Have You Ever Answered Back At Your Parents?
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
Philippines
30 responses
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
anyway, it is never too late to tell them that we are sorry for having hurt them long ago. they will always be happy to hear that we consider their feelings, too.
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
No, not with my parents but with my grandfather. It happened when I was in High School. I live with my grandparents because my parents cannot afford my school fees, projects, uniform, etc. Living away from your family is quite different, I have to do alot of chores.
I am not that bad girl of course. It's just that I feel being accused of something which I really don't do. I can't resist the feelings I have that time and I have to defense myself. My uncle scolded me for doing so, he said that I still have to respect my grandfather. As I explain my side it seems like as if it's still my fault.
Now that I've grown up, I feel guilty for what I've done. And I promise myself not to do it with anyone anymore.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
that is really hard, a lot harder to have been done with the grandfather. i can remember how sweet my grandparents were. they also have their shortcomings but always they are very sensitive and easily get hurt. anyway, i presume that you have already told your grandfather how sorry you are for that. actually, even now you can tell him that you are very sorry to have hurt him sometimes.
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@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
I never say sorry to my "lolo" even if I'm guilty of it. I can't. I know that it's wrong but I don't say anything wrong that time. It's just my voice which becomes louder during our discussion. I'm trying to explain my side in good manner but he never listened and keep on saying bad words and bad things about me. It's unfair. I'm hurt.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I never did answer back to my mom and dad. I knew better to do that if I wanted a rearend to sit on or teeth in my mouth. My mom was very strict and when she said to do something, you do it now. If we did not like what she said, we better keep our mouth closed. My daughter back talks me all the time though even though she knows I have told her not to do it and it is disrespectful.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
it is good that you are not guilty of this. as for your daughter, you can always can some private hours with her. then let her know that she is not supposed to talkback to you disrespectully. tell her how much it hurts. you can be sure that a heart to heart shall follow suit and you can both pour your heart outs. after this, you will find out that you will become much closer friends.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Thank you. I have had alot of talks with my daughter and it has helped a little bit. She stil does it to me but I think she knows in her mind it is not okay. She can't even explain why she does it. She says she means no harm but she gets frustrated and takes it all out on me. I have told her I can be her mom and her friend if she gives me a chance to.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yes, it also happened to me when i was still a teen and so immature, but now im trying to overcome it, now as much as possible im avoiding to raise my voice to my parents. they're already old and a little weak and giving them headaches, and madness would be very unrespectful.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
you are right about the need to be respectful and to be considerate of the feelings of our old folks. if they are angry and raise their voice, let us always bear in mind that these old folks have pains that they have to bear all the time. it is not easy to be old.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
5 Jun 07
well, we can always answer them back. even until now, i do but with less temper. i think i am a better child to them now than before.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
oh, i know this. i have encountered some friends who are forced to defend themselves from the accusing words of their parents.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
it is always during those rebellious years. i have my share of this when my children were of these ages. not from all of them though. not plenty either. they are so few and far between.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
yes, i have. way back when i was younger ,i often answer back but it's within reason maybe because i was still trying to prove something for myself ,to my parents that i am an adult already and proving to the whole world that "I AM" but now i feel otherwise maybe because i have matured enough to understand myself better. i even hold back in debating on some issues with other people because i know what matters most.i have found out that we have nothing to prove.misunderstanding starts when you think you have.it reminds me that each one of us has each own perception of things so i just let it be and i will find friends whom i can compromise.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
those teenage years are really the rebellious years. i had my share of this when my chldren reached those ages. it is good that you have mellowed considerably by now.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
There were times that I did answer back to my parents and though I didn't feel right about it, it was inevitable at that time. It happened when I tried to get a point across and they refused to listen and one time when they jump into conclusions and I needed to defend myself. But altogether I'm regretful about it.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
yes, it is good to be regreful for the wrongdoings that we do at times. although we always feel that we had to do it then, our parents will always be the authority above us.
