wedding without rings...

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We cannot deny the fact that when deciding to get married, certain requirements need to be considered. Most of the time, a woman agrees to be tied up to a man because she follows her heart, in short she loves him. But to some extent, man marries a woman by following his head. Meaning, he is somewhat financial stable and affords to run a family and that he knows the woman could give him a good home. Sometimes, the woman or the man can be too agressive that it don't need too much time to decide for the wedding. Thanks God, there are lot of people around, like families of both sides, that lend their hands to fulfill the ceremonies. But can you just imagine a wedding without so much preparation, no witnesses, and even no wedding rings? For others, they might think it's impossible, some may think it's nonsense and some may comment it as a cool one. Well, that happened to me and my husband. Just like other girls, I also dreamed of wearing a white dress, walk in the aisle while cute children showers fresh red roses, and hear the ring of the bells signifying that today I would marry the man I love. Instead, we are married in the court without the knowledge of anyone except for the judge that wed us and the clerk who processed our document. But, I don't consider my marriage as different from the one that I've dreamed. Why? for almost eleven years, I have waited for that day. I've met my husband way back in 1997, a soulmate. He promised me everything except for marriage. I don't argue because at my young age, I follow my heart rather than my head. But I did not regret anything because my husband is almost perfect and he made his promise. We got one son that further entwined us together. However though, there are moments when I cry because I cannot own his name, good that there are existing laws that my child could follow his father's name as long as he is being recognized. The day when the right time came. He told me that we will get marry that same moment--no preparations, no invitations and no wedding rings. I could see some pain through the eyes of my husband because he promised me that he'll give me the best wedding I deserve in return for my patience of waiting for a long time. But my smiles lured such pain, for he knows I am the most happy woman ever-married. And you know people? Until now I still don't own a wedding ring, but it does not matter, for both of us know we own our hearts.