Would you stay with a man who hits you?

No and i have really wondered to theese women who develop a Stockhold syndrome to their abusers. In fact the love and the physical abuse are two different things.And there is no excuse for a man who hits the loved woman.Sorry for your friend, but she must dare to leave if she doesnt want to be a slave of man like this.

I would never stay with a man that hit for any reason and i dont know how you can love a man that hurts you. I hope your riend wises up before it is to late. I think all you can do is be there for her Is this girl a minor or an adult? if she is a minor her parents do need to know about this,but she needs to stop this now before it gets out of hand.

Love is blind. Love is all that matters to some people. Once they get a hold of it, the don't want to let it go no matter what the consequences are. The abuser usually apologizes and promises to change, so the abused lives on that hope. I know someone who has stuck it out. Her partner has changed for the most part, but once in awhile it all comes back to bite her. She even says she doesn't know why she puts up with it, but she loves him. If she doesn't want help, there's not much you can do besides being there for her when she needs someone to lean on. No, I would never stay with a man who hits me. He would pay for his actions if he did.

i remember once ive been into that kind of relationship. my ex hit me twice. at first i forgive him coz after he did it he ask forgiveness until to the point that he try to kneel just to ask my forgiveness, because i loved him so much and remember the good days weve been together i forgived him and ask him not to do it again. he didnt do it for a couple of months until one day it was our company outing and i ask him to come with me. after the party we went to our house but there was one instances that makes him mad and hit me again. it was the second time i had bruises and still try to cover it so that my sister or may parents wont seen it. again he still do the same act of asking my forgiveness. i guess i was stupid then and think that there would any man love me the way he did when he is not mad. i forgive him for the second time even if it hurts a lot. i cant forget the day he is doing it. but one day he lives for another girl. i guess it was a blessing in disguise coz our relationship ended by then. althought i tried to fixed the relationship and willing to forgive him but i guess that was god's plan for me. it took me 2 years for the process of forgetting him. i guess i just love him so much thats why its hard to forget despite the bad things that happen to us. but now i am happy with the man who loves me and never tried to hurt me both physically and emotionally. it was one of the things that i wont forget about the past. i learned a lot from it. i cant blame girls who still try to understand and forgives there partner but if the actions still there i guess its time for them to wake up and leave the relationship while theres still a way to leave so that no one wont regret later. have a nice day!

My god,your friend is really silly and weak.Yes,there are lots of men who beat their wives,but the wives nowadays have their choices,right?Why stay with such brute person?Why not report his bad deed to parents or even authorities.U know,men is such a kind of animal,the more you love and be afraid of them,the more worse they treat u. If your friend do love her husband very much and do not want to leave him. I think she should at least give him a warning or a lesson,to let him know his deed is wrong. Or else,she will live a miserable life in her rest life,and can not get respect from her husband.

No way, who would enjoy the pain given by your loved ones, no matter physically or psychologically. Doesn't your friend see that the guy doesn't really treasure her as a respectful human being? I think it's good to talk to her about it and don't let love "blind" her eyes and nerves. It's a very unhealthy relationship. I would never stay with someone who hit me and I would report him to the police because I know from my heart that that person can't love me that much or at all if he is using physically violence!

I realize as a friend this is hard to understand but the truth is she does probably really love him , she is also scared and doesn't know how to face her fear . She feels all alone in this and can't imagine what life will be like without the guy she is with . She is emotionally and physically broke down . When someone abuses someone else they break that person down so they can gain complete control of them . I don't know what I would do . Honestly I would love to say that I would leave in a heartbeat but you don't ever know what you will do until faced with a sitatuation yourself . You can assume what you would do or go based on what you think you would do but what one does and what one says they will do when faced with this are not always the same things as you have no idea what the feelings and fear are that control a person into doing what they do . As her friend all you can do is be there for her and let her know that no matter what you will never abandon her even if you don't understand her . Take Care !!

of course, i would really hate him and don't stay with him...it's not good to hit a person, whether your a boy or a girl, specially, when a man hits a lady..it's abusing, need that person to be go to jail..in the case of your friend, having so much love with her bf really have disadvantage because she can hide the pain because of love..and it's not good because i'm sure her bf don't have respect and love to her anymore that's why his doing that bad thing..all you can do friend is that be at her side always,encourage her that she's living in a terrible life,pray for her hoping everything would be fine, soon..good luck friend..Gob Bless..

