How you raise your child reflects how you were raised as a child?

It is a fact of life that we turn into our parents at some point in our life. It will take great pains to keep from making the same mistakes they made with you. I was raised strict and will beatings. I did not turn out bad and I do not dislike my parents for the way they raised me. They kept me safe and I had no worries as a child. I just got to be a child. With my daughter I decided not to use the spanking route. I punished and took things away. I was however, strict. She did not go out with people I don't know and she is sixteen still in school and doing well. I guess I will just have to wait another ten or so years to see if I was a good mom or not. I am so glad that you and your boyfriend are discussing these kind of things. Being able to openly communicate how to raise kids as well as how to handle money is a great way to make a strong binding relationship.

That is the tendency of every parents to mimic their parent's way of raising a children and adapt it to their own family. But one good thing I learn and will alway uphold was what my mother told me when I was young, because there's no such perfect parents she just said every good thing that I saw from her I should take it as an example while every bad things should be left out. And that is what I'm doing right now to my children, some of the good stuffs that my parents done to me I also do it to them and as much as possible I don't want to do bad things that I was experienced from my parents unto my own children.

if ever i'll be a mother already, i will treat them as how i was treat by my mom, too. my mom is a cool mom but she always talk to me. open communication is necessary for parents and children. it strengthens their bond as a family and brings them closer together. just like my mother, i will never let a day pass me by without asking how my kid's day was and make him/her open up to me. i wanna make him/her my bestfriend just like what my mother is to me now.

well, you want your children to grow up with morals and respect for others. its important to guide them in there life so that they will grow to be stronge. a little strict and showing them the ways are great. also let them learn from there mistakes makes them a better person. we are a little strict with our children compared to other parents around us, but my child have respect and some here dont.

Yes it does. You would either want to raise them the way you were raised or in a opposite manner. Also, it is not true that if you are strict kids will not do stupid things. You should take the right approach, based on the kid and the situation. All 5 fingers are not the same, so the same method will not work every time, with everyone.

it really depends. peer pressure plays a big role in raising a child. unless otherwise you choose the kind of friends your child goes out with and be strict about it. i have a family friend who was raised a christian and with a good christian value. when he got married he showed the same example the way his parents raised him. but with today's kind of environment where brutality is almost next to being normal in our society, my friend's son, who was raised with all the love and support he needed ended up in jail. how? because of his friends. in life once a child is born he already has a mind of his own we cant control. parents can only guide. what he becomes is all because of what did to make up his life the way he wants it to be.

Not at all, far from it actually. I come from a terrible family with terrible parents. I will NEVER raise my children like I was raised, I try to do the complete opposite. Instead of neglect, I show my children love. Instead of physical abuse, I give my children hugs and kisses. Instead of mental abuse, I give my children encouragement. Instead of giving nothing, I give my children EVERYTHING. I will never raise my children the way I was raised because I try to be a good parent, not a bad one.

Yes it does... a lot. But it can also be the exact opposite if you grew in a broken family or with parents that are always arguing. I think in general, we tend to copy those traits that are good and beneficial for a long lasting relationships. Its good that you and your boyfriend are talking about that this early. Goodluck and have a long and happy relationship :)

I think this is relative to the type of person or individual and the relationship between the person to his parents during his younger years. Based on what you have mentioned, there's an opposite reaction to what your father does compared to his parents. When a person hates or loves the way his parents have treated him, he have the tendency to repeat it in the future or do the exact opposite. In our house, I can sense that both parents are very easy going with us as kids. My father was treated the same by his parents, while my mother was not. It simply picutred out what I was trying to figure out. Although am not a medical practioner or something, this is how I see it. Thanks my friend, God bless!