Do you think its fair that others judge who you are dating ?

I had an online relationship with a russian girlfriend. She used to send me emails everyday. She wanted to marry me. But my family objected to my decision. So I give up. I think family's approval is necessary to take any decision. Because you have to live with the family.

That depends. As your parents, I think it quite fair and normal that they interfere with your making friends as they are more experienced and know people better than you do. what you want and have now doesn't mean they are the best for you or suit you. So if you can take their openion into account when making friends, it won't hurt you.

the only thing to find comfort in is the knowlege that others truly care about you and want what is best but you are right we do have our own path in life and if we are going to make mistakes then we learn from them!

My parents didn't necessarily approve of the guys I dated for a while, so I just stopped introducing them. It wasn't too hard, when I was at college, 200 miles away from home (and 20 years old, anyway). They eventually stopped being as judgmental about the guys I was dating. They didn't really care for one of my ex-boyfriends, and I knew about that, but that didn't stop me from dating him for a while. As far as I can tell, they like my fiance. I'm sure there are a few small misgivings, but they have finally realized that I'm going to do what I want, and their opinion really doesn't affect me.

I don't think it is at all fair. Anyway who we date is our business and I for one could not give 2 hoots on what people think of me when I am out on a date with someone. But I worry what they might think of my date though. Especially if the date is of another race, people tend to stare and stare like they have never seen inter racial couples before

I think is is not fair that others will judge who you are dating but I think it is fair that they will tell you if something is wrong with that person. Don't always look forward to what you want because sometimes the things that you want is the things that will cause you so much pain. Believe me.

It is true that often family and friends are too quick to judge who we are in life but you have to stand up for what you want because there will never be someone good enough that will satify everyone and in the end it will be you who will spend the rest of your life alone because of others that are trying to protect you . There interests are in looking out for you but in the long run it will be you who suffers as a result of this . You could try bringing this up the next time someone finds a faulty in who you are with and throw in that how would they feel if someone was had been behind them telling the one they were with was not good enough . They would never had the loving relationshp they have today if they had someone finding fault in everyone they took home . Best of luck !!

well i happens whether we thinkits rite or wrong. i hate it though because its our rite to think wats rite or wrong for ourself!!

HI Silver, I am a white woman who is married to a Puerto Rican man. And boy do I get the looks and comments all the time. Never from my own family and friends but from people I dont even know. I get the comments mostly from the Puerto Rican ladies that say why does she have to take a PR man. Or we hear why is her married to her a white woman. But it really does not bother me so much.

Have you been talking to my parents.It sounds familar.I just broke up with a guy because my parents didn't like him.I know I'm old enough to make my own decisions of course.I actually had to lie to them for 4 months because I told them I broke up with him.I found out that the less they know the better because they will forever make judgement calls about who I go out with.It's your life not theirs.

I've gone thru the same thing as you I was going out with a guy for 4 years and we were engaged, my parents did not like him at all due to the fact that at times he didn't feel like going to work, but that didn't stop me I stayed with him until one day I realized that my mum was right about him I could do better. Then the day come when I told him to go because I knew that if I stayed with him I would end up miserable. I guess parents can be right about some people but I guess it take the other person a bit longer to see what they mean but I'm glad I did what i did. I hope that everything works out for you how you want it to go.