life after a child

I absolutely understand your feelings. I experienced the same before. Child did change many things. It's better that sometimes you ask your family to take care of your baby. And therefore your husband and you can have some private time. You can go to see a movie or something like that for a short time. Or go to the park with your husband and baby. Take photos and enjoy the family day. It'll cheer you up.

Its hard when you have kids to find quality time with your spouse. We have 4 kids and very seldom get any alone time. Try and find someone to care for your child maybe 1 time a week so you can go out to eat and maybe a movie or something you want to do. Then 1 time a month see about someone keeping your child overnight for a night or 2 so you can have quality time without having to tend with the baby. Good Luck!

Get a baby sitter for a night, so you two can go out and spend sometime together. and the best time to spend time with one another is while the baby is sleeping! Hate to say it but with kids, theres very little time for anyone!

My husband and I "date". Atleast one weekend a month, my parents keep our kids 4 and 2 overnight so that we can go out. we go out to dinner and sometimes a movie, or sometimes we rent a movie and cuddle up together on the couch to watch it. If you can't find someone to keep the baby overnight, maybe just find someone to watch the baby for a few hours so that you can go out to dinner. And sometimes you just have to except that it won't be the same lol. We also spend quality time as a family, so I still get to spend time with my husband, even if the kids are there too.

Like someone else mentioned "dating" is good it keeps the romance alive and a few minutes out without someone on your hip. We are really bad about it though because we don't really like to go anywhere. We have a great sitter who takes her on the weekends so we can watch a movie. And also if you have friends with kids see if you can swap kids. You and hubby go out one weekend and vice versa. That is what we have been doing.

I had the same problem. See if a family member or friend can watch your little one for the night and just go out to dinner and a movie.. or if money is tight, make a meal together and rent a movie together. :)

Well,I really don;t think we get any "alone" time anymore!Our little one is now 3 yrs old and things are still pretty much what they were when she was born.In our case,we have just adjusted to things though we do have private moments on weekends.Friday nights I make it a point to take a nap in the afternoon so I can spend some time with my husband once my daughter is asleep.I found that until my daughter was 2 yrs old,we had problems getting some private time because my daughter never slept for longer than 1 hour everytime I was not with her in bed...:)I guess things get easier and better once they start growing up but at 4 months,I think you still have to struggle some more time.I don;t mean to scare you,just telling from what I have experienced.I think having a baby sitter or someone to look after your child whle you both can go out to a dinner or a park for a stroll atleast will be a good idea.Do things together,like cooking tigether if your baby is asleep.Or maybe you could just sit together every weekend and have a nice chat once your little one is asleep.It may not be for a very long time but the thing is to shut your mind off from the baby completely when you are with our husband during this time.I know it is hard but that is how I survived because otherwise,with the kind of demands my daughter was making on me,both physical as well as emotional,I would certainly have gone mad in those first two yrs of her life!:)

this is very difficult during the first few months of having a child. It doesn't get much easier later on either! When my child was first born, we needed to have that alone time. I would put her to bed after she had her bottle and we would have that alone time afterwards. We didn't know how long she would remain asleep, but we always sat alone and watched t.v., no answering the phone, no outside activities, just me and him. You might want to consider having a babysitter for date night at least once a month. it is very important to have that!