Are there any Army Wives out there??
By lblwydman
@lblwydman (25)
United States
June 6, 2007 5:36am CST
I am new to mylot and I have yet to see any discussions related to army wives; so I decided to start one. My husband has been in the army now, 7 years. This is a very interesting lifestyle; especially during a time of war. He has been deployed to Kuwait/Iraq and they will be leaving again. I would like to know how you are dealing with deployments.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I am getting ready to deal with my husbands deployment to Iraq. He has been deployed to Afghanistan and just got back 9 months ago and is now leaving again. I am not too happy about htat, but it is the life we lead. it is hard, but I work a part time job, volunteer for the family readiness group, garden, do things with my daughter, and just keep busy. I bought a bunch of books to keep me busy reading to take up the time during the quiet hours in the evening when everyone is in bed and everything is so quiet. That is the worst time for me. Early in the morning when everything is quiet and late in the evening when all is done and it is time to relax. That is when I am the most depressed about him being gone. Well, welcome to mylot and I hope you have a good time here!
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@lblwydman (25)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Hi mamasan34! I completely agree with you; being busy is the best thing. My son will be in K starting in the fall and I want to put my daughter in a Mom's morning out program. I plan to be invovled in my sons' school with PTA and anyway I can be of help. I also plan to start some things on my own. The best I feel I can do is pray for my husband and battalion's safety and maintain stability here at home for the kids. That is not always an easy thing, but I'm learning to do that. Thanks for responding!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
11 Jun 07
You are right to do all that you are doing. It will keep you busy and it will keep the kids life stable and them busy as well. It will make the time pass quickly. My husband has left for his deployment on Friday and I miss him terribly. I am now the treasurer of the FRG for my husbands unit, I work part time, on my off time I go yard saling, go to the pool, go walking, I am goig to take up gardening here shortly and my daughter keeps me busy as well. So, we can keep up with each other on mylot and keep each other inspired! LOL
@tamskie (388)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Hello. I am not an army wife but I used to be an army girlfriend. We broke up 3 weeks ago. I will never ever have an army boyfriend again. It will just make you grow unhappy everyday. My army boyfriend used to make me just stay at home, not go out with friend, atleast go home before 5 oclock in the afternoon. It just made me hate him and that's why I decided to break up with him. I think being an army wife is the hardest thing to do on earth. I will never want to be an army wife.
I belive in your faith. Army wives just live their lives thinking of their husbands in war, am I right? Army wives are always unhappy and whenever they are happy it is just a short while.
I hope that all of you will find their true happiness. :)
@lblwydman (25)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Well, as far as just thinking about my husband being at war - that is a constant thought in my head, but I don't let it be the main thought. If I did that, then I would never get anything done. Being an Army wife is tough; especially during a time of war. And honestly, true happienss is going to come from me anyway; not him. As I stated in the original discussion, we've been in the military for 7 years and I'm still learning about military lifestyle. In your case, I think it's great that you got a taste of the "military" life and decided it wasn't for you before your relationship went to marriage. Now, all military spouses do not have their spouses in by a certain time, or don't want them to talk to other people, etc. It happens, but not to everyone. Military life is not for everyone. Thank you for responding and I also hope you find your true happiness! :)
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@listenup (29)
• United States
14 Jun 07
You should remember that you broke up with him because of the way HE treated you. I was an army girlfriend for 2 yrs before I became an army wife...and yes to the same guy.
Though this is my husband's third deployment to Iraq it is not at the forefront of my mind. I do what I have to do to keep my sanity and keep our household going and give him some sanity in the midst of him being in a war. Unhappy isn't what I feel. I love my husband,I am proud of my husband, and I miss my husband! I loved God first, and the joy that didn't come from the world nor can the world take it away. You never let someone steal away yours. As for military family life..
A career in the military means sacrifices will be made and you may have to leave your family for long periods of time.Life is sometimes hard, and military life is sometimes harder. You find the faith and strength to keep living . It takes special men & women to become and remain committed to our servicemembers.
Bottom line__________________
YOU MET A JERK WHO HAPPENED TO BE IN THE ARMY.He was controlling and made you unhappy. That does not happen with everyone.
Find your true happiness, Tamskie.
Never settle for a -jerk military or civilian :)
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I am not an Army wife, but I am an Air Force wife. I know that in some ways we definitely have it easier. Our husbands aren't deployed as long, or as often for the most part. But it's still hard.
My husband has been in the Air Force for almost 4 years. We've been married for a little over 2 of them. He hasn't been deployed since we've been married, but his name has come up for the one leaving in January. It's going to be hard, but I know we will make it through it. I'll probably be asking for advice on how to make it through once we get to that point, though.
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@lblwydman (25)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Please do! If all I can do is lend a listening ear, then I'm hear for you. Thanks for responding!
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@CarlyLaine (759)
• United States
6 Jun 07
IBLWYDMAN
I'm not a military wife now, but I was for 10 years just before the Iranian Crisis in 1980 (GAWD that was so long ago.). I know what you are going through.
At first I did deal well with the short 'practice' deployments. On the big one, though, I cried and was depressed. The worst though for me was that he moved me from San Diego, CA to Dallas, TX to be closer to his family and have someone there if I needed help; his family was horrible. That actually made it worse because I had to leave all of my friends behind in CALIFORNIA. It was the beginning of my marriage break up.
I'd say keep busy, find new things to do and stay close to your friends because they are the ones who'll help you get through this horrible ordeal. Write constantly to your husband, even if he doesn't write as often.
It's rough; hang in there.
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@lblwydman (25)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Hi CarlyLaine! Thank you for your encouraging words.
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I, too, am an army wife. My husband and I have been married a little over three years and this is his second deployment to Iraq since we've been married. he's been in the army for 12 years and has just reenlisted. I cope day to day. I have good days and I have bad days, but mostly I just worry about him. I get lonely, but that's the life of an army wife. you pray alot, you cry alot, and you are one of the strongest women around. i have three children to help keep my mind off of him being gone until night time. that's when i miss him the most. then i write a letter or i just let myself cry. your role is the hardest job in the army. i have no doubt about that at all. you will survive. you are the strong one that has to hold the fort down at home while he is away. if you need anything just let me know. i am here to listen
