If one day your child will marry to a foreigner, what do you think?
By youless
@youless (112570)
Guangzhou, China
June 7, 2007 8:19am CST
Just suppose one day your child wants to get married with a foreigner, this one is from another country and probably has difference race, culture... Do you interfere it?
If my child really find the right one and they love each other very much. I won't interfere it at all. On the contrary, I will give my best wishes to them. Different race, culture, country... are not important, the key is this one is a nice person and have good characters.
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19 responses
@sumimasen (644)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I'm not so worried about that. I think variation is a good thing. Plus, you will have the advantage of learning about a different culture.
The culture would have to be fairly similar, however, it might be difficult with strict Catholics or religious zealots.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
8 Jun 07
personally, as soon as my kids are out of here and supporting themselves, i don't give a hoot who they choose to spend their lives with, because our opinion does not matter to them at all., and it shouldn't. they will live much longer than us (hopefully), and they have to live with them, not us!!!
@youless (112570)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jun 07
You are a very kind parent. In fact our children will be glad if we can accept their marriage. Even if we don't accept it, they still go on it anyway. Why not let everyone happy? Although we are older and much more experienced than them, but we are not always right.
@zengguoxing (773)
• China
10 Jun 07
If the thing happen to me one day,i think i will think about it carefully.To tell the truth,i'm a little worried about that.Cause you nearly have no idea about the condition in your son-in-law's country.And you are not sure wehether or not your son-in-law is lying.Many countries allow its citizens owning serval wives,so you're really worried about that.What's worse,the family abusement is very servious in some countries,that's the worst thing you should think about.So i discourage foreign marriage.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
8 Jun 07
It would not be a factor as long as they love each and the child is not being mistreated it wont matter. Love knows no nationality.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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9 Jun 07
It would be down to my son..
What I though wouldn't matter but I'd be cool with it aslong as it wasn't away for them to get into our contry, yet for love and etc
Kudos,
~Joey
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I feel the same way, if I have children one day and they fell in love with someone from another country or race, I would be supportive of them as long as the person has good values and treats them with respect. If my child was truly in love with them, I would just be happy that they were happy! :)
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
8 Jun 07
This entirely depend up on culture, country, individual if she/he agreed then it is fine.
@angela2006 (1845)
• China
8 Jun 07
I think if they love each other and the girl is kind and nice ,I will not interfere it.I know there are so many parents who interfere their child's marriage.they ask them have the same education level,ranks and so on.I think I will not be that parent.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
8 Jun 07
That'your own business!--this is the first suggestion I will tell my child.
Well,if I have a child,I don't think I should interrupt his/her decision because that my child will marry to a foreigner,but not me LoL.
As an adult,my kid will make a correct decision--I believe him/her.
Surely,different culture,country and race will bring to assortments of problems or issues to their marriage.But if one day,my kid will say to me that he/she will marry to a foreigner,I will give my best regards to them.
@explorations (1712)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I would support their decision because love is love. I'd work hard to learn the new culture or other things necessary to make family get togethers fun and enjoyable for everyone. If we don't open our minds and our hearts, then we're living very sheltered and, sometimes, meaningless lives.
@youless (112570)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jun 07
You did answer this discussion very well. Although I read everyone's reply and thought some were good responses. Now I think yours is the best. As you can open your heart to accept it and learn for the different culture and other things. You will make your future son-in-law/daughter-in-law very appreciated. It's lucky to have such an understanding parent like you. If one day my son marries to a foreign girl, I know what to do:)
@wulikanhua (140)
• China
8 Jun 07
Hello,youless,i think i will accept my son marry to a foreigner.Because love is the most important among,the skin colour,background and the other things.But ofcourse,they must show me why they falled in love.And also they can accept the different background and customs.And they must gain the foreigner's parent's blessing.Then i will accept them happily.In fact,many reports says the couple live more further the baby they have more clever. I would like to wait this.A lovely baby!:}
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
I have pop us this question to my son. I prefer intermarriages cos' the end product is beautiful and smarter. I have a number of relatives who are married to foreigners and I don't see any problem in their marriage. Their children are so sweet and beautiful.
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I don't think it will matter to me whether my child will marry a foreigner or just a local guy.
What would matter to me is if he loves my daughter and if he is ready to do all the sacrifices needed in order for them to live as a happy couple. I will not be in the way if he can show me he can. And one way to show this is for him to have a stable high paying job, a good background, family and friends. Also he should not have any vices like smoking and drinking, for these are two things I hate most in life.
Any man who professes love for my daughter must pass this y criteria and if he doesn't he better find another girl to woo, as he will not be getting my daughter for a wife.
As for my son, I will encourage him to be what I expect a son in law to be, as enumerated above, in that way, he would be a perfect husband to any lady out there who will fall in love with him.