what is the best solution..

The moment they decide that they've had enough of being who they are, it becomes easy for them to change. All they need to do is constantly remind themselves that it doesn't really matter, and their perspective is probably wrong. Another antidote is to have faith. People who have complete faith that God will only do what is best for them, hardly ever get affected by the circumstances in life. They are relaxed and assured that everything will be alright