what would you do??

I think some people express their feelings or admiration and love in different ways. Some people are possessive in the way they want to know everything that their partner does during the day. Sometimes it is percieved of possessiveness but i honestly believe that sometimes it is not the case.As long as there is no jealousy, then there is nt too much to worry about. If there is jealousy then i think it will just get worse, if he wants her to disconnect from friends and family and stuff like that. If i was in that position i would back away from the relationship. A peaceful relationship is the way to go.

she can give one more chance to him she should know clearly whether he is possessive or not that may be care so suggest her to give him one more chance and at the same time she has to know the mentality of him

2 years is not a long time, but its not a short time either... I mean he care so he expects u to tell him.. N whats wrong with telling him? I mean u want to know about him too wont u? So its only right, at least tts what i think... For me, i dont give up on relationships easily... Once i love that person, i will always love him, unless he betrays me or my trust... And for sure, i wouldnt disown him.. If i felt that hes too possessive, i will tell him and talk to him over it.. Afterall, we are partners, theres nothing wrong with me telling u things that u dun like or i dun like... We all need our own space... Thrash things out.. It might work... N its for both their own good... I hope what i said helps... =)

Being possessive is gud..but over possessive is bad..C when two persons are in luv, they naturally tend to become resposible towards eachother..the guy need not have to tell her or she need not have to be reminded..i suppose...Gud relationship is nurished from the base of trust n luv,,,if this is there, there will be no problems at all

I can relate with her problem though, my ex is like that too. He's really sweet and caring but he needs to know where i am, how am i doing, what am i doing.. he needs to know everything!! Then when I'm busy, asks questions like that again.. I'll tell him that I'm busy.. but then keeps on doing that and it really annoys me. I can really see how much he loves me but I really think he's overboard. And I needed some time with myself too, you know.. I did talked to him about it and he said he's gonna adjust his self from doing the things which really annoy me. So I gave him a chance.. but then, it seems like he never changed. And to that its even worsen. So then I thought about it.. a lot of times, if should I just go or stay.. no matter how obvious it is that he loves me and he's very serious about me.. I still come up with the decision to let go. I couldn't stand him irritating me with that kind of attitude and that made me weaken my feelings for him.. since my love is already weak.. he made it even weaker.. so I let go. To your friend, tell her to be honest with her partner and that let him adjust that kind of attitude, if she really loves him and want to save their relationship.. then both of them must help each other to do so. :)

I have the similar situation as your friend.My boyfriend cares more about me than himself,even though sometimes I felt so nervous and irritated.But I know he loves me.And I love him.That is enough.I've talked about this topic with him many times,and asked for freedom.He knowed clearly,and had made more progress than I expected.I think the most important thing between couple is the correspondance.

i think it is just natural in a relationship to let your partner know where you are going. not to stop you from going where you wanna go to but to make him feel respected and make him feel at ease. atleast if something goes wrong, he'll know where to find you... that's trust. tell your friend to decide on her own. if she feels irritated being witht his guy, she should go and talk to the guy personally. open up the issue with him and make him understand why she's irritated. happy myLotting!

This girl seems like one of my friend. My friend feels like freedom, she doesn't like all the things about her be cared by her boyfriend. They quarrel often, but they can't break up. So now they carry on the reltation. And I think i never be her.

No, I would not continue this relationship...people who are possessivelike that can become violent sometimes....there is a distinct difference between a person who just wants to make sure that their loved one is safe and secure AND wanting to keep track of someone in a controling fashion....

i guess, u should explain to your friend that she does not need to be very stubborn. being in a relationship is all about understanding and doing things for each other, and not being close-minded, you should explain to her that she needs to be more open-minded and understand that he is doing so because he likes her and is concerned.........rest leav i to her. all the best mate !!!

No dont think i would not if his possessive dont belive that the relationship will ever work

Possessive isnt love its control, real love is a two way street with understanding and care. If someone is controling it is a supressed state and there for isnt love. I think if she can get out or remove the control she would be a much happier person. Love doesnt stop you doing what you want it holds your hand and guides you.

every coin has two sides ....... possesivness doesnt comes out of thin air.....its has its root in insecurity.....wen a guy feels insecure...he goes paranoid....wants to know wat his gal is doin at all time....dreading that he'll catch her lying....but ends up messin the relationship....here the gal has to b patient...try to work out that trust factor lackin in the relation... if things don work out even then.....i think she needs to breath sum fresh air n dump him immidiately.... cuz shes not a criminal to tell him her every move.... n he has to remember rule number **- that he is juz a boyfrnd....don try to b her father!!! think abt it hope the messege reached??

I dont think that because he wants to know when she goes out that he is possessive. I think that in a relationship letting ur mate know u were going out is an act of respect. If your mate didnt ask you would think he didnt care at all. If he still shows you love and affection i dont think she should end the relationship.

Well, when it comes to relationship, I guess the best person to figure out the whole situation are both of them. To me, love is not only caring and lovely, it's also about trust. If someone is too controlling the other's life, it will create problems between both of them, and there seems to be no privacy at all. I guess no matter how intimate two people are, there is still some privacy for individual. She's the one who's going out with that guy, I guess she's the right person to decide whether she wants to carry on the relationship or not.

I am sorry to say that these are signs of trouble for your friend. If a person is so controling that they have to know every move the other person is making, is not good. I would never put up with a guy wanting to know all my moves. I have been married for twenty years and my husband doesn't require my itinerary. With so many woman being abused by their boyfriends or husbands this sounds like a situation that should be nipped in the bud now. Your friend could become a statistic if she is not carefull. This guy could become so controling that he may hurt her. I wish her luck.

Well, I could understand why this girl would be irritated by her boyfriend. If I had a boyfriend that tried to control me like I was his, or he owned me then I would be pretty pissed. You can't control people and that's what he's trying to do. He has to learn to trust her, she's her own person and she has a life outside of their relationship and he needs to understand that. I would talk to him about this to try and fix the problem and if that didn't work then yeah, I would break up with him.

Dear Friend, Ur friend is not the right person to love.... If she really love him, she can't escape so easily froma relationships because of a such simple case. Thanks