Help with housecleaning

To put it bluntly, I think your husband should "get with the times"! If it were the other way around, he'd more than likely want YOU to clean the house from top to bottom, AND deal with the bills (even though he earns the money....he wouldn't want to give himself a headache dealing with numbers. LOL). Sorry hon...I don't mean to be so brutal, but it sounds like your hubby is very self-centered and lazy. Am I close to being correct? It also sounds like he wants a "one sided marriage"-you do all the work, and he sits back and reaps the benefits, so to speak. And to me, that's not right or fair to you. Tell him it's his turn to be the good little househusband, and get off his duff and start kicking it in. (Gee...I'm not too opinionated am I? ROFL)

my thoughts are that you should be thinking along the lines of giving your husband a very clear and definite ultimatum. This should be that he should get a paid job as he clearly has no wish to do housework fulltime. He should then do half the housework with you, if there are jobs he does not like well you can do them and vice vearsa. But this shite of you doing all work both in and out of the house - girl, you are being taken for a mug!! Sit this man, your husband, down, tell him things cannot continue as they are because you are very tired and it is unfair. Tell him what is required. Be clear, don't argue, sim-ply lay it out on the table. Give him a maximum of THREE MONTHS no more, if there are no improvements in the right direction, the only way to go is the divorce courts. Good luck!!

on my opinion.. as what you've said, your husband right now is unemployed and you're the one working full time for your family.. maybe. he has to give you a little help cleaning the house and whatever help he can make.. anyway, he's just staying at home, why does he have to wait for you to let you do all the household while in fact he can make it on his own while you're at work.. that' would be a big help for you, if he did some of the household chores knowing that you're too tired from work then when you arrive at home, you'll come to know that nothing have done,, oh my... too bad for you if you're husband just stay at home and doing nothing but to watch tv or something... i wish you'll come to solve that problem of yours.. just talk to him calmly and explain your side.. i think talking to him in a nice way would do.. goodluck and God bless!

My hubby would already be out the door in your situation, Brenda. You work, you pay the bills..he should be doing allll the housework since he's decided he's going to let you earn the money to support you 2. If not, stop paying his share of the bills. I don't pay any of my hubby's bills. He has his, I have mine and we pay them out of our own checks. I got too stressed out over trying to make ends meet paying all the bills with our combined checks. Put me in a deep depression. If he starts up about it, start packing his bags and throw them out the door and tell him to follow suit. He's not good enough for you and he's showing it by not caring for your feelings.

Tell him, shape up or ship out. If he's not working he needs to get a clue & clean house, he's now a house husband! Or he needs to be employed full time looking for a job. Every day, 8 hrs a day hitting the pavement. And unless he's working more hours than you are, he still needs to help with the housework. Tell him, that he needs to take over 2 of the jobs, the laundry, the cooking, the washing up, or the house keeping.

Well if paying the bills is your duty, and cleaning the house is your duty, I'm dying to know what he believes HIS duty IS? He sounds like an overgrown child, and I'd tell him that either he can grow up and start contributing something to the household or he can leave. It's ridiculous that you have to work your buns off bringing money to make the household run and then keep it tidy after a long day's work. He's taking you for granted big time, and if I were you, there's no way I'd stand for that.

Marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership, so even if your husband was working he should share the household duties. Now that he is unemployed he probably feels inferior and depressed so in order to feel in control he refuses to do any work at home. But then I am not a professional counsellor. If you had a good relationship before this unemployment happened perhaps it would be a good idea to seek some marriage counselling so both of you could see the issues that hurt your relationship.

If you are working full time and he doesnt. He has to clean the house and make dinner when you come home.

Hey there brendakaya You need to have a serious talk with this person. If he is not going to be working then he should take care of the house work laundry and cooking. And dont let him tell you he doesnt know how. If he says that tell him you will show him how. Bottom line if he doesnt kick his butt out for awhile.

I think your husband is showing a lack of respect for you and I think that is what I would be talking to him about.

I would have to strangle him. This is not the dark ages any longer and he needs to realize that. It doesn't matter who is working or not, the one staying home should be doing the house work and cooking.If both work, it should be shared. Just because we are women doesn't mean we are to do all the work. He sounds like a chauvinist to me or using it as an excuse because he feels inadequate. As you can tell, I don't think highly of waiting on men hand and foot, Women as a rule work harder than men anyway, because they usually have two jobs.

Iwent for small trip for four days .After that I came back ,Isaw very dust in all rooms,and on all cloth.I am feeling tired but no body care husband went for rest to bedroom,children also same. I am shouting to help me to clean the house,but body listening me,no use.

Wow, This guy would not be long in my haoushold. I can tell you that. Take him to dr phil, please. I have a feeling he should met him and learn what a marrige is al about. Partnership al together. But of course you can not learn old dogs to sit, an old saying. So If I where you I would get him out of the house. Thats my opinion.

Show him middle finger. If he loves you he would have understood you and there is no point of living with a man who doesnt love you. Break up

i think you man is not been realistic-sorry i said that. Why on earth should he not be able to help when you pay the bills which should be the responsibility of the man. I think he doesn't appreciate you and he's kinda jealous that you have a job and he doesn't. You should be able to sit him down and tell him what you feel about the whole issue.

Oh my gosh...he needs to get off his a** and clean the house while you are at work! I normally think the woman should clean (I am just old-fashioned like that I guess) but since you are working and paying the bills he needs to step it up and take over the household duties. Not everything but he should definitely help out!!

I think even though he goes to work everyday like you,he should share the housework with you.let it alone that he is out of job,you are busy and tired on the day,if he loves you and he is considerate,he will do the housework.housecleaning is not women's duty because man and woman are equal in our society.