How do you fire a nanny?
By rtydata
@rtydata (80)
Philippines
June 3, 2007 1:00pm CST
I'm a really very understanding employer. My employees in my small bakeshop have a very good relationship with me as I treat them fairly and I try as much as possible to befriend them because I prefer working with people I like (of course). My nanny at home however, is older than me by 28 years I think and I make sure that even though I'm her employer, I should maintain a certain level of respect being that she's older than my husband and I. So I don't command her as if I'm a strict boss. I normally ask her politely. It's just recently that after 6 months of service, she now tends to do everything her way even if I don't approve of it. Like checking and changing my daughter's diaper every 2 to 3 hours even if it isn't full, I want my daughter to be comfortable and allow her to have rashes, she doesn't do it at all. She wants to feed my baby using a metal spoon and of course, I disapprove as she has a lot of soft bite ones and I don't want to get her injured or something. There are a lot of things she does that I don't approve of and she seems to be shoving my comments off. Enough is enough and I don;t want to risk my child safety or health. She also raised her voice at me the other day because I told her that I'm not really happy she over extends her rest days to 3 or 5 days instead of 1 or 2.
I'm in the process of looking for another nanny and by the time I get one, I'd be telling her to leave. My dilemma is that I don't know how to tell her as I've never really fired a person before and never had any reason to until now.
2 responses
@arianasmum (223)
• New Zealand
7 Jun 07
You really need to sit down first and tell her what you want and how it is going to be give her a chance to abide by your decissions before you fire her it maybe a good idea to put it in writing and photocopy it to just to protect yourself make sure it states that it is a warning or you maybe faced with legal action.
Which im sure if she wanted to if you fire her now without talking to her she would win you need to treat her as an employee and give her the same treatment as you would any other employee.
I'm not sure on the laws there but here you need to give 3 warnings two can be verbal and the third written. This needs to be done in any employee/ employer dispute unless it is in a case of abuse or theft which this isnt.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
I had the same problem before. We really have to tell our nanny that it's either so do it our way or she lives. It is never easy to fire a person especially those that are really old and seem to need the job. However, we have to make them see that we are the boss and should be followed. It is our child that she is taking care of. I once told my nanny that if she can't go on extending her days off and not do what I have asked her to do. The next time the she does it, then I am sorry to tell her that I could never allow her to come back or that she really have to leave.
