Love marraige VS arranged marraige.....what do you prefer?

I have not married yet, but i will surely do love marriage...I do not believe in marrying someone who i do not know and with whom i am expected to have love. I will marry someone who i love and who loves me.

i married the man i love and now, i'm happy and contented with my life having two kids and a husband that i love much... i just can't marry a man whom i don't love, i would just put my life in miserable standing.. so you guys out there.. be careful enough in choosing your mr. and miss right.. hehehe..

I believe one has to get to know a person first, be good friends and take the relationship from their if it blosoms into love and the couple is ready for commitment. Then they should get married to each other after courtship. Even if the families try to find suitable groom or bride i feel one has to love, admire and respect the person to marry someone which is much smooter if you are already in love and comfortable with each other.

I could not possibly climb into a bed with a man I did not love. One time when a guy kissed me I could tell just from that kiss that it wasn't right. Chemistry is a real thing. I wouldn't want to marry someone arranged for me to marry and then have to make love with him. Of course it wouldn't be making love if you don't love the guy. Nope. Can't do it.

Frankly speaking, if I have to marry i will prefer the situation where you know the person very well before deciding to live your life with that person. I believe arranged marriage is still there only in this part of the world, india, bangaladesh etc. I really am contradictory to the idea that your parents choose someone for you. You are decoided to live your life with taht person without loving him or knowing him. Here all the things rea=main surprise for you.So better to like a person before you marry.

Yes I agree with you there's a lot advantage and disadvantage in marrying the one you love and the marrying the one with prefered by your parents. Of course If I have a choice between them I preder to be married with the one I love and maybe all of us agree with this. But as of my marriage I can say married the man I love and arranged marriage too coz I got pregnant at the young age and our parents are quite conservative and I know that time It is really time for me to get married. And the resultsof that It did'nt work after three years of marriage I so all the things we don't have in common. Being steady for four years before marrying him I did not saw his qualification that someday he will not be a good husband to me because maybe that time I'm really blind because I love him so much. And thats the story of my marriage.

I am in a marriage of love. My husband and I have been together for 10 years married for 5 years. We have a good overall family life meaning that the 2 families mix well together most of the time and we have a great home life. I understand that many arranged marriages become ones of love or respectful coexistence the only person I have ever met that was in an arranged marriage was terrible unhappy. she was from England and he was from Canada when they married she had to move her to Canada leaving everyone she loved behind. He didn't allow her contact with her family saying the phone bill would be to high. He did allow her to finish her high school as the agreement with her father stated she should but he made her do it at night school so she could be a wife during the day. His mother lived with them and she slaved over them both. to make matters worse for her her husband had a girlfriend that he was seeing before they married and didn't stop seeing after they married. He would even spend the night with his girlfriend and not come home for days and when he was home his wife was a slave to him rather then a partner. I know that most arranged marriages aren't like that but that is my experience.

i think love marriage is good...in this ur life patner is one whom u love n always want to live together... but if we c our culture than its different ...acc. to our culture arranged marriage are more succesful... so i think both have there own plus n minus point... so we prefer both.....

I prefer love marriage more as to come and see guy and girl first then ask parents and boy's parents ask to see girl in saree.. and lots of stuff, so better to get married to your love one..

I can't see any reason why somebody would prefer an arranged marriage. Ironically enough, those are the marriages that seem to last the longest. I don't think that is because they are arranged though. That's probably because cultures in which arranged marriages are common also probably have stronger family values than other cultures. I have seen a lot of arranged marriages become love marriages, but that is because the marriage is arranged in the best interests of the parties involved rather than their parents.

I will always prefer to go in for arrange marriage because I think that a guy which my parents can ind for me will be much better than what I will choose as I can take a decision in emotions also but they will always try to find each and everything about that guy and they will see that whether I will be happy with him or not.So I truly believe that their choice will be better than mine.

to my personal knowledge arrange marriage are bad, why is that its not include real love for ones mind, fellow may not understand each other to the normal level, its also didn't entertain enough courship etc.

It is important that there should be LOVE before getting married. Some old days forced their sons and daughters to marry the person they want,not even asking if they love the person. And at the end,there always had a separation because of the different interest and they don't have love for each other. And i don't think how to cope up when i am in this situation.

hello there.I'm already a married woman and i was married out of love.Of course we both love each other that's why we got married.And how's our life after we got married?Enjoyable in the sense that we will have the time together always since then.We became close friends, brother and sister and we shared a lot of things together.Although you can't do away those petty quarrels where most couples have.But we get to settle it in no time.Arranged marriage is only good if both of you has the love too and not purely arranged only.

I would always prefer love marriage.I won't be able to a relationship where i don't know my partner and love him.I would love someone then would prefer to get my family's approval too.So love first and then arrange the marriage.

love marriages are better than arranged becz . in love marriages we will have a chance to understand the person. we have to share our life with that person so understandings are very important in arranged marriages we can know abt her family but not abt her mentality if you are not in love then you should completely understand the person with who you want to share your life

I think you are right about each situation having its own set of advantages and disadvantages. The reasons you give are quite possible and may happen in real life. However, I also believe that in either way, couples have to work hard in order for the marriage to work. In a "love marriage" the couple expressly agreed to live together, without being forced to do it. But this doesn't mean that every thing is automatically solved. As each one discovers the idiosyncracies of the other partner, conflicts arise and these needs mutual understanding, forgiveness and respect. Love alone does not suffice to iron out differences. In an arranged marriage, the same is true, and the couple may even have to work harder since they have no idea whom they are marrying. It is up to the couple to adjust to each other's habits and ways of doing things, which may or may not be according to each other's expectations. No one else outside of the marriage can remedy any conflicts except the couple themselves. So it doesn't matter whether they married because they loved each other or their parents arranged their union. The important thing is they cooperate for the success of their life as one for the rest of their lives.

Sometimes we have to face the reality.The things may not tend to the direction which we expect.I haven't get married,even haven't boyfriend yet.But I think my parents won't involve my marriage unless I haven't got married at 30 years old.Before 25 years old,every girl will choose to have love marriage;while after 25 years old,it's hard to say,especially girls.The choices are given us are less and less,so we have to accept the arranged marriage. In short,it depends on!

i didn't married yet but i think love marriage is much more better than arranged marriage as the two couples will live amazing life with their love which will make them happier

love should be the basis of marriage..! it's a very big problem if love isn't present in the marriage..! :D