Love....

United States
June 6, 2007 12:24pm CST
Ugh relationships! Me and my ex (who I have a child with) will be great for like a couple of months then we take a break, but a couple weeks later were running back into eachothers arms and doing it all over again! I love him with all my heart I just wish he would stop hurting me by playing take away the realtionship games because obviously we want to be together or we wouldn't keep going back and forth with eachother the way we do. At first I was thinking maybe it's comfort so I tried dating but NO It's not comfort because I hated dating! The guys were like him, they didn't make me laugh like him, They didn't know me like him etc... So right now I don't know what we are were just goin with the flow but it gets old and I'm getting old and I want to know my future with him. Does anyone else get this with their relationships?
1 response
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Get some couples counselling.. soon. You both clearly want to be together but have not put together the coping mechanisms to deal with each other. Releationships are serious work-- Vixen's lyrics to "It wouldn't be Love" come to mind--- It's finding ways of dealing with those days that aren't rainbows that make a relationship work. And it takes a lot of effort on both of you to bring it all home.
• United States
6 Jun 07
Thanks =) Yeah 8 yrs on and off this july - more on then off though - I offered counseling and he just shruged it off. He is very stubbern and thats where we butt heads
• United States
7 Jun 07
If he won't put in the effort, then its done. Time to move on, possibly physically move.