Working again dilemma...
By ellysmile_b
@ellysmile_b (77)
Philippines
June 4, 2007 9:49pm CST
My husband was transfered to another city because of work, and it was my personal decision to quit my job and be with him. At the same time I wanted to experience how it is being a stay-at-home mom. At first it was exciting, being in a new place with our baby. My day consists of: playing with my 2year old son, teaching him, cooking (I love to cook), watching tv, surfing the net. This was the kind of life that I dreamed of when I was still working. But lately, after 6 months of being at home, I'm beginning to miss my friends, my family back home, I'm even wondering how it is to be working again. I keep on asking myself, should I work again? What if I'll miss again the things that I do when I'm not working, specially being with my son 24/7? This is the kind of dilemma I'm having now. How about you, what are your dilemmas in life?
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@warriorsdaughter (791)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I love being a SAHM! When I did work outside the home I spent very little time with my children due to having to work and the way the schedules were. The only problem I have is I never get a break from the kids if needed. They are 9 mths, 2, 13, & 16.
I enjoy not having a set time schedule to be somewhere. If I want to sleep in I can, if I want to take the kids to the park I can. I can do what I want when I want and no job interferes with my time.
I think you would miss your son too much if you went back to work while he is still young. Or you could try just a part time job for a few hours a day each week. You have to do what your heart tells you and what you think is right! ;)
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@ellysmile_b (77)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Well said. I really would miss being with him if I work again. To think just locking myself in a room to use the internet for a few minutes makes me miss him so much already. Thank you.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
if the family is not experiencing financial difficulties as the husband's earnings can well provide for the family, i don't really see the reason why a mother must work other than the love for running or pursuing a career. in this case, any home based job will serve the purpose well and good. there is also not much risk to take. what will matter then will only be a little gained amount for the effort poured in.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
this is the trouble that all career mothers are facing. we are already holding a job before we ever get married. that's great to be a single career woman, ho hassles. after marriage, no problem. it is after the child gets to be born when the dilemma comes in. once we go back to work after the maternity leave, we keep on thinking as to how the child is at home. is he will attended to and cared for?
so we start to consider leaving our jobs. when the husbands give the go signal, we immediately grab it. then we find it to be fun being a full time mother and wife. yet boredom sets in after some years.
you are not alone in this predicament. so many career women turned stay at home moms are. think now deeply, as to which path it is that you really want to pursue. if you can find a home-based job that will be a much better option. you will not feel that what you have labored for, for so many years in school will sitll not be wasted this way.
@ellysmile_b (77)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Thank you. I just pray to God that I will find a home-based career. Thanks for posting!
