Why can`t friends just come out with it.

Hi Hope,I am happy to see you back,I hope you are getting a bit better with the young ones. As for your question Hope,I find it hard to deal with liers,the unfortunate part is,knowing when they have lied and what your responce to them is,If they deliberatly lie to you to get something from you and then once they have it,drop you,theis people are not friends. I am sorry you found one,but at least you know you have some honest friends as well that only wish the best for you. Take care,and we'll talk soon. John

I knbow exactly how it feels. When I was in college,I had wondered whether to trust everyone and get hurt or to distrust everyone and be safe. then I thought the other way will make me go mad as I will be in a constant state of distrust so I thought I will trust and make friends no matter if I get hurt. Now I think I was stupid, I should have kept a distance because now people take advantage of me and leave me hurting. Same thing probably you are goig throught too.I am here for you hope always, if you want we can talk. I have just come back from my in laws place and was so much mistreated that I am still hurting. may be we can share our grieves and feel better.

Hi honey, that sounds miserable! Missed you online but I've hardly been on myself! I would never purposefully avoid a friend and would tell them if I was upset. Sometimes I just need to be alone and cannot deal with other peoples lives but it doesn't mean that I don't care! I try to be honest in all my dealings as telling fibs is too complicated and I can't be bothered although I may sugar-coat things sometimes. I have no idea why people trick, lie and steal or why people are so hurtful for no reason, I just hope no-one ever feels that way about me! Friends that hurt us are sent into our lifes for a reason, it's good to see them leave our lives again when the lesson is learned.

What has happened my friend?. I hope everything is ok.I know I haven't been online much lately but as you know I am still looking for a job.I hope it isn't me who has upset you.I agree with you though,if someone is upset with me I would like to know about it,hopefully it can be sorted out and I can apologise if need be.Please know that I would never intentionally hurt you. Mega hugs to you my friend.

I'm sorry to hear that Hope. I myself haven't been on msn much just to check my emails. I am glad you understand why I myself am not on seen as you yourself suffer with the same thing. Big Hugs to you my dear. Take care of yourself.

HOpe....everyone has different 'levels' of friendship. But I do believe that if they are a true friend, they should just come out and say to you what is bothering them. You should also be able to ask upfront. I know with the majority of my friends, we say it like it is. We may not always agree on everything and we do do things to piss each other off, but once things are aired and out in the open all is good. If your so-called friend can not even bother to tell you what it is you have done to upset him/her, I don't really think they were a true friend to start with. Please don't wipe your hands of friends and friendship due to a few people who are not even worth your time. Eventually we all find friends who will be there for you through thick and thin. The rest just end up being passing aquaintances. And remember, all people come into our lives for a reason. It may be for a short time, long time or forever, but they do come and serve a purpose.

Exactly....I would rather be told up front about anything. I think its best to get things out in the open. You may or may not get angry and be peeved off for a little bit, but you get over it.