parents and career ,which one will you choose?

My career. I am the most important. LOL

Parents are everything for me.They supported me a lot in every way.I prefer both parents and career.I would find a job where my parents stay.I want to look after my parents.

Try to convince your parents. Career is important in life. You have to come up in life. It will also help your married life family members' needs. I do not say parents are secondary, but you can come often to be with them, phone and mobile are very much there today. Email is also there for communication. So I do not see any problem if you take up long distance career. After all you can be with them when it is needed is it not?

I would definitely choose what is best for me at that time of my life. Our parents have raised us and we try to be there for them, but if your career takes you to a different location than your hometown you should go if you enjoy your career. You can always visit your family and have them visit you. Also with the technology today you can communicate with them daily.

i think i'll go fo my parents because i htink parents once lost can never be earned and money once lost can be earned again and agian!!

Hmm you are stuck here arent you, I worked for my parents in their own business for a while but I was offered a job with more hours and alot better pay, my parents were quite disappointed when I told them I was leaving their business but a few months down the track and I am doing a job that I love, my parents have got over it and we are all happy again, sometimes in life you have to do what is best for you not what is best for your family.

Any lovable parents would always advise the children to choose the career of their choice instead of asking the children to look after them.

well...a very practicle question to me..i m facing very close situation...my father is suffering from fatal disease (MND)...i m studying in my college..n its my peak time to build up my career..but at the same time i hv 2 look after my dad who cant even turn around without my help..its really hard for me now..i cant decide wheather i should properly look after my father..or build my career by studying hard..i think i cant do both things simultaneously..so now i have fixed time..i utilise every minute of my day..so now i can atleast make sure proper caring of father...along wid my career..

I would definitley have to say Career. Take the job simpley because if you don't you will feel let down and disappointed. If it is something you reall want to do By all means do it. In later years you will be unhappy because you missed an opportunity to maybe get ahead. It seems as we grow older we look back on our lives and Gosh I wish I ha done that, or why was I so stupid not to do that. Just thnk where I might have been if I had done that. You can always visit your family on your time off. Phone them all the time. All parents go thru some sort of empty nest syndrom after all the kids leave It is hard not to after having them there for so many years Wendy

It will depends on many factors. This problems, only u can settle them. My parents always give me and two other siblings freedom to choose and lead our life. But they do hope that we can stay near to their place.... at least to visit them once a week. But if the job offered to me is my dream job, they will feel better to let me go and give me chance to go after my dreams. But I will always put them first...... :)

This is a very tough choice. Do your brothers still live with your parents? If so, it'll be better. I think you can have a big improvements and more choices in the big city. I suggest you to have a talk with your parents and tell them why you want to live in the big city rather than the small town. If you work in the big city, if everything goes well, then perhaps after a few years, you can let your parents live with you in the big city. At least you have gained the precious experience and learned a lot, then you can find a better career in your hometown or have your own business. So I will go to work in the big city at first. After a few years, I can see where I shall stay at last.

I would choose career anyday and make time for the family when I can. It is a tough juggling act but I would need my career not just for daily expenses but also for investments and such to attain financial freedom one day. So I would not give up on my career.

you should nt feel guilty about making decisions that are best for you.Make sure your parents dont put a guilt trip on you they should want you to do what you want to do. Their life wont be over if you leave. You can ring everyday and visit once a month or something. Your life in the long run is what matters

parents! because if without them we dont have a career right now..but..its always your choice..beacuse there are some...bad parents

Definitely parents... They come first, you have got life from your parents.. How could it be a career ??

I think all family members sit together and decide this matter, as this is related to your carrier. In western countries, it is common but in countries like China, India matter is different. 30 hours journey means it is too much far from your home. If you have age and you are hopeful to get other job near your hometown, then you should leave that one. But before leaving that trainer's job, find a new one. Till then continue it. In this way you can keep happy your parents also. Try to understand them your problem. Service is equal important for us as living with parents/family. Better you all try for new job near your town and leave the present one.

I had the same experience with you.but when I choose my job,which is in jiangsu,but my hometown is in hebei,my parents and my brother did not want me to go there,but I cherish that job,so I went there.but where,I can not accustomed to that hot weather and other life habit.every time I made phone to my parents,I had a cry.which made my parents worry about me very much.now I am in harbin,I quitted that job and came to harbin with my boyfriend.yes,it is farer away from my hometown,but I will go to a city which is just near my hometown,because I know I have to take care of my parents in the future.

Making a career is a very important thing in one's life.But is very difficult to choose between family & career. Once even i faced the same problem.I was teaching in the school, i found out that my kids & my family was getting neglected.Finally i left my job.We can find various jobs in our life but parents are never by choice. We should understand their feelings & the hardships they underwent in bringing us up. The emotions, feelings that we have for our parents is unquestionable.At the end of the day we should have a feeling of happiness & satisfaction which matters & not the money. Staying with parents & the time spent with them we will always cherish.

Most of young people wanna go to the big city where are full of challenge and opportunity.they look forward to finding a good job there,and live in a better life. but the parents always hope their children can stay with them,they can see their children everyday.they do not want their kids to find a job far away from their hometown. it is difficult for you to choose,if I were you,I will choose my parents. but I think you can find a better way to solve this problem.you can communicate with you parents and your brother,let them help you to make a decision.maybe they will understand you after a good communication. Good luck. Everythin will be ok,everything will be fine.

It is a hard one because you could end up feeling guilty. But really guilty about what? Looking after your own interests? Doing what is best for you? People worry too much about how other people are going to feel and handle the decisions that you make. You have to think to yourself are they putting the guilt trip on you, because thats not fair, they should want you to do what you want to do!! Surely ou can ring every day and visit once a month?