The first time someone hits me will be their last. I grew up with men who don't hit and will not suffer one that does. Your friend's self-esteem is in the gutter with her believing she should endure this pain because she loves him. You can guide her ti care for herself and you can show her there are other options out there but she ultimately has to be the one to decide the pain is not worth enduring and choose to end it. Be her friend and support her even if she keeps going back for more. One day she will thank you for sticking by her even when she gave up on herself.

i already hate the guy.....who does he think he is........report him.....i mean sure your friend might hate you for a while...but she'll survive...i hate when guys even shove their opinions in my face....if that happened to me i might wanna shoot him...convince ya friend against him....if she doesn't want your interference....then obviously stay out of her affairs..

She needs some serious counselling. The problem with people being abused is that they so rarely seek help, and its almost impossible to help them until they really want it. If you call the cops, I'm betting she'll deny anything happened. Support her, give her love and friendship. If an intervention is needed get help from her parents and others around her.

Iam a man. And there is no excuse, and NO situation exists to where a man ...lover...friend ... spouse ...whatever., should ever lay one finger on the woman that he suposidly loves. Anger is a management issue... hitting on woman is a criminal issue. Ill turn him in myself! Whats the name of the guy and number?

I did that too when I was married to my x. It takes a lot to leave someone you love. As a friend don't abandon her. Stay with her. What it is on her part is insecurity. Hopefully she won't get hurt. But it is very dangerous to stay in an abusive relationship even if it is just verbal it usually escolates farther and farther each time.

I think not. Though I know it is really hard to let go if you love someone but Women are made to be respected, nurtured and loved. Here in our country, there is a law against that. I hope your friend is okay though.

If she love him so much, I think you can give one more chance to him and told him and if he will do again this kind of thing she will not bear and complain it his parents and take a harsh step against him.

Never. Not in any circumstances should a man hit a woman, no matter if the woman has a fault. I suggest you talk to your friend, as friend, do not judge her or tell her off, just listen to her be a friend to her, maybe she has a deeper ahm shall we say insecurity that's why she stays with her boyfriend even though he hurts her. And if you find out what that is, that is where you will start to build up her self esteem belief in herself, because only she can gather her own strength to leave her boyfriend.

that's a typical emotion that women in abusive relationships feel, that they love the guy too much to be able to leave, and that the guy feels the same way. i know that perhaps if we we're in her shoes it would also be difficult to think objectively,especially if we feel that we really love the guy, that he is IT. however, i think the only thing you can do is stand by your friend, and let her see that this relationship is not doing her any good.

i think your friend do know how to love unconditionally..but soon she'll realized that it's not what she really wants..there's a limit to our sacrifices and time will come that she'll gonna give up with that man..help her realized that.

No, I don't approve violence against women. Even if you're married to that man. You should learn to respect yourself if you want others to respect you. I have learn it the hard way. My 5years relationship ended because he was living with another woman although he live with us before. He was hot tempered and everystings seems to upset him. t was because he had another girl. He left us and live with her. Me and son left and I found out I was pregnant with our youngest and I gave birth without him. After that I have move on and plans for our future but when his mother asks us to visit home and let their father see his sons, so we did go home. But to my dismay he welcome me with bruises because I hid the photo of him and the girl at our old room, my son saw it and told me about it I was crushed because when he was telling me he was tearry eyed an d I couldn't bear how hurt he was. So i hid the photo. He came home and that was the first thing he looked. He found it missing and hit me, choke me and say bad things to me. Infront of our sons. It was horrible, my eldest was watching us as he hurt me. The baby was crying as if he wanted to help me. His friend rushed over to stop him and pacify his anger. I no longer kow the person I have loved before. We left early in the morning, away from him, away from his cruelty.

Never stay with a guy who hits woman. She should realise that she has been spending her precious lifetime with the most cowardly man. Waste of time. By the way, what if a woman hits a man, can we also apply the same logic?