriage. Most likely she will not even like the outcome...his reaction...he is likely to push for abortion if he is tricked like that.

Wow, forcing someone into being a parent when they're not ready is not a nice thing to do, and would, as you say, mess up her marriage. In extreme cases, her husband may even demand she gets an abortion. If her husband says he's not ready then she has to accept that, or maybe talk to him and try to find out WHY. Maybe if she finds out why he's not ready, they may be able to come to some sort of compromise. I would never resort to trickery in order to have a baby though. It's sly and downright foolish, not to mention selfish.

I would never trick anyone into having a baby, thats the worst thing anyone can do. I would discuss the issue with my husband and l would point out the side affects of using the pill or what ever else form of birth control method l would be using. Then l would tell him I'm not going to use any kind of birth control anymore and leave that up to him. If he really doesn't want any its up to him to make sue it doesn't happen.

Nah, though I'm still young and still studying.. but to think something like tricking your spouse just to have want you want, its not a good idea.. Best way is to talk with your spouse or wait.. If you do really love him and do want to keep your relationship then don't do something that would make your spouse upset. If he's not yet ready, why force him? Its better to talk it over than do something that may cause some bad results.

No way! That can only lead to problems- I think she should just keep talking with him- Try to figure ut why he isn't ready- Maybe he has great reasons- Maybe he is afraid that he can't support a family- But trickery is not the way- Man can you imagine- it could lead to divorce!

I would never allow someone to force me into a decision that big if I didn't want that and don't believe that anyone should do this to someone else . A baby is for life and this is a big decision and should be talked about a lot . This is not talking about buying a couch or going away somewhere . A baby ties you to a person forever and one has to think about what the childs life is going to be like if one parent is forced into this without consulting the other or just not taking the time to listen to what the other person has to say . This is wrong and is the bigest form of trickery one could ever do to the person they are supposed to love .

No way, I couldn't trick someone into having a baby with me. I am sure he has a good reason for not wanting a baby, his own reasons which we might not understand =) If I was with someone who didn't want kids honestly I would move on because kids are so important to me!! Of course I already have my two =) I had to wait until my husband was realy to start trying, but it wasn't anywhere close to 10 years!! I agree that it would cause tons of problems in their marriage if she does trick him and becomes pregnant, that would be terrible because he could resent the kids forever because he said he wasn't ready.

He must have his reasons for not wanting one. In my case had 3 with the ex-wife and she wanted more and i did not she tried to trick or fool me but she did nto get pregnant for what ever reason so she decided to leave adn start over with someone else.

no. my partner wants to have children and I don't. but when it comes down to it, it's whether or not he'd dump me for someone that doesn't exist and he wouldn't. I wouldn't have a child just because he wants to have one. but on another level if I accidentally fell pregnant I would be more likely to have the baby because it would hurt to rob him of his child, if that child was real. but I wouldn't have one just to keep him, and he wouldn't make me make that choice. we're together because we love each other, not becuase I have a womb.

I don't think that tricking your partner into having a child is the right way to go about things. A person should respect the wishes of their partner and what they want. If she really wants a baby she should explain to him just how much she wants a baby if after they talk about it and he still doesn't want to have a child just yet then they should start discussing what their other options might be.

In that case, since my biological age is not getting any younger and I'm a woman, I will really have to persuade him. If he still doesnt agree, I think I have enough basis for annulment. I mean, you see, couples should reach a compromise. No trickery. Just adult and mature conservation on the matter.