What do you do when your child drops out of school?

I hate to say this, but depending on what your daughter goes into, she might not be setting herself back much at all. If she passes her GED, goes to Jr. College and does decent, she will be able to go to a univsersity as a Junior in two years. If she goes to the jr college and picks up some certifications she could be working at a decent job in two years. I knew people in college who graduated with honors and people who went your daughter's route. To tell you the truth, most of the students couldn't tell which was which and neither could the teachers. If your daughter dropped out from just laziness that is one thing, but if she felt like the whole high school thing was a waste of time for her, she could be right.

Try and get her back into school if you can. My husband has a niece that is pulling the same crap right now. Well, the school told her she is to old to go back to highschool. They went back on her school records and attentance. Now she says she is going to pay money to get her GED at home. But we know that won't happen. As she is living out of a car with her fiance'.(Her choice)

Ahhh, I see my spirit has been recycled through you rdaughter. I did the same thing when I was her age. I dropped out because I was insanely bored with school. You need to have someone close to her that she trusts explain to her that she thinks she is doing herself a favor by dropping out and getting the GED but what she is really doing is setting herself back. She'll need two years at a Jr. College, with transferrable credits before she goes on to university. If she'd stick it out one more year she could go straight to University. She will nto listen if this comes from you, so I suggest you find a trusted source to set her straight. Good luck to you!

Have a very good friend or someone who your child looks up to discuss with them the benfits of a good education. Attempt to find out the reason for them to drop out, and see if there is any possibility of rectifying this. Unfortunately teenagers don't often see the light at the end of the tunnel. All they see is that they are to spend so many years studying when to then there is fun to be had. So often school is boring, and if some teachers were to attempt to make learning a little more enjoyable we may not have as many drop outs. Other times many have comprehension problems and simply don't get the assistance they deserve. They then become frustrated and give up. Give your child as much support as possible, and if it's a case of school bullying or that they are frustrated, try suggesting home schooling. Good luck!

She is stubborn and clear. I think she will stand upto the problems and be successful. Nothing to panic.

she is doing good i.e she is not spoiling herself by doing such kind of thing.This kind of thinking would make her planful in her life and she could decide every difficult situation in future.School to jr.college then university is the right move.By doing this she would be smooth in her life ,NOT diffcult.So only thing si needed is just make her think free about deciding any thing.Make him enjoy it.enjoy life and study which would be healthy in all respect.

I dropped out as well. Twice. I dropped out in my junior year, because my "boyfriend" who I thought I was madly in love with, dropped out, and did not want me at school when he wasn't. So, I followed him and dropped out. I then returned to school my senior year, and was placed in "alternative" classes, for behavior disorders. I stayed for a little more than 5 months, out of 9 months that school is in session...then, we got back together and I quit again. I didn't want to be there, I had better things to do! And at the time, I didn't realize how hard my life would be right now, at this point in my life. And, if I could do it all over again, I would NEVER let anyone influence me so much that I would give up the entire future that I had mapped out since I was young! I did get my GED, and I am attending jwcc.....but, its so much harder to find decent employment, which is why I am holding the crap job I have right now. Your daughter should really rethink her decision! But, you have to stop beating yourself up. This was her decision, not yours. It was nothing you did as a parent, and there is nothing you can really do about it, considering that she is old enough to make that decision herself. I feel that the age of consent for dropping school should be 18, that wsy the parents do have control of it, but for now, just support her and be there for her in her decisions. You have to let her make her own mistakes now!

If I were you, let her do what she wants... Stop giving her all the 'extras'... Let her learn the hard way... Do not give her any financial assistance if she prefers to follow this route.. Let her learn the hard way.. If she thinks that this is the right way, let it be!!

I also did pretty much the same thing. I dropped out of high school twice. The second time I took my GED test within a month of being out of high school and by the following September I was starting college. Although in some ways it is the harder way to do things; it honestly worked out great for me. High school was not only boring for me, I also felt it was almost dangerous. I am not, nor was I ever the partying type. It was so hard to say no to my friends who were doing things I wasn't interested in doing. I am a pretty strong person, and I think I have a good sense of right & wrong; but at 14,15,16 etc it's hard to balance wanting to fit in & wanting to stick to what you know is right. College was such a different experience. It was challenging, but it was also far more accepting than high school had been. Best of luck to you & your daughter.

My son tried to drop out of school. I took him every single day and went to every single class with him. Told him that I would do it until he graduated or until he realized he was going to go, whichever came first. He didn't like the idea that after about a week, I would walk into the highschool doors and all the kids would yell "Hi Mom". He decided that he needed to stay and finish.

If you did not say that 'she's had everything she's ever wanted and needed,' I'd think this is just a matter of something like she wanted to get just to attract attention. BUT, I guess this is way beyond that. If she's finally decided that she'd do it without retrieving, you ought to give her a lesson. I think your daughter wants to have it all on her way or her terms. As I perceive it, she wants to be a grown-up right away. She's not the only child who's like this in her generation & I know you know it as well. If she wants to be treated that way, then treat her that way. Sometimes, we should do things needed to be done, even though it will hurt us and our loved ones. Tell her that she ought to assume full responsibility of her doings along with its after-effects. If she goes the right path, then, well & good - for her & for you. If not, maybe she'll have second thoughts of not conforming to your rules or to standards. Oftentimes, we learn to see our mistakes when we have already done it and trouble has been done. We then begin to amend our lives and follow the higher command.

I do believe there is an underlying reason for this. Try to talk it over with her. Now if she refuses to listen to you, the other thing that I believe you should do is to visit her school, and have a serious talk with her class adviser or whoever is in charge of her class. From this, you might be able to get an insight as to the reason she so suddenly decided to drop out of school. Also, talk with her classmates especially those who are close to her. They might know the real reason for her decision. Whatever information you might get, you can now use these info as your way of coaching her to reconsider her decision.

Im a junior myself and i see kids drop out all the time and most of the time is a personal preference. They have an idea of there future but dont undertsnad how more difficult it would be. Staying in school would of been her best bet but maybe it wasen't for her. Have u tried talking to her to see what went wrong and her reasons to do such a thing? Personally dropping out is not an option for me but i know the how it is and it could get stressful to the point where one wants to say i quit. Talk to her not as a mother but as a friend and try to find out whats wrong and how shes going to deal with this and her plans right now and whatevr it is support her and try to help her even though she might of made a mistake.

Please tell her to go back!! Take it from me! I thought I could do it - leave school do the acting thing get my GED blah blah blah... It was the worst mistake ever!! The future looks bright when your in dream land, but reality is there is no one pushing her to go to school everyday there is no teacher to give detention, there is no principal to suspend her. So basicaly there is no rules to follow by so it is very easy to sleep in, fall off the band wagon etc.. I regret my decision everyday! Although I have a great job I know I would be further in life if I finished high school. Kids look at the glamour part of doing it on their own and they forget to look at the reality of it and it can be ugly.

If she spent all her life having everything she want then it's about time you let her learn that in this life you can't have everything you want. Let her do what she wants, but tell her since it's her decision then she has to pay her way to get what she wants. It's a painful lesson to teach her yes but if she wouldn't listen to you then let her learn it the hardway. Goodluck!