I married my cousin...

Well I think the society is still conservaive about that issue but I know there are countries, particularly some muslim countries i think that allows marriage within family..I got that from a friend of mine from Yemen. She said she can marry a cousin or an uncle. Logically, I can say that all of us are actually one family tracing back to our origin from the bible ayt? how each of us got diff. surnames I have no idea but i sure am interested in that hehe. as for myself. I probably wouldn't marry a cousin..unless it's really a custom.. coz like u sed after all family is family.. but i have nothing against that:)

No there definitely isn't any reason to end it. I personally would not date any cousins whether they are first or 10th, but if I happened to marry one or even date one who I liked (not knowing) I wouldn't break-up/divorce because what is done is done.. especially not if there's kids involved. If you're already in love then being related somehow doesn't matter at all. The next step would be to look into having healthy children. Luckily you do and are already happy, so finding out that you're related at this late stage should be quite.. well, kinda funny! It's so crazy how life works sometimes, isn't it? =)

That had to be really shocking when you found out. I can honestly say I don't know what I would do. I am sure you did the right thing in your case. Fourth cousins, that's getting pretty far down there isn't it? When I think about it I can't even come up with a scenerio of who my fourth cousin would be........ my cousins child having a child who had a child.... I get lost in all this. Judging from your Avatar, you sure have cute children together!

Looking at this from the outside one may think...that's creepy, but the Royals have been and continue to do it. For example, Prince Charles and Lady Diana were cousins 7th or 8th removed. I'm sure if we were curious enough to do more searching we could find other Royals who were closer in relationship. As someone said further down, you never know how you can never truly know how you would respond unless you were in that situation.

Upon reading the title of this topic I got excited and said "Whoa!" I know a couple of my 4th cousins. They just visited us a few days ago. My boyfriend asked me if they were my first cousins and I just told him, "They're my 4th cousins which means we're almost totally unrelated." And if ever I found out that I married a 4th cousin, I'd feel weird. Well not entirely because I think it's quite fascinating that his relatives would know some of my relatives. Or something like that. :p But I really wouldn't know unless I was in your place.

Saying "Family is Family" is one thing, but in the context of this, it seems to neglect one aspect of the Family equation, as you have realized. There are children involved here. You have created a family unit, with Mother, Father and children. Though I personally do not advocate knowingly marrying a relative, at this point you already know thats too late to avoid. I'd do what you have already decided and stick with it. I might need some therapy at some point, however.

Do you live in the hills somewhere .. hell no I would not marry any of my cousins .. Well boy ones anyway ? I think ...

I'm with you- I would never date/marry a cousin- 4th is quite a bit out- but still- How are your kids?? I think I would be worried- they always said not to marry and have kids with family because the kids could have problems- I think once you get to 4th cousins - you should be safe- I'm not sure if I would end it or not- I guess if I found out we were 1st or 2nd- then probably yes- if there were no kids involved-- hey they say we are all related in some way or form!

Sorry, but I have another question. Is your's and DH's grandparents 1ST cousins? Your comment about how you said somewhere down the line both your grandparents became cousins is a little confusing...

Not too long ago my husband jokingly asked what would happen if we found out we were cousins. I gave him a grossed out look and told him I'd divorce him! Okay, only joking, but it does give me the creeps. I wouldn't purposely date a relative that's for sure! Like you said, family is family! But seeing we've been together for 15 years and have 2 kids together, I don't think it would be right to get a divorce solely over this. Though I'd feel strange making love to my husband after finding out we were related (especially if it was of close relation). This is one of the reasons I'm working on my family tree. To see if and where my husband and I are related. I do know we both have some Irish blood, though I know we are not first cousins (I didn't need a family tree to know this much). In your case, would you and your husband really be 4th cousins? It doesn't matter. I'm just curious how it comes out that way seeing that your grandma and your husband's grandma are cousins. Sorry, I'm just so confused when it comes to this stuff! LOL

I can releat My husband is my cousin;cousin we his uncle was married to my aunt on my mom's side and people don't like it and say that we are cousins and that we should not be married.In your case I feel that theres nothing wrong with it you and your husband are happy?If eveyone is happty you should be too.Think of your kids if you end everyting now think how your kids would feel.

Wow, that is crazy to find out after so long that you are married to your 4th cousin. I would not date my cousin, but if I found out that I had married my 4th cousin like you did, I don't think I could give up my happy marriage either. What a crazy thing to find out. Good Luck!

Well here in the philippines people are mindful of their lineages especially in the provinces, people are not allowed to marry if you are so closely related and people would know because usually the whole family is involved in the background analysis when it comes to the pre wedding plannings. But generally if a cousin is already 4 times removed from your tree is already good to go, actually thrice removed is good for us just as long as you are not second cousins or the incestuous situation of first cousins no way! My first girlfriend was my cousin four times removed her grand ma and my grand ma were cousins and when they found out that we were dating the laughed their head off, so that's why she looked almost like me hahah

You just knew that you were cousins after you got married? No one told you before? With your situation, I would suggest that you need not to be worried. Its not your fault that you marry your cousin. Also, in the Bible, the only forbidden by God to marry within the family is until the 3rd degree. So now try to be sure that you are no longer in 3rd degree of your husband.

To me, the problem for marrying own family member is the kids might have some problems. So, I will not date or marry my own cousin. But, as in your case, you didn't know both of you are cousins, and you two love each other so much and already built the happy family, then just let it be. Perhaps just need to do some check ups when you are pregnant. Hope both of you will be happy together forever. ^_^

I would not end my marriage because of it. As long as you guys are happy I would put it out of your mind. I was sitting here reading your post and stopped to think for a minute, I cannot even think of someone that would be my four cousin and we have a pretty tight family. But fourth cousin are pretty far back and if you think about it if anyone would dig deep enough we are all related one way or another. I would not worry about.

I would not intentional get involved with my cousin but if it happens and I find out later I would not end it because the damage is already done.

I would not knowingly date/marry a first or second cousin. Beyond that there's no risk of genitics tampering with children. I wouldn't worry about this with being 4th cousins.

I would never marry my cousin, just like you said, family is family. But if the man I love turned out to be my cousin after a lot of happy years (and children) together, I would never end it either. You'll just have to figure out the way to cope with this ugly piece of information you got, and that's it! Nothing needs to change in your family, it was just bad luck. I have aphrase for that in spanish, don't really know haow to translate it... "la vida es una tipa graciosa" (like Life's a funny chick, like she makes funny jokes on us, or something like that) =)

4th cousin is down the line, plus you didnt even know about it. I know family is family, but genetically you should be alright. If your happily married and you find out....oh well! If you know about it and intend to marry anyway.....? thats a diffenet subject. I would not knowingly marry my cousin....there's something that tells me that's not right