Did i ask something wrong

Dear Friend, Sometimes in life we have to face difficult times with money. May be your mother has a problem that she can't tell you. Otherwise a mother never rejects a childs pleasure. So be patient...that's the best thing Thanks

Maybe something else is bothering her....it can be very difficult to afford the expenses involved in achieving a higher education..... Maybe you should look into a part time job...it will make you feel better about yourself because, you will be able to purchase some of the items that you need without having to ask for help.... It would show your parents that you are a responsible young person aiming for a life of educated adulthood....remind your Mom that you really do appreciate all of the sacrifices that she has made and continues to make in order for you to achieve your goals... Communication is difficult sometimes...try to put yourself in your mother's place and she is you would feel as she says she does right now.....another perspective can sometimes make a world of differences...... I wish you and your Mother the best of luck in remedying this argument and returning to a relationship of love and mutual respect.......the relationship of a mother and daughter is one that is very special...

When the anger flares up, lot's of things get said. Unfortunately the needed communication does not happen. Put your anger aside, forgive your mom for her anger and then calmly, with humility and respect, ask your mom to explain her side of the issue. When she has done so, do not immediately try to squish her point with yours. Take it under consideration. See what you can learn, and then the two of you can work out a compromise. Hope it works out well, paradise12. djbtol

I think she wants to be a good mum but she is feeling the strain. On one hand, she doesn't want you to work because she can't bear for you to suffer. So, she said don't work, I will give you the money. Yet on the other, she does not have money herself... so she can't keep her promise. It is hard to blame someone who loves you.

yes you may have done something wrong her...your mom handles ur finances as well as loves you...so she won't refuse u anything she can handle..maybe the finances are not right at your home...just say sorry to mom and make it up

To tell you frankly i don't see anything wrong on what you asked her. Maybe what ahve caused this is that your mom is going throug some problems or really stressed out lately. It also possible that there is a financial crisis that your mom don't want you to know. The best thing that you could do is to have an intimate to with your mom. Have a serious talk. Encourage her to open up to you and be her bestfriend so that this will not happend again.

oh. but school's gonna start again next week as you've mentioned. and she's gonna give you the money next month? she should realize that you did nothing wrong. you are just reminding her about the money she promised you for payment in school. your mom is just in a defensive mood that's why she's giving out lots of explanations. just sad that she is trying to make you feel that you did something wrong and that's why you aren't talking to each other. well, since you still is her daughter, i suggest that you do the first move. go up to her and start the conversation with her. explain your side and make her understand. mothers are hardheaded, too sometimes, but they always have a weak spot for their kids. so, she will understand you for sure. have a great day!

My question is if you are in college and on a break of some sort, why didn't you get a internship or a job in the field you want to do in to get experience and have some extra money so you wouldn't have to ask your mom? She may have promised without realizing some bills or something. I say don't keep not talking to her. I don't really know who's at fault, maybe there is something more to it.

You say that she has the money now. Which may be true, but you may not know what kind of bills are lurking. I know how difficult it can be to make sure there is money left at the end of the month. Be patient. If she promised you the money, you will get it. If you behave properly that is.

yup...to a certain extent i wud agree with ur mom... its not easy to handle expenses at home....sumtimes u may hv 10,000 but still feel that u might face shortage at the end of the month....there are many things parents dont tell kids abt financial status...cuz they jus don wanna giv them any kind of tensions...they try to solve it themselves withoput the kids knowledge.... wen she says u r immature...tk it in the right way...she doesnt think its the time to tell u abt household tensions mayb she wishs u to hv a lil more fun in life b4 u tk all this tension...try being calm n ask if there is ne problem...say its ok if u cant get the money...its juz that u want to know if there sum kind of crisis they are facing... try it!!