If anyone else has gone through this....please give me a hand!

Cats are very jealous animals, I know because I have 7 of them.They are all for the most part accepting of each other.Most of them have knew each other since birth.My oldest is the worst sometimes she does lash out on a few of the younger ones, another she will do is pee on my bed if one is laying in her spot. One of my cats that came to me at about a year old took almost a year to come around and have the others accept it. My best advice to you is I would keep the Tom Cat away from them when I was not around I do think that he could hurt them, but once they are old enough to fend for their selves and they get use to everyone around them they should be O.K. Funny thing with cats some will never except one and other, my sister had two cats for over 8 years and they never excepted one and other but they tolerated each other. All cats are different and will respond differently there is not a lot you can do, they all have their own personality and I do not think that we can change them. Good luck to you.

Is your tom cat fixed? If not that might help. Also I would keep the kittens in a seperate room until they are bigger or if you have a cat carrier place a towel in it and when you are home say at night place them in there with the door shut and let him be around them via that method. Also make sure that you show him extra attention. I know that kittens at that age are a handful but you have to show him the same or more attention than before. I had 2 older cats and brought in another one and they had a fit but now they are best of friends. As they get older I think that he will adjust to them. Also with your older cat get hime treats if you don't feed him wet food get him a can and give it to him. Get him some catnip filled toys or his favorite type of toy and play with him. He is like a child and his nose is out of joint.

Well I have 5 cats and have always managed to integrate them without too many problems, but I guess the main thing at the moment for you as that the new kittens are still so young. So I suggest you keep them safe and secure in a room where the other cat can't get to them, while you're at work, and give him the run of the house and garden as before, and only try and integrate them slowly when you're there to supervise. That way he still feels "in control" and unthreatened, and they remain safe until they are a ittle bigger and stronger. Then just introduce them slowly to each other, making sure you talk calmly to your original cat, give him lots of cuddles, and make him feel "special" all the time you do so. To be brutally frank, he probably won't run away anyway, because cats have a very high survival instinct, and whilst he is safe and well fed with you, he is unlikely to stray too far. He might go out for a night or two and sulk, but that is all. If the kittens are female he is also unlikely to attack them as male cats are generally quite chivalrous with the females of the species - much more so than people!! As for the spitting when they first met - that's normal - my four male cats often growl and spit at each other - I always liken the to brothers - they fight amongst themselves, but if any other cat comes on their territory to attack one of them or their little sister, they all gang up together to protect each other. Good Luck with everything anyway.

hmm, i guess if the tomcat never gets used to the kittens you might need to find homes for them, if parting with them is okay for you. maybe you could give them more time to become acquainted with each other, or you could try doing stuff to make your tomcat less jealous of the other kittens.

Yeah I'm going thru the same thing. I have found putting the kitten in a small enclosed cage at nite & when Im gone helps in keeping her protected. My male cat in the beginning would hiss & spit then he'd just run away hes starting to get closer to the cage now.It's by no means a quick fix but it seems to be working in getting him used to her scent & sounds. He is now sleeping by her cage all the time. Hope this helps. P.S. I dont know about u but Ive had to be up every 2 hrs to feed her ive finaly got 4 hrs sleep last nite. Thank God!

Thats a tough one....At one point in my like I had 18 cats....yes 18. But with that batch of 18, I never had that problem.... Then I went to no cats...Then one day I was cat sitting for my friend and I ended up keeping her female cat After we moved, this cat had kittens....my hubby loved the kittens so we kept all 3 of them...So I was back up to 4 cats. Well, as time went by, she ended up pregnant by one of her own kitties and had a new litter...One if my cats were so jealous of the kittens that as soon as he had the chance, he ran out an opened door and never returned. He would swipe at the kittens if he heard them cry or if they went near him but other than that, he never tried to hurt them. Thats about the only input I can give. Hope it works out for you....

I know what you mean. I have one cat before and I feel bad for her because she is alone in the house for whole day so we decided to adopt one kitty for her. At first weeks, it's unbearble, they fight eveyrday and my cat started to changer her attitude. One night, i was watching TV and I held her to put her on my lap, then she scratched me so hard that it's very deep (the same mark I have when I do my cyst operation), she's changed! Anyways, after months, they get along with each other even play...(catch me catch me)... Just be patient and treat him like nothing is changed. I hope everything will be ok. ;)

Yep! you are right. a jealous male cat, may attempt to kill a kitten. keep them separated until these kittens are able to eat dry cat food. by then, they will be able to defend themselves and put a little "scare" into the tom cat. I have seen kittens fend off dobermans before, so I am pretty sure they can do it to toms (LOL)

I really don't what to do But,I think you may ask other person to help you