@gsgonzalez2007 (1004)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
My mom was so strict! She always tell me that one virtue in her life that I must acquire is the respect for elders. But there was one time that she scolded me for something I never did. and so I was forced to reason out. I didn't know that she was hurt. I was so sorry then. I love my mom so much likewise my dad.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
i can see why you had to defend yourself from the accusing words of your mother. it really happens sometimes when parents are also the ones on the wrong side.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I can recall when I was about 6-8 years old I got mouthy with my mom she slapped me in the mouth. that was the last time I ever did it! I am glad I was raised to respect my mom she really did deserve my respect.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
ii is good to learn our lessons while we are still young. that is how we also learned ours then.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
congratulatins for being on the perfect one thousand points by now. as for that chat with your mom, it must have been real strong in order for you to have harvested a slap. parents do not slap their children for nothing. anyway, just say how sorry you are for all those past rebellious days. that will make a world of difference to your parents.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
12 Jun 07
The last time I did I ended up with a bloody nose. I do NOT recommend it!!!!
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
oh, sure. i don't recommend it either. it happened because your parents got the shock of their lives then.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
6 Jun 07
Oh yes!! Many times, especially when I was a lot younger.. Back then, I could never understand why I was being scolded and I always felt I had the right to answer back.. Being teenagers, I think it's inevitable to answer back. Most teens do it I guess. But now that I'm more mature, I understand why I get in trouble. I do tend to answer back but not as bad and I always say sorry in the end.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
whenever we answer back at our parents, it becomes our duty to let them know that we are sorry. once we say sorry to them, i have noticed that they will talk to us at length about what happened and why the anger. things get cleared then.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
you really had to apologize. our parents value thriftiness so much. i can see why they got angry. it is good that apologized for what you did immediately, it was the wisest thing to do then.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
5 Jun 07
yup. many times. i had been a little rude when i was a teenager. maybe, back then, i always thought that i should be free to do things on my own. i forgot that my parents will always be a part of my life and that they deserve to be respected. and so, i regret those days.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
well, it is high time for you to realize that you can always talk on a friendly plane with your parents. there is no need at all for hurting words hurled at each other. that will be painful and it not cause the problem to be resolved.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
i believe that our parents will really want to hear our end of the story, too. i used to do it when i am sure that they have cooled off. it is not wise to talk to somebody who is angry. it is good that you can still do it with some respect. that is really the best way to do it.
@michelle23uk (478)
•
5 Jun 07
Not anymore, i get on great with my parents now im older but when i was a teenager i was horrible i used to scream and shout at them if i didnt get what i wanted.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
oh, how happy must your parents are now that you are past that temperamental age. i have heard this from parents who are talking about their parental woes.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
it is true that we are forced to talk back when we are only defending ourselves. but there is a way of doing it in a friendly wasy, like you are still humbled by the fact that you are a child addressing your parents. tell them that you do not wish to be fighting with them so, if they could just simply listen to your side, too. that you just want to be heard. what our parents think and feel about us are not necessarily all correct. you know, when we talk to our parents and tell them our side of the story, they are really relieved to know that nothing is wrong. they are just concerned that's why they tell us things.
@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
there were times that we had disagreements with my parents when i was still in college. one of the things we argue with was about money matters. i insisted that the allowance they were giving me was not enough to cover my daily expenses in school. i explained everything to them but they were adamant. i answered them back with loud voice tantamount to saying that i shouted at them and they got angry and really mad at me. i left the house momentarily and went somewhere else. then i realized that i should have not done that (answering them back)after all because they were my parents. i was rude and disrespectful at that particular incident. so when i returned home, i asked them to accept my apology. and i regret doing that to them. they forgave me and i learned to a lot out of that experience. always pay respect to your parents. as the bible teaches us ,'honor thy father and thy mother.'
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
i believe that most of us will always honor our father and mother. arguments will just happen sometimes. it might have been wrong for you to have raised your voice then but, that's how it happens sometimes. we are just persons with some temperaments of out own. what is most important is for us to realize and admit that we were wrong, be humble enough to admit it, say sorry and correct our ways. i salute you on this.
@sonukuldeep (669)
• India
6 Jun 07
yes i have answered back but in my dreams.hehehe. its not that i am a very good son of my parents but sometimes i feel so irritated. but this doesn't stop me from disobeying them. i always care of them i am here because of them. when ever i don't like some habits i just go on saying yes yes or just walk away from that place till my head cools down. but as we all know human being are bound to make mistakes. i always respect my parent and never want to hurt them as they have given so much to me but i haven't.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
that is surely very nice of you. your parents will think that you are a very good and well behaved child. you don't only know how proudly they will talk about you with other parents.