do you mind if your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend send message to him?

gurl its okay since she was the x i think they ended the relationship in good terms or out of camaraderie. And to think this girl becomes her girlfriend before you! you cannot stop them, jsut let your boyfriend know that you trust him and tell him don't give you any single reason not to!

I would mind too and before me and my husband got married and we were just dating so many girls would call his cell phone and this one girl would text him all the time and so I told him I am going to start texting them back and telling them not to call any more or I will call them myself he never called them back or texted them back but they just didn't want to give up. One girl he worked with just thought for some reason that she could do what she wanted and so every time she would call to talk to him about work I would yell Babe that and I said a bad name for her is on the phone. He got mad one time and told me don't say that and I asked him is she not a beep he said yes she is and do u want to be with her and he was like no all mad and I told him ok well she is on the phone again. After that she never would call unless she absolutly had to and 'til this day she is still so nice and tries to talk to me but I ignore her. Don't let your guard down with your boyfriend especially if you want a long lasting relationship with him. You never know what she might be trying to do.

Last sunday , I met my former boyfriend and borrowed him 4500RMB because his dad is ill with Cancer . My friends said :" you're so silly to do like this " . They think that I must still love him or he also have some kinds of feeling to you. I really don't know how to deny this . You know , I just wanna concern him or help him at this situation because he has married and had a child . I never consider to do his ex-girlfriend or ex-lover but I could be his friend . I hope so ! In my life , I usually like to cherish some kinds of relationship but never mean to disturb their lives . To be a ex-girlfriend , she has a right to create a friendship with his former boyfriend but she understand she just his friend . So , take it easy and give your boyfriend some friendship spaces .

ok, i can kind of relate to you. if i had found out that an ex had sent my husband a message, i would have been a little upset. it is not his fault that she sent that message. BUT i would have got very mad if he has responded back to her. the only difference being that i already know that i am a very extremly jealous person. i told that to my husband from the very start in order to avoid any huge fights. h is the exavt same way as me, only it took him a little longer to realize it. you cant stop her or him from writting to eachother, but if you tell him how you feel, then maybe he will stop. this will be a very good indication of how much he cares about your feelings. good luck!!!!

I can understand your feelings.Maybe it becauses you love him too much and frightened to lose him.But in fact,you are too emotional.As a person in the world,we can't cut the link with others.Under the same circumstance,maybe your ex-boyfriend will send you a message to show his wish.I think no matter him and you will feel happy.because at a special day,there's someone remember you.AnD in other way,it proves he was a good boy,doesn't it? Be happy all the time,my sister.hhehe

for me i think thats really no big deal...its just okay that your boyfriend would be greeted by his exgirlfriend coz you cant deny the fact that they have build a relationship from the past...perhaps they remain friends until now...what you feel is just normal, perhaps your just jealous bout her but just think that you dont have to worry coz he is with you now...

I've met such thing two years ago.It was my boyfriend's birthday,too.When we was in sleep in the morning,he received a test message.Then he made a phone call.It was his ex-girlfriend.They talked to each other for several minutes.I was not happy.Fortunately,at last he told her now he had a girlfriend.I thought she understood his meaning,because she never sent a message again.

If I were you I'll mind too. I think it's common that you feel unhappy. If you feel nothing there maybe some probles between you and your boyfriend. Anyway, your boyfriend just a good boy and must love you very much. He is so cared your feeling. Maybe you should have a formal talk with that girl, then tell her don't break in on you two. You are a lucky girl , you have found someone so love you. Be happy everyday, don't feel so upset.

Heck yea I would mind if my boyfriends EX girl was sending him text messages, I would ask him to respect me and tell her to stop sendin him text messages and if that didnt work then I would get her number from his cell and call her and tell her to stop textin him. Good luck!

It depends. If she is regularly texting my BF and he is reciprocating her messages then I would mind, I would mind very much and he will definitely hear something from me. If she is just pestering my BF then I would probably text the girl myself and ask him to leave us alone. But if for example she just sent him a birthday greeting then I don't think I should feel bad for that. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Just talk to him, tell him how you feel, it's not his fault but it is an awful situation for you, etc. It worked for me! We talked a lot, and he made all my fears vanish. She just had to stop calling him, I won. =)

You should not be affected with the message from ex-girlfriend to your boyfriend. The fact that it's you who's with him in his special day is one great thing to be happy with! As long as the message of the girl is purely no meaning, you shouldn't feel bad at all.. Cheer up! Just think of ways to make your boyfie happy!

Take it easy,girl. It is not a big deal.If such things just happen occasionally, you need not to worry it very much.such contact between them is very common. In my opinion, your upset feeling is mainly derived of your own negligence and disappointment of celebration. First of all, if you feel guilty about birthday gift. You can tell your boyfriend about that, I think he will think you very lovely and forgive you about this. Secondly, simple celebration made you think more about your relationship. I do not know which character of your boyfriend is. As I know, some boys do not care about their birthday. Take my boyfriend for example, he seldom remember his birthday unless I tell him . From your expression, I regard that your deep love of your boyfriend make you a little un confidence. That is the main point of all of your troubles.

If i would have been in your situation i would have felt the same.But i think shhe is ex so u cant just tell ur boyfriend to stop talking as there is no relationship that existed before.You can trust him and see to it that that ex doesnt want that relationship back.IF u cant tolerate then speak abt this to ur boyfreind.

Well, if she just sent your boyfriend a text to wish him happy birthday, that really isn't that big a deal. If she texts him like..regularly, that another story. Granted, if my boyfriend's ex texted him I would probably get a bit bothered, but not enough to actually do anything about it. You should pick your battles wisely, I don't think this situation is worth a fight.

I hate that my husband's ex still wants him she knows were we live and the other day she had the never to say that he can come to her house anytime he want to.We live in the same area.

For me it doesn't really matter, it's his birthday so it's okay if she will text him. The problem for me, would be if she will text my boyfriend without reasons at all and during wee hours of the night..that won't be normal anymore. I'll let mt boyfriend know that I trust him.

I could understand your feelings because I have experienced that before. But what was your boyfriend's reactions towards the text message? Happy? Ignorant? And did he reply to that text and make an effort in keeping contact with his ex-girlfriend? If he just ignores the text and shows no happiness, I think there is nothing to worry about. But if he makes an effort to keep in contact with his ex. If I were you I would be worried and I would honestly tell him how I feel because communication is really important in a relationship. He wouldn't know what you are thinking if you act bad mood and stuff, he would just think that you turn emotional. You could just tell him that it upsets you that you two are still in contact and let's see how his response is.

it depends on the type of message and how often she tries to communicate with him. I need to know that she has moved on and can respect our relationship.

Personally I WOULD mind if my girlfriend's (if I had one) ex would text or call her. I mean, there is a reason why they put the 'ex' in front of the girlfriend. It is ex, over, finished, kapoot...then why the hell are you still texting her? Im not sure what the ladies think but Im sure many guys share the same sentiment.